What encouraged you to come out?

[youngneil]

So I love Showtimes The L Word. **please don't take away my gay card** I was in 5th grade when Queer as Folk was aired so I had no idea about that kind of programming. But a lesbian friend got me hooked on the show last year, even though it was ended, and I loved it. It made realize a lot about myself and that I wasn't the only one going through all this bs. I suddenly had the confidence to come out and everything is great so far.

What suddenly made you say Fuck It?!! I am who I am

 

[TickTockMan]

What suddenly made you say Fuck It?!! I am who I am

Nothing made me come out. I was never in (hiding). When someone asked me I told the truth.

 

[bluboi89]

Nothing made me come out. I was never in (hiding). When someone asked me I told the truth.

yeah same, i told the truth when someone asked me, which happened twice only anyway.
i never went out there yelling im gay, or telling someone just for the sake of it.

i hope one day ppl won't fucking care about this shit anymore
there's alot of ppl who want sex with the same sex, why is humanity making such a big deal out of it. fucking church shit

and no, ther's no fucking devil or an old white man telling you what to do and what not to do.
We humans are in control of everything, the only moral everyone should have is compassion. u don't need fucking praying for that
the ppl who go to church are the worst christians anyway. what's the point of being an annjoying mean prick and than ask god for forgiveness? seems so idiotic..
yeah just imagine someone forgives you, right o.o

and yes church supports the hiding of our sexuallity, as if we killed someone and musn't tell.. O_O

 

[youngneil]

So guys the first time anyone ever asked if y'all are gay you told the truth? I'm jealous. I'm not being sarcastic btw but I wish it were that easy. How did that go? Fucking church shit lmao so true

 

[Racer Dave]

When I realised I was no longer okay been single and wanted to start dating and look for a relationship. Of course I could have just stayed closeted but how anyone can have a comfortable relationship while trying to hide it from the world I couldn't imagine, no offence meant to those who do manage to do it

 

[bluboi89]

i was 19, and the 1st time that girl asked me, i didn't anwser right ahead.. but evetually i told her the truth ;D
ofc she spread the information later on but i was in a ''i don't give a shit anymore'' mode ;D

i kinda regret it, cos she told others. but i won't atleast get burned, or hang.. right guys??? ;OOO

 

[AlmondMilk]

I decided to talk to a select few friends about it. Just because I'm out to some people doesn't mean I have to be out to everyone.

 

[healingduck]

It had a lot to do with my love for penis....

 

[Ram]

I decided to talk to a select few friends about it. Just because I'm out to some people doesn't mean I have to be out to everyone.

Same.......................................

 

[blackbeltninja]

I had to when I met the boyfriend and we moved from FWBs to boyfriends. I had to do right by the guy and didn't want to keep him my dirty little secret, so I moved my plans to tell everyone forward.

Mixed responses, to be honest, but good so far.

But before that, if anyone asked I told them honestly. Only 1 person asked, though.

-d-

 

[TickTockMan]

So guys the first time anyone ever asked if y'all are gay you told the truth? I'm jealous. I'm not being sarcastic btw but I wish it were that easy. How did that go? Fucking church shit lmao so true

Circumstances made it easy for me. I have autism so the stuff that goes with that for me lessened my burden (read quote below). On top of that I grew up with two mothers. I knew there would be issues with some people, but didn’t care what any of them thought.

The reason for this is there are very few people I care about (in general, what they think, etc). Because of that those that I do care about I would never lie too. Those that I don’t care about; I don’t care what they think of me. Why should I go to the trouble of making up a lie for them when the truth is so much easier? After all once you lie you have to remember the lie. Depending on how you look at it I am either a nice guy or an ass. Maybe somewhere in between.

This is one of the reasons I find high functioning autism nice.

As for how I came out the first time. . .

First time I said something was summer of 2001 when I was 19. I had just came home and my mother, her girlfriend and her ex girlfriend were on our porch. My mother said something that annoyed me that was suppose to be a joke about liking guys, so I “outed” myself because I knew she wouldn’t know what to say.


