What is your opinion on men who say "I'm not into the gay scene"

[Bent-On]

Or perhaps they just want some respectability, as there is none to be had in the 'scene'.

 

[Rubber Rat]

I liked the clubs when I was younger. Now I enjoy a small pub. There's one I go to that has a nice mix of gay and straight.

 

[belamyi]

Or perhaps they just want some respectability, as there is none to be had in the 'scene'.

The coming of age...

 

[Spiff]

I don't take any offense to it. I always assumed it meant the guy is not into clubbing. And neither am I, so I would think the guy could be my type.

 

[FanofFiction]

Sadly, i'm not even exaggerating when I say this: In most areas of the U.S., You would risk getting refused service, asked to leave, harassed, beaten up or even killed if you made out with your boyfriend in a public place in America, depending on where you are. It's true that there are a lot of gays in bigger cities, but they're generally within their own "gayborhoods": The Village, Boystown, West Hollywood, Wilton Manors, etc. It's okay to kiss another guy in public here, because you're mostly going to be around other gays, anyway.


God Bless America!

Are you serious? There is no law preventing discrimination against gays in the United States? If a place refused business to me here in Canada it would be considered a breach of the Charter Act. There would be hell to pay.

Sometimes the US really shocks me. How did they get a repuatation for being so progressive when the laws down there are a century behind?

 

[Ken Adams]

LOL really, k so I may be biased, but I respect the opinion. Probably because I share it. I'm not into the gay scene persae. Like sure, I'll cruise gay sites lookin' for pretty much anything... but in reality, when I find what I'm looking for I venture away from it. To people who aren't into the gay scene, we pretty much stereotype it. Like... This is what personally I classify as the gay scene:

Gay Bars
Chats (cause they're full of drama... always some stupid fight about 'meaningless' things)
Gay Activities; such as seeing a chick flick..

Avoiding the gay scene may be considered closeted activity(s) but to some people, like me... it's more an uncomfortability.

Think of it this way:
If you're not into scat, could you watch a scat video and be turned on? Or would you have your head between your legs puking into a bucket?

Thus you don't watch the scat porn
THUS you're not into scat.

But, you're not judged for it because 90% of people believe it to be gross, or disturbing.

Anyway, it's pretty much like that for us. We don't wanna read about Cher, or Madonna, and how 'epic' they are to the gay community... we just want masc. men to be masc with? lol *shrugs* make sense?

 

[fetaby]

make sense?

That you just compared gay people to shit? Yeah, we got it.

 

[Nomenclature]

Are you serious? There is no law preventing discrimination against gays in the United States?

In most states, no. Only a handful of states actually protect any amount of rights based on sexuality. Many people in the U.S. actually consider it "unconstitutional" to legally prevent them from hating gays and blacks, so they vote to overturn the laws preventing discrimination in the work place.

Go figure, huh?

Sometimes the US really shocks me. How did they get a repuatation for being so progressive when the laws down there are a century behind?

Britain ended slavery in the 1830s via simple legislation. America ended slavery in the 1860s, which caused 600,000 people to die, our country to go under Martial law and our president to be killed.


New Zealand granted women the right to vote in the 1890s, whereas America didn't feel women deserved that right until the 1920s.


ISRAEL, of all places, has always allowed gays to serve in the military. . .yet America has always credited themselves with being too religious and conservative to allow dem dere faggitz in our military. Americans have to be brought kicking and screaming into progressopn on THAT attitude, as well.



For that matter, Israel even allows same-sex dancing on television. . .where America says it would be controversial and disgusting to show two men or two women dancing together on Dancing With The Stars.







"You can always count on Americans to do the right thing - after they've tried everything else." - Winston Churchill.

 

[LGNTexas]

I tend to not live up to the gay stereotype. I have never been much into "the scene" and never entered a gay bar until I was 25, grew up with only straight friends and surprised everyone when I came out, as I "don't act gay". I've never lived in a gay ghetto, and to this day have more straight friends who can live with my being gay, than gay friends. Being older now, never got into the current techno music that pervades most bars. I rarely go out to any bars in Houston except the Brazos River Bottom, a country/western bar which has the best Texas "Two-steppers" in the city, floating around the dance floor in boots and big hats. Probably have closer lesbian friends than gay guy friends.

My partner of 11 years is also accepted very well by my straight family and friends. I really don't like the "gay scene"....not into the gossipy "dish" that pervades many gay bars...not into the "Mary" "Miss Thing" put downs. Not into "show tunes" as much as I love all sports, am a regular at pro hockey and baseball games (can no longer afford pro football). I also like NASCAR (especially Jeff Gordan and some of the new cute drivers). My partner owns two shares of the Green Bay Packers and our love of sports gives us a lot in common.

 

[belamyi]

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