What If I'm Of The Boring Gay Type?

[Leccocx]

I don't like to drink, I don't dance (too shy to do it) and I really don't like the music that is played at bars, discos, night clubs, etc...

Most people meet in there, and hang out in those places to have some fun. But why should I pay just to sit in a chair all night long while I watch other people have some fun? Maybe that's their idea of fun: getting wasted, dance all night while rubbing with others and making out.

But I'm not that type of guy. I'm a boring one. So I was wondering... are there any places or activities for boring people like me? There must be... but I can't get any ideas.

I know that not all people think like this and do those things, but at least where I live, that's people's idea of "fun".

 

[Corny]

You already got good two good answers here. Other than that I might add that there are lots of different bars and clubs, not every club plays that standard r'n'b techno 80s gay mix that you here almost every where else i don't like that either, but still i like to go out dancing/partying very much - in clubs, at parties that play my kind of music.

 

[Lube]

Leccox, don't worry there are plenty of gay guys like you.

The advice you got here was great. I'm part of a Movie Bear club, and they are the funnest guys around.

You could also try Meetup.com to find others with similar interests in your area.

 

[Puzuzzu]

we're very similar, like soulmates
i like reading though, if you do, we're good

 

[G-Lexington]

You don't drink? You don't smoke? What DO you do? Subtle innuendos follow - there must be something inside.

Yeah, not being interested in gay clubs doesn't mean you're a freak, any more than not being interested in NASCAR makes you a freak among the straight set. It's simply ONE aspect of gay social life. A very prominent one, but still just one. Do some digging online, or pick up the local free gay newspaper (most towns have one) and look through the events and clubs listed. Something there will appeal to you.

Lex

 

[slickery]

You're not into the "scene." Don't worry you aren't the only one.

And pay, you shouldn't have to pay to go to any bar, unless there is something on.

You don't drink, which is fine and respectable, but not dancing because you are too shy? I think you should work on that. I used to not have that much fun out at the bars, and I think it was because I was too nervous to dance. Then I discovered that it was all in my head, and I actually can dance. Hell anyone can dance. Also, not all of us go to bars just to hook up, you can't look at it like that.

It also depends who you are going out with that can drastically effect the funness of going out. Like others said, join a group, do an activity, meet some people. It's my philosphy that all it takes is one new friend, and they will open up a door to so many other people. One thing though you have to remember is that you have to be receptive to meeting new people.

 

[Leccocx]

Thanks a lot everyone! You've been really helpful.

Yeah, I get nervous when I try to dance... I should practice that x) .

And I'll try to join some group. I really have no idea where to start (because as far as I know, there are no gay clubs at my school and I don't know of any gay newspaper... yet), but I guess the internet is the best place. =)

 

[flamingbunny3606]

Okay, I'm just gonna say first off, most of the guys you meet at the clubs don't want to date, they just want ya for the 3 gets, get home, get off and then get out so if you're looking for a real date the chances of finding that at a club is really slim. Just cuz you're not into the scene doesn't mean you're boring, you just gotta meet people who are interested in the same types of things you are. And there's no need to be shy, trust me, if you're confident most guys won't care if you know how to dance or not, I know how to dance to pop and hip-hop but electronic isn't really my thing either so I feel your pain when it comes to the music.

Best of luck mate, you'll find someone, don't even worry.

 

[Luka]

Of course there is. Good lord, you don't have to go to a gay bar to meet gay men. Join an athletic gay club like gay hockey, gay soccer, gay hiking, art appreciation, or a dozen other things. A poetry reading class. Or tons of other stuff dude.

ya but to find those types of things u need to be close to a big city.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

I've always belived the same person can flower in some settings and wilt in others. It's important to know what types of settings make you comfortable enough to release your imagination. Even so, it's also good to occasionally step outside of your comfort zone and try new things.

 

[martin6]

there are no gay clubs at my school and I don't know of any gay newspaper... yet),

Girrrrrrrl, the campus newspaper is like the gayest place on campus!!!

I've met more gay writers than I can count.

Also going to bars/clubs doesn't just mean the bounce up and down and get freaky kind. There are jazz, karaoke, rock, indie bars all over... even in po-dunk Saint Augustine, Florida.

 

[EwanSF]

Depends what you define as boring. Personaly, a guy like you would hold litteraly fuck all interest for me. But my general lifestyle is often described by some guys as banal, stereotypical and boring. Just depends what yer into man.

 

[Jory]

I am the ultimate most boring Gay Hell I am the most boring person in the Universe

 

[Jory]

Nobody on this board is more boring than me. @ 23 years old I spend most Saturdays inside playing Scrabble and drinking until I don't know how to spell anything.

Hell I got you beat I play Monopoly against the computer

 

[Jory]

That ain't shit, I haven't gotten laid in almost 4 years. Once a week my assistant Rosalina has to come dust the cobwebs outta my ass and off my dick. Nobody who wears leather ass-out pants can be classified as boring. I'm waaay boringer than you.

Those pictures? Just smoke and mirrors , smoke and mirrors that's all

 

[darkdreamerx]

Well, I guess if that boring I'm boring too!

I don't drink (just doesn't turn my crank), and I dance very badly (think of Elaine from Seinfeld, okay maybe not THAT bad ) I'm 18 and I still go to parties and you know it makes me feel responsible albeit a little "uptight" with my friends. We still all have a great time.

My personal advice is to listen to the people in this thread -- there are some great ideas here.

 

[jspk]

i'm the boring type... too

u can hang out at malls, coffee shops, parks, go hiking, go museums, walk around down towns, gym, beach, etc...