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What Do You Think Of Gaybars?

Soilwork said:
not to be an asshole.. but woudln't you guys go to a straight bar?

I mean.. you'd be welcome anywhere, but you know.. just asking.
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Don't worry, no offense taken. I actually like your sacrasm and bluntness.


Trust me, Jasun. Just about every club in Atlanta is a gay club in some shape or form. There are so many folks on the "Down-Low" aka "Closet cases that fuck around anyways" around here that it is not funny. You would be surprised how many gay or bisexual dudes you would find in a straight club around here.

So it wouldn't even matter what club we go to.
 
caryeverwood said:
This post is sure to lay to rest all the bickering.

:)



A peek at life inside gay bars!



(and yes, fully choreographed dances happen every hour on the hour)
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you've gotta love Miss Swan ...

i haven't really been to a gay bar ... but if i did go ... i'd probably be like her ... no clue whatsoever on what to do ... then maybe dance the night away ... hehe
 
Soilwork said:
not to be an asshole.. but woudln't you guys go to a straight bar?

I mean.. you'd be welcome anywhere, but you know.. just asking.
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If I went to a straight bar in this town, I'd need to dress like a logger or farmer, talk like a logger or a farmer, and do absolutely nothing that might possibly make one of the men there suspect that maybe I like men -- or I'd be "welcome" to get thrown into the parking lot and backed over by a full-sized Chevy pickup with a load of firewood or something in the back.

I've been in one straight bar in Portland, though, and I felt nervous the whole time.
 
Kulindahr said:
If I went to a straight bar in this town, I'd need to dress like a logger or farmer, talk like a logger or a farmer, and do absolutely nothing that might possibly make one of the men there suspect that maybe I like men -- or I'd be "welcome" to get thrown into the parking lot and backed over by a full-sized Chevy pickup with a load of firewood or something in the back.

I've been in one straight bar in Portland, though, and I felt nervous the whole time.
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and that has what to do with what we were talking about?
 
I was talking to a bi man and woman who were talking about going to a bar.. and I asked them if they were go to together, why not just go to a straight bar.

your comment about how you have to dress like Paul Bunyon didn't really seem to relate to.. well.. anything.
 
The gay club here is somewhat of a travesty, rascism, extreme cliquishness, rampant drug use, etc. It can be fun if you go with the right people (i.e. bring a club with you to the club), but even then, it can fuck you up because people will go out of their way to hit on your friends and push you out of the way.

Maybe that's just me, I've never gotten hit on, so I could possibly be bitter.
 
suddenlyic said:
I went to my first gay bar a couple of weeks ago. Boy, that was a weird atmosphere. The minute my friend and I stepped in, we were stared at, analysed and gossiped about. I went to see what it was like, compare to the straight clubs that I normally went to. The music was crap. The damn DJ couldn't make up his mind, so he played the 80's then 90's then the recent hits, mixing techno and hiphop and every other godddamn genre. And it was impossible to enjoy my time with my friend without being felt up and motioned to go for a quicky. Some guys were either god damn annoying or down right stupid. They signalled for quickies( so many times I lost count) and when I tried to avoid eye contact with them, they stick their faces right up at mine and ask for sex. Seriously, the fools thought they could have anyone they wanted. What a bunch of assholes. That was my first and would be my last time at a gaybar.
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Sorry to hear that it was not a positive experience. Like straight bars there are many different types of gay bars - each has its own purpose. It sounds to me the bar you went to is a "cruise bar" where the intention is to pick up or get picked up. Before writing off gay bars completely, you might check out some other ones.

Good luck
 
TrdMrk said:
The gay club here is somewhat of a travesty, rascism, extreme cliquishness, rampant drug use, etc. It can be fun if you go with the right people (i.e. bring a club with you to the club), but even then, it can fuck you up because people will go out of their way to hit on your friends and push you out of the way.

Maybe that's just me, I've never gotten hit on, so I could possibly be bitter.
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With one possible exception, at the gay bars I've been to if you're caught with drugs, you're out, and banned at it and just about every other bar in the area, and other gay establishments get your name passed to them with a warning.

