What is it like in gay bars???

[whoa2whoa]

I just turned 21 and have never even been with a guy before. I am going to go to a gay bar soon. What is it like there? Do guys go into the bathrooms and blow eachother like I see in movies? lol. If I went in there and let my cock hang out what would happen?

 

[HoodedRat]

Gay bars are just like 'straight' bars .. only with a more homogeneously dull clientel.

PS. If you were to let your cock hang out it would probably have to be utterly gigantic for anyone to even notice

 

[Jayden]

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[borg69unimatrix]

It really depends on what KIND of 'gay bar' you go to.

Around here, there are gay:

Country bar
Drag Bar
Stripper
Leather/Bear
"FERN" (neighborhood, for talking).
Dance
Mixed (gay, straight, bi, lesbian, drag,...)
...and lastly, Lesbian.

Unless it's Mardi Gras, I wouldn't recommend hanging your dick out in any of them.

 

[vulgar_newcomer]

The same stuff goes on in most gay bars that goes on in straight clubs, including the bathrooms.

There is little difference in activity straight or gay depending on the venue.

You been watching to much Al Pacino and Cruising and that stupid ass Queer as Folk. Stay out of the fetish leather back water whole in the ass bars rather gay or straight. Plenty of the same bullshit in straight fetish sleaze bars.
I've seen as many gals & guys getting it on in certain clubs as I have seen at gay bars.

 

[barnbuddy]

dude just walk up to the bar and order a drink

relax - it's just a bunch of guys talking, taking #s and maybe hooking up - off site.

and don't whip out your dick - they'll just think your wasted.

and socialize! trust me, you'll find out how very normal it all is soon enough

good luck

 

[Lasosa]

Not to scare you off or anything, but beware of creepers. I was really turned off by gay bars when I first turned 21 because of these guys.

 

[josher]

First: Be sure you have your "gay card" ready at the door, or they won't let you in.

Second: All of the hot shirless bartenders will want to sleep with you. Believe that.

Third: Learn right away to complain about the music, whatever type they play, even if you enjoy it.

Fourth: Form instant judgements about various segments of the clientele, e.g. the older men are pervs, the younger men are rude and superficial, the women are fag hags (unless they're bull dykes).

Fifth: Expect that just by walking in the door people will rush up and talk to you. Don't bother to introduce yourself or make any small talk with anyone. Then you can leave and tell everyone how stuck-up and phony everyone is.

Sixth: If you are an average looking person, get furious if the hotties aren't all over you, while you ignore the other average looking people, because they aren't hot enough for you.

Seventh: Ignore the more feminine men and the drag queens, and just wait for a "straight acting" guy to walk up to you and propose.

Eighth: If someone walks up and starts talking to you or asks you to dance, blow him off, in case somebody cuter comes along.

Ninth: If you meet someone, don't think of them as a potential friend, but rather as a potential hook-up.

Tenth: After following all these rules, leave and tell everyone the next day how disgusting the people at gay bars are.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

First: Be sure you have your "gay card" ready at the door, or they won't let you in.

Second: All of the hot shirless bartenders will want to sleep with you. Believe that.

Third: Learn right away to complain about the music, whatever type they play, even if you enjoy it.

Fourth: Form instant judgements about various segments of the clientele, e.g. the older men are pervs, the younger men are rude and superficial, the women are fag hags (unless they're bull dykes).

Fifth: Expect that just by walking in the door people will rush up and talk to you. Don't bother to introduce yourself or make any small talk with anyone. Then you can leave and tell everyone how stuck-up and phony everyone is.

Sixth: If you are an average looking person, get furious if the hotties aren't all over you, while you ignore the other average looking people, because they aren't hot enough for you.

Seventh: Ignore the more feminine men and the drag queens, and just wait for a "straight acting" guy to walk up to you and propose.

Eighth: If someone walks up and starts talking to you or asks you to dance, blow him off, in case somebody cuter comes along.

Ninth: If you meet someone, don't think of them as a potential friend, but rather as a potential hook-up.

Tenth: After following all these rules, leave and tell everyone the next day how disgusting the people at gay bars are.

I need to jot this down somewhere.

 

[whoa2whoa]

I am just really nervous. I am not feminine at all, nobody even knows I'm gay. I really don't know what to do when I go in there. I just picture myself standing in a corner all alone all night, and not talking to anyone out of sheer nervousness. Its gonna be really awkward the first time I go there

 

[borg69unimatrix]

First: Be sure you have your "gay card" ready at the door, or they won't let you in.

Second: All of the hot shirless bartenders will want to sleep with you. Believe that.

