What Do You Think Of Gaybars?

[Kulindahr]

Sure beats straight bars.

That's for sure!
In the straight bars I've been to, everyone is focused on seeming more macho than the next guy, or is chasing pussy, or both. In gay bars, I've had conversations covering everything from the latest traffic-control changes in town to computer programming to whether a rhubarb pie should have strawberries to.... all sorts of things. There's been a wide variety of people, including a lot of straight chicks (who usually say I don't set off their gaydar).

 

[Mutinous]

I've had pretty good experiences. I'm pretty blunt about it, call me an attention whore, but people look, if they don't come up to talk I don't bother. If they won't talk what's the point? I'm not fussed. Straight bars are def. more competitive, but sometimes I get the feel that in a gay bar you need to have a certain look to fit in.

You do get some creppy people though looking to prey on the young

 

[Kulindahr]

I've had pretty good experiences. I'm pretty blunt about it, call me an attention whore, but people look, if they don't come up to talk I don't bother. If they won't talk what's the point? I'm not fussed. Straight bars are def. more competitive, but sometimes I get the feel that in a gay bar you need to have a certain look to fit in.

You do get some creppy people though looking to prey on the young

A certain look often helps -- and that look can be different from one bar to another.

I'm interested in knowing what you mean by "creepy", and "prey", though. Sometimes guys who didn't wake up -- for whatever reason -- to who they really are until late only find people the age they "should have" come out to be attractive; I presume that's not a problem at straight bars, but with homophobia and gay-hatred still a common phenomenon, it'll be with us in gay bars for some time to come.

 

[Kulindahr]

Reading the above, I was reminded that my favorite bar is like three different places.
In the afternoons and early evening, it's a laid back, chill sort of place, really mellow; guys come to just hang out, with friends or alone, people meet people and chat, some bring laptops and work or play while having a few drinks and socializing some.
Most weeknights it's kind of like a friendly club, with people just having fun, not drinking a lot, talking in groups, dancing some, not really flirting at all.
But Tuesdays, with five vodka drinks for five dollars, it becomes a bit of a feel and grope, flirt, hook-up and head out scene. Friday and Saturday nights its a loud, crowded, serious dancing, hot and sweaty party atmosphere, with some flirting and some feeling, and the taxi companies making big bucks on people too wasted to make it home on their own.
So when you go can make a lot of difference.

 

[moxyhot]

Well after reading all this, I dont know what to do.
I was thinking about going to one sometime, but now I'm scared to go by myself. and I don't know anyone who would go with me, (nobody knows I'm bi). So yeah, i guess I'll just sit around for now.

 

[kayman23]

I think of them like all bars, a water hole. Anyways, I just don't go because bars and clubs aren't my thing.

 

[itsaigt]

I went to one not too long ago(3 weekends ago I think) with gay freind and actually a straight freind as well And had its odd the description is almost exactly as yours being stared at being groped (and not in the good way) but Dan( 100 % gay) did not enjoy it either he assured us all not theat way so i really dont know mayby we should both give it another try. Mayby I should fly over and well go bar hopping Hehe what do you think RRRalph?

 

[RRRalph]

I've never been to a gaybar but from what I hear and see on the internet, gay bars are not my thing.. specially the ones you describe here... I don't like hooking up with someone I don't know but if there's a gay bar to just chill out and have a couplre of drinks wit your buds then yeh, it's definately my thing...

I went to one not too long ago with gay friend and a straight freind and had its odd the description is almost exactly as yours being stared at being groped but Dan (100 % gay) did not enjoy it either. He assured us all not theat way so i really dont know mayby we should both give it another try.

I haven't returned to that particular gay bar cuz it wasn't my kind of bar, but from what i have heard there are so many diffirent kind of gay bars. Especially in Amsterdam (one hour drive from my town) there seem to be a great deal very relaxed gaybars, straight friendly gay bars and gay friendly straight bars. I think i will try one of those bars one time.

Mayby I should fly over and well go bar hopping Hehe what do you think RRRalph?

You seem like a cool guy to do some bar/club hopping

I just don't go because bars and clubs aren't my thing.

Why not? Have you done it before. It could be much fun!

 

[kayman23]

Of course, I've been to clubs and bars, and I realized real quick that it isn't my thing. I found the whole experience in any club or bar is so impersonal. I would much rather go to small get-together or go out to a restaurant with friends than go to a club or bar again.

 

[incognito604]

We met my cousin at a gaybar last week when we were in Houston. A gay cowboy bar to top that!! It wasn't packed and my cousin wanted me too meet his friends. I had the best time there , met his friends who I came to adore and can't wait to go back. So, as a female who loves her gay cousin to no end, it was a positive experience. Although one did feel my boobs up and told me I had a "nice rack". I took it as a complement and told him, baby they are all natural.