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If this is true the lie is the least of it. Th real problem is the stalkerish, deliberate, petty, cruel and vindictive attempt to destroy the life of a guy he knew for an hour.

I suspect this is a tall tale - I certainly hope so because if it isn't - police probably need to be involved.

Think about it, why would anyone come in here with a story like that then claim to be misunderstood. He's either after attention, or he seriously needs psychiatric help.
 
Silvirain said:
I don't feel like anyone understands me or cares too. I've never had anyone sit down with me and just listen. I would try to explain myself a little clearer but honestly it doesn't matter. Anyways he emailed back and asked why I sent a link to his a4a page.

I told him:

Yesterday me and my friend were drinking and we were on a4a. We were looking at a bunch of profiles and I thought I recognized yours so I checked my Facebook and saw it was you he thought it was funny. He decided to message it to people on your friends list. I felt bad and went and blocked the people hoping they wouldn't see it, guess I was wrong.
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It's all about poor little you. "I don't feel like anyone understands me or cares too." Ever wonder why that is? You deliberately went out of your way to try and cause as much trouble for him as you could. All because he met you for an hour and didn't want anything more to do with you. If you came across to him in person the way you come across to us around here it's no wonder he ditched you. You thought it was "funny". Ok wise guy. Lets turn this around. PM me your name and tell me something you want kept private so I can go on your fb page, try to anonymously post said information and then let all of your friends know it. Let's see how funny you think that is shall we.

Dude. Your in need of some serious help. You "outed" him for no reason. You met, it didn't work out for him and he walked away. He didn't do ANYTHING to you. You on the other hand have a temper tantrum and go looking to hurt the guy as much as you can. pathetic.

Steven.
 
You are walking around with a whole lot of hurt. I suggest you attempt to get to the bottom of that in order to heal. You won't be able to function in a healthy manner until you clean ip your past. The positive thing here is you did wrong and admitted it to us. No one can make your life better. Focusing on others takes away your pain for the moment, like a band aid. Whatever wounds you have need attending to.
 
Silvirain said:
I don't feel like anyone understands me or cares too. I've never had anyone sit down with me and just listen. I would try to explain myself a little clearer but honestly it doesn't matter. Anyways he emailed back and asked why I sent a link to his a4a page.

I told him:

Yesterday me and my friend were drinking and we were on a4a. We were looking at a bunch of profiles and I thought I recognized yours so I checked my Facebook and saw it was you he thought it was funny. He decided to message it to people on your friends list. I felt bad and went and blocked the people hoping they wouldn't see it, guess I was wrong.
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Wow, you're wondering why people are not understanding you and then you write about how you lied about the entire situation to that guy rather than take responsibility for your actions? Well, I'm done helping you on this matter.

This forum is a two-way street. This is a no-flame zone; however, it is legitimate to expect criticism when one seeks advice and completely ignores the wisdom given. We really do care about you, and want to help you. However, if you are going to ignore what everyone on this board has to offer as advice for you, then complain about the outcome of your situation, you are deserving of your unhappiness. :rolleyes:
 
This is a no flame zone so my post will be nicer than it should.
You have refused to take responsblity for your cruel and stalkerish actions and have gotten angry when you people have called you on them.
Furthermore, you have ignored advice given to you while expecting us to feel sorry for you.
Not going to happen. It's your own bed that you made, now it's time for you to lie in it.
 
I did something similar when I was younger. I outed someone after they rejected me because I was angry. It was wrong.

What you did was wrong too.

As the guy above said "You are free of the situation." So, you should just let it go and control yourself better next time.
 
Silvirain said:
I don't feel like anyone understands me or cares too. I've never had anyone sit down with me and just listen. I would try to explain myself a little clearer but honestly it doesn't matter.
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i understand you, you're (deleted).

you tried (and maybe succeeded, who knows) to out a guy cuz he didn't want you. wtf is wrong with you?! that's the fucking lowest thing ever. outting someone out of spite. sickening.
 
I definitely suggest therapy for you.

Based on your anger issues that we read about on this forum every week or so, there is no question that you need to get some control over your behaviour because it is not only self-destructive, but poses a real threat to the people you interact with.

I'm serious about this.

I know that no one here wants to be reading about you doing something similarly damaging a few weeks from now when you come here looking for understanding and sympathy.
 
