What if you only think you like guys?

[Nomenclature]

Meh, well, like I said I think it'll be awhile before I get results. I have no desire for hook up sites, too robotic. I'd want it to be SOMEWHAT organic, like someone I've met at a party or something at least. I like the whole build up to these things (at least with women) and I don't like the idea of sending an email like "OK WHERE ARE MEETING UP TO FUCK?"

You come across as a very nice, intelligent, "real" guy who has his best intentions in mind; you're not out to just to whore around or be self-destructive, and I like that about you.


Regardless of when it happens. . .or even if it happens, we're rooting for you.

 

[redburn13]

I was in this exact same situation last year. I jacked off to gay porn, but I wasn't sure if I wanted to fuck guys in real life.

I met a guy on craig's list just to see. He showed up and he was a really attractive guy, a male model. He was heavily involved in his church and was in the closet. I sucked his dick. At first it felt a little strange, but I got into it. After that he rimmed my ass. It was great. He stuck his tongue all the way in my asshole. I got off really hard.

I moved shortly after this so I didn't hook up with him again. But after the encounter I had a lot more questions. Was the only reason I enjoyed it because this kid was so physically perfect? Was it because he was so submissive and did everything I wanted? Would I get the same pleasure from other kinds of encounters? But I definitely learned that I liked gay sex, at least under some conditions.

 

[bankside]

What if I only think I like roast beef & gravy?

 

[alli-berri]

EDIT: Anyone know how to get your blog entries out of "draft" category and to show up on your home page?

Did you tick the "Blog Posts" checkbox on your "Edit Homepage Settings" page?

 

[jasoncrew03]

I've thought about hook ups and stuff, and I know there are plenty of guys on this site that can walk into a sauna, have a good time, and leave. I can't. I know I'd feel empty afterwards

That sucks.

 

[clicker]

I made a quaint little blog entry if anyone is interested. It more or less rehashes what I've said in other posts, but if you're interested in getting some thoughts about how straight guys suddenly want to fuck men, you should take a look.


EDIT: Anyone know how to get your blog entries out of "draft" category and to show up on your home page?

So where's your blog post address?!

 

[Nomenclature]

Hey, wait a minute!


He's just trying to trick us into viewing his blog, for advertising space.


How could you?!

 

[AsianDream]

I made a quaint little blog entry if anyone is interested. It more or less rehashes what I've said in other posts, but if you're interested in getting some thoughts about how straight guys suddenly want to fuck men, you should take a look.


EDIT: Anyone know how to get your blog entries out of "draft" category and to show up on your home page?

You need to activate blogs on your homepage settings and use Edit Blog Categories to create a category (otherwise you've only got drafts)

 

[AsianDream]

Thanks AsianDream. i still don't know how to make it appear under my avatar, but here's the link to the blog entry I wrote a few days ago:

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/view.php?blog=346165&id=19439&title=thinking-back

Nothing terribly exciting, but there it is.

I find it very interesting how people’s sexuality can change – mostly because of my own quite sudden experience (though from the opposite direction).

I’d guess what makes a person horny is a good guide to what they like. But also everyone likes to think of themselves as not changing.

I’m really curious about what you’d feel if you actually acted on these thoughts.

Not long after I first went overseas (from HK) to study – I went with some friends snowboarding. Watching them – it looked real fun (plus Id only ever seen snow in pictures before).

Actually trying to do it myself wasn’t very nice at all (I started on a much too advanced slope) and Id never bother trying it again. So I guess liking the idea of something doesn’t always mean you’ll actually like doing it.

For the Blog display - I think what shows next to posts is sometimes different if you have no Avatar picture - so maybe upload something

Also under "Edit Homepage Settings" I think you may need to have "Enable Subscriptions" ticked as well as fill in all the "About Homepage" fields.

Plus under "Edit Homepage Options/Blog panel" you may need to tick "Previous Posts" and "Subscriptions".

 

[slnattak]

hmm. most people don't like standing out. most people just want to belong and fit in, and when you're different, no matter what it is, your 'difference' can make you feel like an outsider.

Society tells us that straight men are sexy and hot, and that gay men really aren't. (and such, if you want to be desirable you better be straight and like pussy) Of course, almost all men are going to suffer from internalized homophobia no matter who you are. Society tells us lots of things, that most people believe in, but a few visionaries off to the side, question them.

So most people are going to get turned on by straight men, beer-chugging masculine frat boys, or whatever type of 'manly man' simply because society tells us that's what we should find attractive. Even if realistically, a gay man that doesn't act all 'macho' or arrogant might be better in bed, have a better physical touch, it's the perception that creates reality.

The only thing stopping you from love - whether it be a man or woman, is instead of getting to know somebody and enjoying them, you're too busy worrying whether or not they're acting like a man or woman. Men/women are way more alike than different. If a woman doesn't shave her pits or legs, they get hairy just like dudes. There's nothing wrong with masculine and feminine erotic foreplay, in fact this is encouraged and can be quite hot. But if you're wondering what's keeping you from a happy relationship, that's pretty much the answer to tell anybody at all times.

 

[AsianDream]

hmm. most people don't like standing out. most people just want to belong and fit in, and when you're different, no matter what it is, your 'difference' can make you feel like an outsider.

Society tells us that straight men are sexy and hot, and that gay men really aren't. (and such, if you want to be desirable you better be straight and like pussy) Of course, almost all men are going to suffer from internalized homophobia no matter who you are. Society tells us lots of things, that most people believe in, but a few visionaries off to the side, question them.

