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A few days ago I was at a bar. In another room they were having a book signing so I walked over and was talking with the author (he was a local guy so it's not going to be a best seller and he was not famous). He was telling me about his wife and kids etc... In any event, later in the night I purchased one of his books as had some friends. As he gave it to me, he put his number in the book and said "I really would like to know your opinion of the book." He didn't give anyone else his number.

Now... I can be a little slow when it comes to the ways of the world, so I need your thoughts. Does he want my opinion or something else. Let me know.
 
First impression? He wants something else. What is a married guy giving out a phone number for, at least to someone he doesn't know? I'd say he's looking for some sort of hookup, and depending on your moral make-up, I'd say it's up to you whether to call or not. Personally, I'd stay out of it, but that's me.
 
you won't know until you call

call him when you read it

not every time a guy gives you a phone number does it mean he's hitting on you
 
Since he's got a wife and kids, I'd consider him offlimits. Even if he DOES only want your opinion, I'd say it's best to not go down that path. Scribble his number out to prevent yourself from changing your mind. :)

Lex
 
Giving out his private phone number to an unknown dude is neither immoral nor criminal, and yeah, in most cases it really means that you want to hook up.

We are all different and have different attitudes and values.

If I found the dude hot, I'd be on the phone with him in no time. No one has appointed me to be his morals' guardian. I also do no know anything about the arrangements and agreements he may or may not have with his wife? He is an adult. His family and his obligations are his business to worry about. Not mine.

However, if you see 'hook-ups', 'ONS', casual and recreational sex beyond the cherished committed monogamous LTRs as fully unacceptable and meaningless, I'd forget that number and move on.

SC
 
Read the book and call him if you are interested. You are not his Jeminy Cricket (conscience). If you call him, be sure you understand he may be experimenting and it may never be more than a booty call for both of you. You both should understand there is a family involved which can be hurt. Finally, if he drops you to go back to the family don't become a stalker like the Glenn Close character in Fatal Attraction. Be prepared to let him go.
 
If I found the dude hot, I'd be on the phone with him in no time.
No one has appointed me to be his morals' guardian.
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I also do no know anything about the arrangements and agreements he may or may not have with his wife? He is an adult. His family and his obligations are his business to worry about. Not mine.

I would also read the book and then call him to meet for lunch to discuss it. And then I would stop there. No matter what he wanted. Unless he is separated from his wife.

Otherwise it is too complicated and frankly, shabby.
 
Is giving a phone number, inviting conversation, really that unusual today?

Writers are sometimes eager for feedback. Maybe he thought you seemed smart and perceptive.

Assuming he wants something sexual is a big leap. He told you he has a wife and kids; when I tell someone I have a partner that's usually not a pick-up line.

If you liked him, read his book, call him and have a conversation. It might be fun, might be interesting, might lead to a friendship. And if he pursues something you don't want, be honest with him.
 
NickCole said:
Is giving a phone number, inviting conversation, really that unusual today?

Writers are sometimes eager for feedback. Maybe he thought you seemed smart and perceptive.

Assuming he wants something sexual is a big leap. He told you he has a wife and kids; when I tell someone I have a partner that's usually not a pick-up line.

If you liked him, read his book, call him and have a conversation. It might be fun, might be interesting, might lead to a friendship. And if he pursues something you don't want, be honest with him.
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Thank you.

Exactly.
 
If I found the dude hot, I'd be on the phone with him in no time.

No one has appointed me to be his morals' guardian.
I also do no know anything about the arrangements and agreements he may or may not have with his wife? He is an adult. His family and his obligations are his business to worry about. Not mine.
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Apologies for the truncated quote in the previous post. I'm all hopped up on Krimble I guess.

I also wanted to say that if he has kids and they don't know about Daddy's fondness for cock, it is almost the worst kind of betrayal if you sexually hook up with him. No matter what arrangement he has with mommy.
 
rareboy said:
Apologies for the truncated quote in the previous post. I'm all hopped up on Krimble I guess.

I also wanted to say that if he has kids and they don't know about Daddy's fondness for cock, it is almost the worst kind of betrayal if you sexually hook up with him. No matter what arrangement he has with mommy.
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Kids do not own their parents and are not appointed controlling authorities of their parents' sexual lives. Having children does not mean that you have surrendered your freedom to be gay/bi; to divorce and possibly re-marry. The same is true for the parents: they should not feel betrayed, if their kids turn gay/bi/trans or whatever. Sexuality is a deeply personal matter and as such actually, inalienable.

SC
 
Yeah I agree. You should read the book, and then call him to give your opinion. and if he had another reason for giving you his number, then am sure he will let you know. But like the others said, you should not get involved with a man that is married and still in a relationship. If he is interested in anything sexual or something, then make a effort to find out about his relationship status.
 
Thanks everyone.

I'm going to take everyone's advice and read the book. After that... I still don't know. He is married. He does have kids. I think he is off limits for more than a book review. So... if the book is GREAT he gets a call back. Anything less and he is on his own.

Thanks again for all your advice.
 
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