Indeed Rareboy..and I'll add this to what I said Silvir..from what I've seen here, you have all the trademarks of someone who would been abusive in a relationship.
If you truly want to change, then go see a therapist for your issues.
And quit trying to get sympathy for actions you know are wrong.
 
pai mei said:
i understand you, you're (deleted).

you tried (and maybe succeeded, who knows) to out a guy cuz he didn't want you. wtf is wrong with you?! that's the fucking lowest thing ever. outting someone out of spite. sickening.
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+1 on this. I've seen a couple of this guy's threads in this forum and he really just is that: (deleted).

The guy isn't asking for advice, he's just asking for attention and people to support him regardless of the crap he does. I mean, he isn't even really remorseful of what he's done here, he's only remorseful because he got caught.
 
xterranx said:
+1 on this. I've seen a couple of this guy's threads in this forum and he really just is that: a spoiled little bitch.

The guy isn't asking for advice, he's just asking for attention and people to support him regardless of the crap he does. I mean, he isn't even really remorseful of what he's done here, he's only remorseful because he got caught.
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agreed. i mean, we all have our own issues, everyone does, but with this story he's now actively and maliciously trying to out guys for next to nothing.

THAT makes me sick.
 
As someone with custody issues that could be complicated by being outed in an uncontrolled way, what you did chills me to the core.

Not everyone likes each other. Some people are cruel and maybe you perceived what he did that way. You clearly felt hurt by him. But being treated cruely is never an excuse to be cruel in return. Doing so rots our souls.

In time I sincerely hope you learn that.
 
Silvirain said:
You guys are mean :(
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Not even half as mean as outing someone you barely knew because he didn't pay enough attention to you. Not even a tenth as mean.

In fact, I think most people here are holding back in the hopes that by being so polite you'll have a chance to learn from your mistakes. I wonder if you'll notice this golden opportunity or miss it. Hmmm?
 
^^ you're getting honest feedback on YOUR actions which were bad to begin with and then you made them worse

I don't know you or if this is a common thing for you or perhaps a bad moment or series of moments

but it seems like you're not seeing things as they truly are and could use professional support

go for it
 
Silvirain said:
You guys are mean :(
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:rolleyes: Mean? Wonder what you'd say if I showed your parents your online activity.

You know, I'm starting to wonder that maybe perhaps when these guys meet you, they really see you for what you are (full of drama) which is probably why you get rejected so often. Just saying-- guys are guys, gay or straight, and face it: we don't like drama. You're pulling this kind of crap on guys you're not even in a full-blown relationship with yet, what are you going to do when you are in one and then it falls apart? I don't even want to think about it.

You need to grow up-- between your whiny complaints about why your online hook-ups aren't leading to LTRs, why your mom is so clingy when she's in Vegas with you, etc. etc. etc., it's just absolutely ridiculous (I know, I can't believe I remember all these-- probably because they're so appalling). Nobody likes to date a kid.

If you want people who are yes-people to tell you "omg, what you did was so FIERCE" and all that jazz about your bullshit, I can tell you this forum is the wrong place for that.

Sometimes, I'm really embarrassed for my age group. Peace out.
 
Silvirain said:
I've been through hell lately because people have hurt me. I've opened up to a lot of people and they've all hurt me. I do something in retaliation and now it's not okay.
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Why?

Because you are finding that being a spoiled child isn't cutting it anymore?

Because your mother forced you to go to Las Vegas?


I think that the only person you really need to be opening up to is going to charge your parents about $200.00 to listen to why you are so damaged. And I have to say, it will be a good investment to make.

In your present state, I'll repeat again, you are dangerous. To yourself and others.

You haven't taken any advice here over a number of months to heart on a number of issues. You only reappear a few days or weeks later with a freshly minted drama in order to hopefully find validation and support for your reprehensible and juvenile behaviour.

This time, you crossed a line so seriously, with no regard for the potential consequences, that you have likely forfeited any fragment of support you might have expected.

This is an intervention. We want to help you. But you need to help yourself. And that means finding a responsible counsellor who will help you figure out how to grow up.
 
Silvirain said:
You guys are mean :(
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Once again, the poor me pitty parade. :-({|=:-({|=:-({|=:-({|=:cry::cry::cry::cry::cry:

me, me, me, me, me. The world doesn't revolve around nor does it care about you. You have to earn respect, trust and love. It's not handed to you. Stop being a selfish little child and actually care about someone else. MAYBE, just MAYBE if the sun, the moon and the stars are aligned you might find someone that will actually care about you. Judging by what you say and how you treat people. I wouldn't hold my breath.

Steven.
 
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