What is the farthest that you have traveled for a “booty call” (via a guy you met online) AND rate your experience.

[blackbeltninja]

About 16 kilometres, or 10 miles, and he was a 10.

We chatted and flirted online for about 3 days before meeting up at his place one night for coffee. After about 3 hours of chatting and everything, a great connection between us, things headed to the bedroom and it was amazing.

We saw each other again about 2 weeks later a few days before he went on leave, and kept our clothes on that time, still a good night out for dinner. I privately thought he could be the one. I mentioned friends with benefits as a concept, and he got quite irritated - "I don't have sex with friends; I have sex with people I meet, and I have friends, and they are two VERY separate groups." We parted on good terms that night with tentative plans for when he got back from his holiday about 3 weeks later.

And then when he got back he just gave me the cold shoulder. Tried to make plans twice, but it was obvious that I was either just a notch on the bedpost, or just not good enough to qualify as friends or sex material. Haven't seen him since.

-d-

 

[cgymike]

Thank you for explaining in more detail, Cgymike. Based on what you have shared and the clarification of it all, it makes sense.

I’m not sure where you live, but I do hope that you soon find a boyfriend . . . one that is geographically desirable. One thing that I will say is, don’t rule out a long distance relationship “IF” there is a good probability that you two can date for “X” amount of time AND if it looks promising that you two can end up living in the same town/city or you two can end up living with each other in a mutual reasonable amount of time.

Wilson

Yep I'll stick to southern Alberta/n central Montana. Besides, working full time means I certainly don't have time to cruise personals sites except in my area. I don't need to or want to or have the time to wade through ads of people who are 1000 km's away. A lot of people are limited by their jobs by time and distance as far as where they would be willing to travel. Most personals sites have geographic distance criteria on both search functions and profiles (people put in otherwise) so it's very real for most people and generally not very negotiable.
The only situation I could think of is if you were in a very homophobic country and necessarily would look very long distance to try to get into a situation where you could leave. Someone in Turkey for example might look in London etc. Or Syria...ANYWHERE.

But here in Canada people are sometimes very parochial and won't even go outside their neighbourhood - for instance in Toronto ONLY looking in the village etc. They might not even consider Etobicoke even if the guy was hot! Also, there is a judgement call where certain areas are just considered "not good" so they don't want to go there because it's dodgy.

This is a good topic to being up but the bottom line is that there are so many factors frustrating long distance travel..

 

[WestCoastWilson]

Thanks once again Guys, for the additional feedback and for sharing what your long-distance booty call experiences have been like.

For sure Cgymike, there are so many factors frustrating long distance travel. In my case, I'm so glad that the guys did not flake-out on any of my long-distance booty call trips. Yet with the TONS of local flaky guys that I met during my single days by the mid-2000's, I would never do that today . . . UNLESS I needed to be in that city (on other business) where the guy was, that way if the guy flaked-out, then it would be no big deal, since I "had" to be in their city anyway. "For me", guys today are jut too flaky to trust with any type of long-distance first time booty call.

Wilson

 

[cgymike]

Thanks once again Guys, for the additional feedback and for sharing what your long-distance booty call experiences have been like.

For sure Cgymike, there are so many factors frustrating long distance travel. In my case, I'm so glad that the guys did not flake-out on any of my long-distance booty call trips. Yet with the TONS of local flaky guys that I met during my single days by the mid-2000's, I would never do that today . . . UNLESS I needed to be in that city (on other business) where the guy was, that way if the guy flaked-out, then it would be no big deal, since I "had" to be in their city anyway. "For me", guys today are jut too flaky to trust with any type of long-distance first time booty call.

Wilson

Well I see you are in LA - travel there may just mean going from one area to another and given the horrendous traffic it's more like a long distance travel in the time it takes to get there. I remember once trying to get from Woodland Hills to San Fernando...it took FOREVER!!!

 

[WestCoastWilson]

Well I see you are in LA - travel there may just mean going from one area to another and given the horrendous traffic it's more like a long distance travel in the time it takes to get there. I remember once trying to get from Woodland Hills to San Fernando...it took FOREVER!!!

Cgymike, well things have not changed much . . . it STILL takes FOREVER to get from Woodland Hills to San Fernando. LOL!!! Back in 1998, my boyfriend (at the time) lived only about a 35 minute drive (13 miles) from each other. When we broke-up, in addition to his reasons for breaking up with me . . . he said he thought that we lived too far apart. WTF!!! We had dated for about 5 months, and never once during that time did he ever tell me that "he thought" that we lived too far apart.

Wilson

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

I don't travel far for booty calls.

I will travel far for guys i'm interested in dating - for that ratio, it was a 9.

 

[WestCoastWilson]

Loki81, Huntneo(PT), Tombastep, and MoufOfKhaos thank you for sharing.