It was great to see three women’s mouths hang open.


I “came out” again though to my mother when I was 25 because she said she forgot. We were just talking and I said something about a guy. It was strange coming out twice to the same person.

 

[FanofFiction]

I came out to my mom when I was listening to the Scissor Sisters. My friend urged me that the next time I hear Take Your Mama, that I should come out to her. And then I did. I said that I'm gay without even meaning to. It just popped out.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

I came out to my friends during my Freshmen year at college. For about a week straight, I had been turning and tossing in bed reflecting upon somethings. No one really knew me as myself. Being in the closet allowed me to hide several things about myself. I just became a well guarded person, even today that remains. In the midst of this, my best friend since the 8th grade had called me up to tell me about how her recent first time experience. She was growing up, and I figured it was my time to as well when she asked me 'so what about you? Meet any girls?' I started with her, then my other friend from home, and then told my friends at school when they asked. Now it is so natural to just tell me when they ask if I have a girlfriend or anything of that nature.

I came out to my big sister the following summer because she had asked. I wanted to confide in my big sister, so I told her. Then I told my mom a few weeks later because she kept irritating me about being absent of a girlfriend. My motivation was just that it was time. If I didn't do it then, the road to actually doing it would have been long. I didn't want to pussyfoot around anyone.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Defiance.bla-de-blaaaaaaaaaaa COMIC SAAAAAAAAAAAAANS!!!!

 

[Musik2400]

Well, I didn't realize I was gay till a few months before my 18th birthday. After I turned 18 a combination of finally accepting that I was gay, and feeling I couldn't actually be an adult unless I was open and honest with and about myself made me tell my mother.

 

[blublud]

I had always been attracted to other boys and their penises since I was 5 or six, but it wasn't until I was about 16 that the word "homosexual" was related to that behavior in my mind. I didn't dive into the closet, but I didn't come out blaring either. I just didn't know how to process it. I didn't hide and I answered truthfully if someone seriously asked, but I remember very few asking.

When I was 20, my mom tried to help me with some depression (over a boy). I told her and nothing more was said of that.

Later, at 20, I was called for a draft physical into the Army. I checked the box "homosexual" and was given a deferment.

Two years later, I was recalled for the draft and this time I didn't check the box and argued with them to draft me. They did and I got my security clearances just fine. I was personally decorated with a commendation medal and was discharged honorably.

The years passed and I continued to just continue, not blaring but not really in the closet.

Fast forward MANY years when I fell in love with a boy. We always hung together and when we decided to make it formal, I finally came totally out to all but my dad.

I never realized what a relief it would be to lay it all out bare for the world to know. I've received absolutely no negative reactions to this revelation. I lost no friends because of it and in fact many were quite supportive.

 

[doctorsun]

I developed an irrational, overwhelming, all-consuming crush on a guy right at the beginning of my senior year of high school. I had known I was gay since I was 11 but I was really unhappy about it. I would have given anything to be straight. Up until that point, I had of course been attracted to guys but I had never really LIKED anyone. It was always just about shamefully thinking about them while jacking off or fantasizing about them during class. I had never really had feelings for a guy. When I developed my crush, though, it scared the shit out of me. I never wanted to have such a strong emotional attraction to guys. Not having that was the one thing that kept me going through all of my years of hating being gay. I could always say "it's just physical...I don't LOVE men..." But that all changed and I didn't know how to handle it. I fell into a really deep depression. A lot of other things were going on at the time and when all of this came along, it seemed like my life just came to a screeching halt and every bad thing in my life caught up to me. I came really close to killing myself but realized that I was being ridiculous. I decided to tell my best friend at the time and it was the most amazing experience of my life. The sense of relief was indescribable.

 

[SuperDave]

Getting to know my first boyfriend horizontally had a lot to do with it lol.

 

[ChickenGuy]

JUB.

Yup.

Coming out (and many other things) would never have happened in my life without this site.

 

[geloge]

My friends trying to find me a girlfriend