There are quite a few people who love to stand out and love attention (I think more of us Gay people are like this than STR8 )

In terms of “Hot and Sexy” – most Gay people (Male & Female) that I know have a much more sexually active lifestyle than the average Hetro person.

It’s almost as if the stereotypes of gays are a defence mechanism. In a civilization where success is measured by wealth not muscles – Gay people actually (on average) are richer than Straight and have more disposable income (though maybe partly due to not having to pay for kids)

 

[mbamike]

Hello Wel478!

I have read your posts in this thread and your blog on this subject also. I noticed a progression taking place. You begin by denying that you are at least bi-sexual then progressed that you may be at least bi-sexual. Your desired to get ass fucked remains constant. Apparently, you enjoy playing with your ass while you jack off. You remind me of me.

I have had sexual feelings, curiosities, and interests in guys since puberty. However, being gay was "unnatural" and seriously disdained in my environment. So, I surpressed these desires and lived a straight life. I wanted to be accepted into my society.

I dated girls, fucked girls, married a girl, had a child, and got divorced. My ass play escalated from simply finger fucking my self to making homemade dildos and sticking them into my ass, to actually going to a sex shop to buy sex toys like butt plugs, dildos, and prostate massagers. I reached the point that toys were not enough.

I decided I was going to take my sexuality to the next level. I was going to confront the fact that I may be gay, bi or something other than what I have actually been living. That decision was one of the best decisions I had ever made. I have regretted that I did not make this decision much, much earlier in my life. Maybe the pain of a hellacious divorce could have been avoided and the pain my child suffered because of that divorce could have been avoided too.

My point is I see you traveling down a similar road. Just like you, I have enjoyed ass play from my early youth and I enjoy it today. Similiarly, the idea of sucking a guy's cock grossed me out, but once I was in bed with a guy, it came quite natural. I just followed the flow at that moment. Now, I really enjoy sucking cock. I see you progressing in a similiar manner. My hope for you is that you do not spend most of your life not knowing the full satisfaction of fulfilling your sexual desires as I did.

You will not have your answer until you confront your sexuality and actually have sex with a guy and allow him to fuck you silly. This is how I faced my sexuality and it worked for me. (A side note, be sure to prep your ass before having your first ass fucking. This will make the experience much more enjoyable.)

You stated you are not into hook-up sites several times; neither was I at first. However, this is how I found the guy who eventually "popped my cherry ass!" It was great! You need to make your own decisions about this, but I just wanted to get the first time out of the way so I could move on with my life. Forturnately, I had a absolutely marvelous time and the experiences caused me to accept the fact that I am at least bi-sexual. I have hooked-up with other guys since and have enjoyed each fuck session. By comparison, I enjoyed gay sex more than straight sex.

I hope my ramblings have given you some insight to your journey. I wil be more than happy to chat with you or exchange emails with you. Other guys helped me out when I started this journey. So it is only right that I try to help someone too.

Best of luck and best wishes!

 

[bulge]

Has always been an evidency for me to be attracted to guys. I cann't imagine myself attracted to women whatsoever. I see heterosexuality as an abnormality.

 

[jasoncrew03]

^That's......... interesting.

 

[Raistanelf]

It's a bit weird for me too :

...My first sexual experience was with a guy - I've had sex with guys and everything. But I don't see anything beyond sex. I don't envision a life with another man .

What I've been realising lately, is that everytime I see a guy I like, they have these qualities that I wish I had - they're strong, smart, confident , and I know this sounds seriously messed up, but for me, it's like, if I sleep with them/spend time with them, some of those attributes will rub off on me .

I've never dated a girl, because I feel pretty insecure about myself...I don't feel like I'm stable enough to be there for someoene else, and I keep needing a guy to tell me that I'm not a weak useless entity...
sigh.

This is probably linked back to having a distant father and an extremely abusive stepmother.
Sorry if this post totally just wasted thread space.

 

[Sammey90]

I think I can relate to you on this. I'm in a similar position. I never used to watch gay porn and still tend to watch both types but there seems to have been a linear progression. Usually when I was home and not out or the school semester had finished, I'd tend to start to think about guys but my usually day to day routine would keep my from the farthest thoughts in that regard. Safe to say, but thoughts still lingered year after year.

Today when I'm going out and just out during the day, I'm only physically attracted to woman only. When I'm horny or at home, I tend to think about men. I'm an active member in a lot of male communities and enjoy taking photos and video in that regard but I'm yet to be with a male. I'm still hesitant. I'm worried when I'm just out of the house, I'm not into it and it seems to be the case of a lot the time. I'm not really attracted to guys my age and occasionally I might look an older male but I won't really consider sex, I'll just check them out.

I've led myself to believe that I'm very much Bi-Curious and to put it simply, I won't know until I try. Again when I'm horny, I tend to watch both gay and straight porn but it seems that sex with the males, for me is just that more interesting. I'm not into kissing or anything really intimate when I fantasize about males and being more of what I think to be a bottom character, not only due to my assets, but I get turned on by the thought that I could be the one receiving and being dominated for a change.

I don't consider myself gay despite my involvement with males online, but I do consider myself curious. I won't know until I try. It's very easy to sit down in my bedroom and think naughty, but the act of having sex with another male is another step up for me, a step I'm trying to force myself to get over and done with so I can know for sure. I enjoy anal stimulation but I don't believe that enjoying that is enough to consider myself a non-heterosexual. I feel and am straight acting but once again, I'm going to have to go and try to understand myself better. Until then, they remain fantasies.