Loki81, it sounds like that Long Island traffic is just like Los Angeles traffic. LOL!!!

Huntneo(PT), I know exactly how you feel. I’m not sure why the best ass I have ever gotten, has always been away from home. Yet for some reason, when I was on the prowl here in Los Angeles, I never could find guys even half as sexy and interested as those booty calls that were in faraway places. I mean I have easily gone 3+ years with absolutely no sex, because I just could not find a guy that I was able to make a good online connection with here in Los Angeles . . . yet (at the time anyway), it was easier for me to meet handsome non-flaky guys that wanted to have sex with me . . . yet I almost could not find a guy to lay, even if I had a fist full of hundred dollar bills here in Los Angeles . . . yet maybe the Los Angeles boot call market is a rough crowd. Yet after not having sex for 3+ years, I got pretty horny and needed to start looking for other guys in other states that were willing and wanted to play with me.

Tombastep, rate the guy and rate the experience . . . would you or have you ever done anything like that before (traveled to a faraway place only for a booty call AND meeting with the guy for the very first time)?

Wilson

 

[floridaboy]

technically we didnt get together with the intent of sex(well i did, but i do with all guys i meet online). We originally wanted to hang out, we'd been talking on a dating app for a while, and i decided i'd drive for an hour and we'd hang out. After i got to his place he immediately started kissing me, we went inside, and fucked like champions. After we showered, fucked, and showered again we actually did hang out. We went to the movies, out to late lunch, had a nice time.

When i got back he apologized for the sex right off the bat but he said he was in a bad place and was horny as hell(i thought it was strange to actually apologize for sex), this was like two weeks ago and we're still talking. I have NO intention of dating him, but was was fun to hang out with, and the sex was awesome(i did quite amazing if i do say so myself)

 

[cgymike]

Cgymike, well things have not changed much . . . it STILL takes FOREVER to get from Woodland Hills to San Fernando. LOL!!! Back in 1998, my boyfriend (at the time) lived only about a 35 minute drive (13 miles) from each other. When we broke-up, in addition to his reasons for breaking up with me . . . he said he thought that we lived too far apart. WTF!!! We had dated for about 5 months, and never once during that time did he ever tell me that "he thought" that we lived too far apart.

Wilson

13 miles is forever on the 101 or just about any freeway....the only area I visited that seemed "distance reality" was OUTSIDE of LA county like around Ventura or maybe starting at Calabasas. Your ex bf sounds like he was just making excuses and oh what a handy one to pull on you. The real reason is he found some hottie (close by or not)....ahaha.

 

[RaKroma]

I think urban boys tend to be more bitchy and flaky cause they can't appreciate all the gays around them. The ones that live further out in hickvilles will travel for hundreds of miles to meet a guy and will follow through because meeting any guy is a luxury for them.

 

[WestCoastWilson]

technically we didnt get together with the intent of sex(well i did, but i do with all guys i meet online). We originally wanted to hang out, we'd been talking on a dating app for a while, and i decided i'd drive for an hour and we'd hang out. After i got to his place he immediately started kissing me, we went inside, and fucked like champions. After we showered, fucked, and showered again we actually did hang out. We went to the movies, out to late lunch, had a nice time.

When i got back he apologized for the sex right off the bat but he said he was in a bad place and was horny as hell(i thought it was strange to actually apologize for sex), this was like two weeks ago and we're still talking. I have NO intention of dating him, but was was fun to hang out with, and the sex was awesome(i did quite amazing if i do say so myself)

Floridaboy, it sounds like you had an unexpected pleasant surprise booty call experience. "Way to go!" Yet for sure, I know exactly what you mean when you said " I have NO intention of dating him, but was was fun to hang out with, and the sex was awesome . . . " None of my booty call guys were dating material, simply because none of us single men were looking to date anyone, we just wanted to have nsa sex . . . maybe hangout a bit and that is it. So we were all on the same page . . . luckily none of us got romantic feelings about the other . . . so while it lasted, it worked.

Wilson

 

[WestCoastWilson]

13 miles is forever on the 101 or just about any freeway....the only area I visited that seemed "distance reality" was OUTSIDE of LA county like around Ventura or maybe starting at Calabasas. Your ex bf sounds like he was just making excuses and oh what a handy one to pull on you. The real reason is he found some hottie (close by or not)....ahaha.