I've seen some racism, but not a lot, but definitely cliquishness!
 
Soilwork said:
I don't know what's funnier.. that he believes that or that he said he's "horrified" like a little old scandalized lady.
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happens at Rawhide in New Orleans.

Come on, people. Don't you think that, with 6 billion people on the earth, there are possibilities for more than a few sets of scenarios for a given situation?
 
I go, and I don't. There are bars I like, and there are bars I don't. I like more dive-esque bars because guys there are generally more laid back (read: older) and less catty, in general. I'm not so much on the dance club gay bars or ones with drag shows because:
1) I don't like drag shows. Nothing personal, just I don't like to watch guys in dresses, wigs, push-up bras, and pumps lip synching to songs I may like/not like, half expecting me to tip a dollar. Not my thing.
2) I don't enjoy watching twinks who think their shit doesn't stink ruin my mood with their cattiness. Granted this isn't EVERYONE--and I know this, I do--it's a general mood that appears to overtake each queeny little clique.
3) The DJ's idea of dance music--remixed pop tunes with that same lead synth in each song, and all the diva singers on every track, same kicks, same snares, same cymbals, hi-hats, same progression, all homogenous gay anthem fodder--gets to me after a couple of songs. I know there's a whole lot more to dance music, and I wish I could hear all its variety when I went out to a bar that intends to promote it.


This isn't made up. This is my personal opinion. We all have a capability of seeing things from different perspectives; this happens to be mine. Now I draw all of this from the negative experiences I've had. I'm very offended when I approach someone with the purpose of purely chatting someone up--I'm a nice guy and I'll talk to anyone about anything I can--and I am "dismissed". Happens so much more often than not that I'd rather just go to straight bars. Granted the conversations are a little less intelligent, at least they talk to ya. Maybe it's the lack of attraction factor (perceived or otherwise) with straight guys, but they're a little better with interpersonal relations.

Of course this isn't the norm. Of course there are guys in gay bars who will openly converse without assuming I'm trying to take them home. Of course there are guys in straight bars who will assume that because I'm talking to them I'm some kind of weirdo or "fag er som'mn." But the majority of my experiences with guys in clubby gay bars have been negative. Now when I go to more laid back gay bars, or bars that tout a mixed crowd, this happens a lot less. A HELL of a lot less. I guess older/bearish/whatever guys are a lot more prone to being conversative without all the crap involved.
 
gewhite3 said:
the Full Moon Saloon in Orlando. It's a great bar!!
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where is it?

I lived in Orlando like ten years ago...there were two bars I would go to: The Club at Firestone on Orange Avenue, and Southern Nights (forget where the hell it was, but right by East-West Expressway). I was ten years younger, so hanging out there wasn't all that bad for me.
 
An "OMG" moment.

I was in one of the bars I like recently, and here came a twink trio dressed in feathers -- thongs and feathers, I noticed on closer inspection.
I don't know how they did it, but those feathers looked like they were growing on them! They ran in mohawk-like rows around their bodies, all brilliantly colored.
And the portions of their skin that weren't feathered were covered in glittery micro-dust.
Oh -- their heads were done in long feathers that sort of arced out behind them.

I only wish I'd had my cam phone on me!
 
Holy shit is all I have to say - where do you people live so I can stay the hell away? 9 times out of 10, the people in the gay bars here are just out to have a good time. In fact, where I go to dance, (It is a "Gay Bar" - or so it calls itself) can be about 75% straight chicks with their boyfriends and 25% gay. My female friends get hit on more than I do.

I recently went to a straight bar because a friend of mine (a woman- I get asked if I am her boyfriend all the time) wanted to go support another friend of ours who was DJing there. I felt more catty bitchiness and my ears were burning the entire time there than I have *EVER* felt at a gay bar. We apologized to our DJ friend and left after about 30 minutes.

So I guess it really does depend on where you go, but I'll stick with my gay bars here, thanks.
 
Kulindahr said:
Where I am, they care a great deal -- I still get asked for I.D. at some, a phenomenon that hasn't occurred anywhere else for nearly a decade.
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I thought it would be different but gotta bust out the fake id!
 
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