What Do You Think Of Gaybars?

[nufanm]

my two cents on gay bars... for the most part i don't like em at all... no offense to anyone who fits into these categories but it's true... u get all the semi naked twinks in their underwear dancing around, some even wear wings and glitter... u get the really bitchy, really ugly gay guys who think they own the place (like the one who punched my female friend in the face just because he was being a dick and i told him off... but instead of punching me, a guy, he decided to punch a girl)... u also get all the slutty menw ho are just there for sex and look at u like u're a slice of bread in an empoverished country (not to be offensive again, this is a joke!)...

however... there is one bar i do like to go to, it's more of a dive bar and it's sort of nasty... it's free, cheap drinks, and there's gogo boys dancing with men around them sticking dollars down their pants... not my thing to do but it's super fun to people watch...

so that's my take on gay bars.

but who knows, i live in LA... maybe elsewhere they're different

 

[RRRalph]

u get all the semi naked twinks in their underwear dancing around, some even wear wings and glitter... u get the really bitchy, really ugly gay guys who think they own the place u also get all the slutty men who are just there for sex and look at u like u're a slice of bread in an empoverished country.

I can imagining you telling us this story with such an dirty look on your face

One punched my female friend in the face just because he was being a dick and i told him off... but instead of punching me, a guy, he decided to punch a girl.

Damn, i would get very angry and he would feel my anger What did you do?

Why is it that everything gets lumped together and categorized as all the same. I have been to many gay bars. Some were good some sucked. But, they were all different.

So far most have the same experiences in gaybars. Off course there are bad and good ones. There are more: the straight friendly gaybars and the gay friendly straight bars. Those are diffirent as well.

 

[Soilwork]

my two cents on gay bars... for the most part i don't like em at all... no offense to anyone who fits into these categories but it's true... u get all the semi naked twinks in their underwear dancing around, some even wear wings and glitter... u get the really bitchy, really ugly gay guys who think they own the place (like the one who punched my female friend in the face just because he was being a dick and i told him off... but instead of punching me, a guy, he decided to punch a girl)... u also get all the slutty menw ho are just there for sex and look at u like u're a slice of bread in an empoverished country (not to be offensive again, this is a joke!)...

however... there is one bar i do like to go to, it's more of a dive bar and it's sort of nasty... it's free, cheap drinks, and there's gogo boys dancing with men around them sticking dollars down their pants... not my thing to do but it's super fun to people watch...

so that's my take on gay bars.

but who knows, i live in LA... maybe elsewhere they're different

this is the biggest line of horse shit ever.

I've been to a lot of gay bars in LA, and I've never seen people wearing glitter or wings. Nor have I seen anyone in their underwear unless it was an underwear party.

I have a feeling that you've never actually been to a gay bar and have watched a few too many episodes of Queer As Folk.


(Is this the first flame in a no-flame Bisexual zone?)

 

[sb]

I have a feeling that you've never actually been to a gay bar and have watched a few too many episodes of Queer As Folk.

I actually thinking they've been watching those c grade comedies were the straight guys accidentely walk into a gay bar. Queer as Folk would be a bit too risky for some

Gay bars are more often than not pretty similar to straight bars only with the focus on gay people instead of straight people....

 

[Arigeitsu159]

Unfortunately, a lot of gay guys who go to bars tend not be very respectful. Just because we're guys in a gay bar... they think it's okay to to touch and violate other guys at their discretion. I've had a few guys touch my butt in a gay bar, and I've grabbed their arm and looked at them eye and told them not to do it again.

Yeah... the sexual attention in a gay bar is so thick, you can cut it with a knife, but that doesn't give you the right to molest another guy.

 

[Soilwork]

I still thnk there's a lot of liars in this thread.

I've been to many gay bars over the last 20 years since I came out, and I think I've been felt up by someone who just felt me up out of nowhere maybe three times. I've been felt up many times, but very seldome just out of nowhere like that.

And, wether you like to think so or not, I'm one hot piece of ass.

I've been to plenty of straight bars filled with shitty music, drunken horny people rubbing up and down against each other, guys grabbing women inappropriately and... ok.. never people with glitter and wings. (but that guy's full of something I'm not allowed to talk about in this forum.)

