What does it mean if my partner comes too quick?

[Sammael]

I'm 26 years old and I only had sex 2 times before(not counting oral sex). Today I had my third hookup for anal sex and it was with a 48 years old bisexual guy. I was going to be the bottom. He was horny all the time before we started sex. I applied some vaseline to my asshole but he couldn't wait to do it more than a few seconds. So he put his penis in and after a few seconds he said he came. He was a bit disappointed and embarrassed about it. Half an hour before the sex he told me that he sometimes fucks a certain woman all night. So why did he cum too quick with me? Do people cum quick just because they're too horny or is there a possibility that there's another reason? I'm asking because if I did something wrong, I should learn about it so it doesn't happen again. For example, does vaseline make them cum quicker? If I was the top and came too quick, I would just wait awhile and do it again but since he didn't mention it, I didn't ask either because he would be even more embarrassed if something goes wrong again.

Also I'm wondering, who generally comes quicker? Middle aged(around 40-50) guys or young(20-25) guys? I thought that young guys would come quicker but this 48 year old guy came in like 5 seconds(he was very horny before the sex though).

Edit: He also told me that I was too tight. Could that be the reason? Do people come quicker if it's tighter? Because I heard that when you fuck an asshole you come quicker than when you fuck a vagina because an asshole is tighter and it gives you more pleasure. Is that true?

 

[bokan800]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

Maybe he gets turned on by you more than by a woman.

 

[Sammael]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

Well the woman he fucked was 39 years old but no matter how the woman is, if he fucked her from night to morning like he said then he must have cum at least one time in the first hour and then continued sex again.

 

[Ramindra]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

Vaseline? Condoms? Hookup?

 

[loperamide]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

I would not get too worked up about it. If he came quickly all that means is he was really turned on and in dire need of an orgasm. If anything you were too good if he came pre-maturely.

Think about it, if he came while having sex, regardless of the time frame, it was obviously fine.

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

Vaseline- not water based nor safe with condoms.

Condom? Where was the condom?

 

[yeahman21]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

If I were you, I wouldnt be having sex until I was properly educated. Vaseline is not a good form of lubrication, and its extremly dangerous that he didnt use protection.

 

[Jerry]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

Just means he's either horny or a bad lay. Or both.

 

[Jerry]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

If I were you, I wouldnt be having sex until I was properly educated. Vaseline is not a good form of lubrication, and its extremly dangerous that he didnt use protection.

Agreed, 100%

 

[G-Lexington]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

No on vaseline.
No on no condom.
And yes, he was probably just really excited and horny. It happens.

Lex

 

[Eagle653]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

I doubt that his coming quickly had anything to do with you. So, in answer to one of your questions, I wouldn't feel guilty about it.

Second, in general, younger guys come more quickly than older guys. But, there are a lot of exceptions. I don't think his coming soon was a function of his age. It was probably that he was excited and/or found you very attractive and/or found the whole experience with you very erotic.

Anyway, I think it's pretty safe to say that his premature ejaculation was not your fault.

 

[thelaw2047]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

I think it just means that he was so into you that it escalated beyond his control. And that to me is beautiful .

 

[jjmc]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

My advice: tell your partner that if at first he doesnt succeed, dust himself off and try again! TRY AGAIN!

 

[yeahman21]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

My advice: tell your partner that if at first he doesnt succeed, dust himself off and try again! TRY AGAIN!

But with KY and a Trojan.

 

[jjmc]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

But with KY and a Trojan.

Oh absolutely!

 

[Twistedup]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

wait you can come too quickly?

 

[M4P]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

You turned him on. He was into it. Give him some time. Eventually he'll be able to control himself and it will last longer

 

[lyconthrope]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

depends on your defenition of "too quick" as long as he finished you off when he was done what's the diff?

with time and practice both he and you will last longer but ultimately as long as everyone ends up satisfied then it doesn't really matter who got there first, its not a race after all.

could work in your favour! he finishes first and gives you a hand and by the time your done he is ready for round 2

 

[Moogle86]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

For starters, you should be a lot safer when it comes to your sex life. As for his reaching orgasm quickly, it could just be that he had so much tension built up already that just the slightest bit of pleasure caused him to explode... pun intended.

Otherwise, I think times vary from person to person. One particular person I used to regularly lasted quite a while, which I think is nice when you have feelings about the person, as it gives you more time to "connect." Just my two cents...

 

[954dude]

Re: What does it mean if my partner comes too quic

Premature ejaculation? Sex is too good to handle? Vaseline is just not right?

It can be many things. Work together to make the sex last. Make smarter and better decisions.