What is your definition of a good friend?

[secondmonkey]

I've been arguing with one of my best friends for about a year now, mainly due to the fact that he thinks he's a great friend and god's gift to earth, when the reality is he's a horrible friend. I'd like to send him a list of what neutral 3rd parties think makes a good friend.

So, what is your definition of a good friend?

 

[M4P]

• someone who makes me laugh
• listens to me
• understands me
• offers to help and shows up on moving day
• calls when we haven't been in touch - just because
• doesn't judge me

 

[Bamaboi200384]

I have had a lot of friends, and to me a good friend is someone who is there for you no matter what. Always for the good and the bad, no matter what. Someone who always knows that one little thing to do or say that will make you smile when your having a bad day, and knows how to get along with your other friends (cause thats important).
I hope that helps.
John

 

[martin6]

A good friend, to me, is someone who you can just hang out with comfortably. You can say anything and not offend them and they can say nothing that will offend you. For instance, when I'm cranky, I can tell him or her to fuck off and they will know I don't mean it in a nasty way-- just leave me alone for a bit. Also, a good friend is someone who stands up for you when needed and who you will stand up for.

I don't want my friends to know what I'm thinking all the time and I don't really care what they're thinking all the time. I think people who know each other that well should be partners/lovers/spouses/whatever.

 

[Homoerectus]

Someone I like to be around and spend time with. Oops, I guess he isn't a good friend after all.

 

[sixthson]

A good friend is someone who will always tell you the truth, even when it hurts, because they love you.

A good friend always has time for you, even when there aren't enough hours in the day.

A good friend is someone you turn to first when you have good news to share and he is the first who asks to share your burdens.

A good friend lets you love him in your imperfect way and from him you learn how to love less selfishly.

Basically, a good friend changes you for the better and by his love, makes you a better friend.

 

[KennyD]

I've seen definations of what a "Friend" and even a "Good" friend is .. Good answeres ... But then we have a "GREAT" Friend who is a guy who will defend with his life .. Yours.(These "Great" friends are very few and far between ....)

 

[chas007]

• someone who makes me laugh
• listens to me
• understands me
• offers to help and shows up on moving day
• calls when we haven't been in touch - just because
• doesn't judge me

Exactly, and everyone else are just acquaintances.

 

[billybob109]

Well their is a good friend and a great friend. I good friend will do all of the above and a great friend will blow you whenever needed

 

[gameboy 11]

Well. It is easy to define a good friend. They just don't come around as much as I'd like. Many others feel the same way.

A good friend will respect you, come around at least twice a week. If not, they call you enough to get you by, and they just love being around you. They may sass you once in a while, and disagree with you like crazy. They may even make fun of your stupid hair. But they will be THERE. They will love and support your opinions. And even when things get tough, they stay.

I have one friend in life. She rocks. But is overworked. She's throwing a Halloween party, in which I hope to attend, as the sexiest baby in the house! I will have my pacificer and I will don my pajamas, and hug on my Care Bear all night.

Can't f'in wait!!!!!!!!!



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[silentalk]

I think good friends are:

- people who might put you before themselves in A LOT of situations

- on the edge of extinction

 

[confusedboy23]

I can't think of a definition here but I guess a good friend would be one that does not define any definition - they are unique, and well, they just are who they are!

 

[johnind]

A good friend is someone who will always tell you the truth, even when it hurts, because they love you.

A good friend always has time for you, even when there aren't enough hours in the day.

A good friend is someone you turn to first when you have good news to share and he is the first who asks to share your burdens.

A good friend lets you love him in your imperfect way and from him you learn how to love less selfishly.

Basically, a good friend changes you for the better and by his love, makes you a better friend.

Yes Thats true becuz my best friend have all of these
he always tell turth about me and some times its hurt me but its great for me because I found my negative points, bad habits
My friend done his job 4rm 7am-7pm but 1hr is reserve for me 7pm to 8pm daily 7days in week
Yes I Love my best friend and my best friend loves me too

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>So, what is your definition of a good friend?

It's 4am, and I'm having issues. I REALLY need to talk to someone. Who can I call?

This test more or less sums it up, I think.

Lex

 

[tonyboy]

I've been arguing with one of my best friends for about a year now, mainly due to the fact that he thinks he's a great friend and god's gift to earth, when the reality is he's a horrible friend. I'd like to send him a list of what neutral 3rd parties think makes a good friend.

So, what is your definition of a good friend?

I don't get this at all. You say he's one of your best friends you also write he's a horrible friend.
You best figure out what a best friend means to you... you shoudln't need jubbers to help you decide that man.
Your buddy sounds a bit conceited, but if you still figure him to be one of you best buddies you'd best figure out what you are looking for in a friend.

Doesn't matter if you send him a list of what others figure makes a good friend. He is who he is and always will be. It's up to you to decide if you want to contiune having him in your life. He's not going to change just cause you present a list of some sort.
Accept him for who he is or move on.

 

[probeteam1]

I've been arguing with one of my best friends for about a year now, mainly due to the fact that he thinks he's a great friend and god's gift to earth, when the reality is he's a horrible friend. I'd like to send him a list of what neutral 3rd parties think makes a good friend.

So what is your definition of a good friend?

First off, why is he one of your best friends if he's such a terrible friend?

Second, I don't think friendship is something quite so easily defined.
A friend is someone who puts up with your crap and respects your limits. Someone you can trust, someone who'll show you a little loyalty. Who tries to be of use. A friend is someone who is good to you and good for you. I think it's something you feel and acknowledge, not something you score. If he shows up unexpectedly at your door, are you pleased (or concerned) or annoyed? Who do you call when you're feeling bad? When you're feeling good? Most notably, I think a friend is someone for whom you feel you must return these virtues - put up with his crap, to be trustworthy, loyal and of use. Either you feel it, or you don't. Accomplishing it is of course an entirely different matter.

...it should be noted that in my definition the line between "good friend" and "good boyfriend" has largely to do with whether we're having sex.

I don't think that particularly good friends are easy to come by.


By the way, what's the point of perpetuating this argument? It's not like he has any reason to value our definitions of friendship over his own. If you have aperticular issue with some behavior or shortcoming of his, then you need to call issue to that rather than broadly defining him as a failure of a friend. I'm not sure what you accomplish by convincing one of your best friends that he is in fact a terrible friend. If you really want to make your point, then just dump him like the garbage you believe he is. Otherwise, you'll have to admit that there is some reason you keep him around.