I think it's more the inherrant homophobia amongst bisexual men which causes them to over-exagerate and flat out lie about things that have happened to them in gay clubs.


For the record, I hang out mostly at gay bars in LA that play hard rock and alternative, have an older crowd that's just there to have a good time and yes.. although some ass-grabbing happens, it's not unwanted or uninvited.

There are no thin, spindly twinks in glitter, although if they showed up, they'd be more than welcome to come party with us. (you see.. we're not all uptight and trying to hard to convince people that we're straight, so we'll party with anyone who wants to come party with us.)

 

[slobone]

Gay bars come in all shapes sizes and flavors, just like gay men. If you go to a bar known for cruising, and somebody cruises you -- duh! You've just been cruised!

If you don't like it, I'm sure there are plenty of heterosexual "meat markets" where you can harass the chicks to your heart's content.

 

[BiGuy8705]

Only went to one and I wasn't a big fan... especially the drag show.. that still freaks me out lol. One of the drag queens was all over me and I kept having to avoid her (him? shim?)

Going to goto another gay club with the bf this weekend for his bday, its more of a dance club... should be interesting, just because we have yet to go out anywhere and appear to be a couple since we're both in the closet.

 

[slobone]

What is this, musical threads?

Bars are fun when I'm in the mood. And I have been playfully groped a few of times. Call me kooky, but I was always intensely flattered.

Yeah, the only thing worse than going to a gay bar and being hit on is -- going to a gay bar and ___ _____ ___ __. (I think you can fill in the blanks.)

 

[Soilwork]

I hang out there a lot.

It's pretty fun, and yes.. I've been felt up there, but never without my obvious interest or consent.

I've had lots of fun at that bar and met lots of fun people. But the scenes being described here are taken right from a Police Academy movie. Not reality.

 

[Theyoungman]

New friends of mine took me to my first bar ever. IT was gay. I was just there to look and not do anything else. To tell you the truth, there were too many lesbiens who were more manly than the guys there.

It was ok, but its not for me.

 

[Kulindahr]

I've been to five different ones.

One is fairly wild, kind of a meat market, the dancers even shed everything. That was my first gay bar, and definitely not the sort for a guy's first gay bar -- I hadn't even finished my first drink when I got groped inside my pants.

One is really laid back, mellow... except for the drag nights and leather nights.

Another is... kind of degenerate. People dance in their underwear, and though I've never seen wings or glitter, there have been feather boas and oiled skin (those two don't go together, BTW).

Then there's my fave, the Red Cap Garage, which is mellow, friendly, and cheerful almost every afternoon and through Happy Hour, then has a quiet spell when people read and do laptop stuff -- and then evenings are all different, depending on the theme, the DJ, and what home-burned CDs the employees have brought (for themes, there's Latin night, karaoke, old faves night, etc.).

Lastly, the one that was a milestone for me, actually an "orientation-friendly" bar because Salem, Oregon isn't big enough to support a purely gay bar. if you want to know about the "milestone", look for something about the Southside Speakeasy in my blog.


So... I like gay bars. I like different ones, depending on my mood -- there are nights I want to get groped, or to grope, and nights I don't, times I want to be mellow, and so on. I like the Red Cap because more than anywhere else since I came out, it feels like home.
But I do wish I had some friends to go with -- that always makes any place more fun.

 

[Joshua_me]

Hmm...

Well, a gay bar can seem like paradise on Earth, or Hell on Earth, depending on many factors, including where you are emotionally in life, or if you're out with friends and just having fun, or going solo and just looking to pick someone up....

That *thumpa thumpa* music is nothing I'd ever listen to at home, but it can be loads of fun out on the floor, when everyone around you is getting into it, and stripping off their shirts and just celebrating the fact that we are all here together.

But, gay bars are not 'Babylon' like on 'Queer As Folk', they are often filled with horny and REALLY catty gay men that seem to take great pleasure in putting everyone they can see down, just for their shallow amusement.

You take the good with the bad.

These days, I doubt I'd go to one alone...it's just not worth the pain.