Third: Learn right away to complain about the music, whatever type they play, even if you enjoy it.

Fourth: Form instant judgements about various segments of the clientele, e.g. the older men are pervs, the younger men are rude and superficial, the women are fag hags (unless they're bull dykes).

Fifth: Expect that just by walking in the door people will rush up and talk to you. Don't bother to introduce yourself or make any small talk with anyone. Then you can leave and tell everyone how stuck-up and phony everyone is.

Sixth: If you are an average looking person, get furious if the hotties aren't all over you, while you ignore the other average looking people, because they aren't hot enough for you.

Seventh: Ignore the more feminine men and the drag queens, and just wait for a "straight acting" guy to walk up to you and propose.

Eighth: If someone walks up and starts talking to you or asks you to dance, blow him off, in case somebody cuter comes along.

Ninth: If you meet someone, don't think of them as a potential friend, but rather as a potential hook-up.

Tenth: After following all these rules, leave and tell everyone the next day how disgusting the people at gay bars are.

GREAT Post! This deserves an award, IMO.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

I am just really nervous. I am not feminine at all, nobody even knows I'm gay. I really don't know what to do when I go in there. I just picture myself standing in a corner all alone all night, and not talking to anyone out of sheer nervousness. Its gonna be really awkward the first time I go there

Plenty of other non-online places to meet gay men - the bar is not the only place to meet us.

 

[Scottyboi]

I was where ur standing a year ago

Try to dress nice but not formal. Just nice. Like if you wanted to look good for a date (not an office meeting or wedding)

If you consider yourself straight acting then don't try to 'gay it up'. My first couple times I specifically tried to come off as gay with how I dressed because I wanted guys to think they could hit on me. Dumb, dumb idea. I have no problem with guys who are more feminine but its true, the masculine gay men have an easier time. Lesson here: be yourself.

Be confident. Don't worry about people not talking to you. Just go out on the dance floor and dance. Even if by yourself. Hell, its a good way to get guys to ask you to dance if they see you dancing alone.

Smile. I can't tell you how important this is. People will see your face and if you look upset or annoyed or angry they will skip over you. Just have fun dancing by yourself and be comfortable with yourself. Gives you a nice subconscious smile that will brighten your complexion =)

Don't be afraid to ask someone to dance. If you see someone you think is cute ask them to dance. If they are surrounded by friends/people they might say no so wait til they arn't busy talking to friends.

You're gonna get turned down on occasion. Don't let it get to you. Be comfortable with yourself and move on. They could be spending time with friends, they could be with someone already or they could just be having a bad night. Don't worry about it and move on.



Have fun =)
If you're drinking don't drive!

 

[Light339]

I was where ur standing a year ago

Try to dress nice but not formal. Just nice. Like if you wanted to look good for a date (not an office meeting or wedding)

If you consider yourself straight acting then don't try to 'gay it up'. My first couple times I specifically tried to come off as gay with how I dressed because I wanted guys to think they could hit on me. Dumb, dumb idea. I have no problem with guys who are more feminine but its true, the masculine gay men have an easier time. Lesson here: be yourself.

Be confident. Don't worry about people not talking to you. Just go out on the dance floor and dance. Even if by yourself. Hell, its a good way to get guys to ask you to dance if they see you dancing alone.

Smile. I can't tell you how important this is. People will see your face and if you look upset or annoyed or angry they will skip over you. Just have fun dancing by yourself and be comfortable with yourself. Gives you a nice subconscious smile that will brighten your complexion =)

Don't be afraid to ask someone to dance. If you see someone you think is cute ask them to dance. If they are surrounded by friends/people they might say no so wait til they arn't busy talking to friends.

You're gonna get turned down on occasion. Don't let it get to you. Be comfortable with yourself and move on. They could be spending time with friends, they could be with someone already or they could just be having a bad night. Don't worry about it and move on.



Have fun =)
If you're drinking don't drive!

What he said.

Just relax and have fun.

Oh and watch out for the creepy older guys who are going to try and feel you up as well. It happens a lot!

 

[Spiff]

Expect people to grab your ass.

Hey, I said I was sorry. It was an accident.

 

[GL]

OMG! The walls are pink! And all the men are naked and covered in glitter! squeals! And they serve cocktails in these big PINK PENIS GLASSES (that can be used as a dildo later)squeals!!!And they just keep playing LADY GAGA (BORN THIS WAY!!!)on the jukebox!!OMG! OMG! I think I might faint!!! squeals!!And all at once everyone starts having butt sex....andSPERM is flying everywhere!!! OMG!

*squeals with delight*

lol!

we really need to ween you off that coffee tit...