Cgymike, so true, 13 miles is forever on the 101, LOL!!! , yet my boyfriend lived in one part of Los Angeles and I lived in another part of Los Angeles (since Los Angeles is so big) . . . yet I think since we were breaking-up, he decided to hit me the distance thing, since it was on his chest for all of those months anyway. Luckily, we had a good break-up and managed to stay distant friends for all of these years . . . yet I may only be in contact with him once every 3 or so years . . . but he did not end up dating again, until about 6 months after we broke-up . . . yet the man he dated was about 55 years old, my boyfriend was about 38 at the time, and I was 35 years old at the time. Yet in the later years, I meet the older very handsome boyfriend (Charles) . . . who reminds me a lot of a 55 year old Robert Redford . . . and Charles is so nice and generous to a fault . . . Charles is the model boyfriend or partner. I ran into my ex several weeks ago, while walking in a park . . . and I will be danged, that there is STILL so much interest and attraction (on my part of this guy). Yet I'm happily partnered and I would not give up my partner for nobody . . . yet I just thought it was funny to still have that strong attraction to my ex. after all of these years. Go and figure eh? Yet I can not say anything bad about ex., since he broke-up with me and I never had any negative issues about or against him. He was a very charming and wonderful man while we dated . . . I didn't like being dumped, yet I appreciate the fact that he was at least willing to give me a chance, because I did enjoy the time that we dated . . . and I have no bad feelings or regret about being in a relationship with the guy . . . other than that pesky dumping me thing of course, LOL!!!

Wilson

 

[WestCoastWilson]

P.S. Cgymike, now with that being said, I don’t think that I was a bad boyfriend . . . me and that ex. never fought and never raised our voices to each other . . . yet it was more of a matter he just never grew to love me to form a relationship, so I guess he wanted to cut his losses, before another 5 months went by. Yet Charles lived 40 miles away . . . yet my ex. and Charles dated long enough where they would end up spending each weekend together (they would alternate between their two homes), so that made togetherness much easier for them, since they did not commute during the week to see each other.

 

[WestCoastWilson]

I think urban boys tend to be more bitchy and flaky cause they can't appreciate all the gays around them. The ones that live further out in hickvilles will travel for hundreds of miles to meet a guy and will follow through because meeting any guy is a luxury for them.

Well said,RaKroma! I think that you are right. Yet as flaky as guys have become in the past 8 or so years, I would never take a chance on meeting a guy for the very first time for a long-distance booty call. Because there are too many flaky men out there now, so I would trust none of them.

Wilson

 

[hanzosword]

I drove probaly around 120 miles into the next state, North Carolina, to hook up with a guy. It took forever to get there and I was a nervous wreck the whole time. I got lost on the way so I had to rush when I did find his place because I didn't want to make the drive back in the dark lol. We had seen each other's pics and chatted just a little for a few days first. He knew it was only my 2nd encounter with a man. When I got there he was more fem than I thought but I didn't mind. We 69'd and it was good until he came after just a few minutes lol. I thought he was done so I decided to leave before I got a chance to get off so I wouldn't be on the road getting lost at night. The end lol.

 

[WestCoastWilson]

Hanzosword, what an interesting experience. Yet since you were new to having sex, I can understand your concerns. I was lucky to always be close to home, while I was gaining sexual experience.

TopherGF, thank you for sharing. OUCH!!! . . . to being fucked bareback “without” lube. OUCH!!!

Wilson

 

[jensu846]

so far, the farthest has been 45 miles. And it was ok. wouldnt go that far again. I cant imagine I would go much farther than that. Living in S. Dakota sometimes means you have to drive a short distance since its so sparcely populated.

 

[WestCoastWilson]

so far, the farthest has been 45 miles. And it was ok. wouldnt go that far again. I cant imagine I would go much farther than that. Living in S. Dakota sometimes means you have to drive a short distance since its so sparcely populated.

Thanks for sharing, Jensu846. I had heard early this year, there does not seem to be much of a gay population in N. Dakota and S. Dakota . . . yet if you go by that mathematical equation “1 in 10, is gay”, then I suppose that you should have a sizable group of gay men near you . . . yet they may not be out. So what is your take on the Dakotas and the ease of finding other gay men there for friendship, sex, relationships?

Wilson

 

[jensu846]

with the apps like Grindr and Growler, it has been much easier to find guys to play with. But alot of guys arent out, so you have to be very discreet about it. Alot of guys are married too. Its easy to find a guy to play with, but finding a guy that wants a relationship is difficult since everybody is afraid to show any pda. its still not cool to be gay in my area anyway. I dont have any out friends either, just me. All the guys that I play with are in the closet and either have g/f's or married. kinda sucks.

 

[WestCoastWilson]

Jensu846, what a BUMMER to hear about your situation. Yet if you are happy with where you live and life is working for you there, then I can understand why you would not want to move away to a gay friendly area or city.

Yet in my case, I never put “booty call” men in the same boat as “relationship” men. When it came to my booty call men, I just wanted them to be single (to avoid any type of their relationship drama . . . bi, married, boyfriend, girlfriend) and horny. Whereas when it comes to love and relationships, I sought different qualities in those men. Yet depending on what I was looking for, I always sought certain qualities in those 2 different types of men . . . since there are men only looking for NSA sex and men who are looking for love & a relationship. As long as I kept the 2 separate, I never had a problem.

Wilson