But, I'm always up to visit a new one....Just for a little attitude adjustment.

 

[Diodorus]

Haven't been to any in eons but they were usually fun.

 

[foolish082]

I wish there were gay bars that played the type of music I like. I club in Austin and the music there is appealing to a lot of the clientele, I suppose. I prefer hip hop & r&b. The gay clubs we have typically only play dance or something of that nature. I tolerate it, but it's definitely not something I'll listen to elsewhere.

I do love going to gay clubs though. Probably more than straight clubs. We always have a good time. Usually the people are really cool and open-minded. It's no different than any other club as far as your "types." Both straight and gay clubs have people who are full of themselves and people who hit on you when you wish they wouldn't. Guess it just depends on the night.

I also notice that gay clubs tend to attract women that I find more attractive than I usually find in the straight clubs AND there are less fights. If there was a gay club that played my type of music I'd be in heaven.

 

[blackbeltninja]

I don't understand why this was moved into the Bi forum either.

It was started in the old Bi/Straight forum and thus migrated into the new one. I think the idea is that the stuff in the old one - in the Naughty Bits area of JUB - needs to be more, well, naughty; and the more discussiony/chatty topics were moved into the new forum.

Alas, the new forum is in the no-flame zone; sometimes, I think people try to be edgy in no-flame zones purely to be perverse and see if they can push the envelope a bit because they've been asked not to.

-d-

 

[Soilwork]

On the outside chance this is serious....

Wonder what it is that made them think you were straight? What was so different from any of the other masculine men in the bar that they pegged you guys as straight. Or would even feel the need to get it confirmed. Or are you saying you were obviously so much more masculine than the gay guys there that you stood out? Why would a bartender what to get so personal with a guest when for all he knows you two could be on the down low and not seeking attention.

Because he's making it up. Haven't you seen how many posts by the men who post in this forum all seem to end with "I'm so straight acting that everyone thought I was straight unlike those big flaming faires who were covered in glitter and wearing wings and grabbing every ass that walked past and rubbing up against each other?"

Look... I too have been mistaken for straight before. But that seldom happens in a gay place because gay people know that gay people come in all shapes and sizes. They know that there are masculine gay men and feminine gay men and gay men who appear gay and gay men who don't.

the only people who get asked that are either the ones who are going out of their way to "look straight" (Ralph IS bisexual, don't ya know... he was probably cruising the girls and checking out their tits if this story has any truth to it) or show up with girls hanging off of them.

But I'm not even that bugged by his story. It's just yet another story where the moral is "Wow... I'm so butch that nobody can tell I'm gay so therefore I'm not a big fairy like you guys so I can feel a bit better about myself."

What bugs me is all the silly stereotypes (and in a forum where people seem to whine about stereotypes an awful lot). Gay bars come in all shapes and sizes. If all you've been to is twink dance bars in West Hollywood... then yes... you're going to come across bitchy queens who are wearing the latest fashions and dancing to annoying music. If you go to STRAIGHT bars aimed at a young crowd that likes to dance, you're going to find the same thing.

If you go to a gay bar that's aimed at an older crowd or a different crowd, you're going to find a very different thing. In LA we have gay rock 'n' roll bars, country bars, 80s dance music bars, stand up bars, leather bars, lounges... they're all diffferent.

(and nobody wears glitter and wings unless it's Halloween. That story is made up too.)

 

[RRRalph]

Wonder what it is that made them think you were straight? What was so different from any of the other masculine men in the bar that they pegged you guys as straight. Or would even feel the need to get it confirmed.

Or are you saying you were obviously so much more masculine than the gay guys there that you stood out? Why would a bartender what to get so personal with a guest when for all he knows you two could be on the down low and not seeking attention.

We had the same questions.

 

[Andreus]

well i want to know what the other option are for meeting guys who like sex with others guys...

i mean...

if gay bars are awfull and uncomfortable then where do you guys go to meet people?

where are you free to look at other guys, to know that they are of a simmilar persuasion as you, and ask them out on a date?

 

[sb]

if gay bars are awfull and uncomfortable then where do you guys go to meet people?

I've heard public toilets are quite popular.