What kind of gay friend would you like to have?

[MoufOfKhaos]

Are you really that simple?

Yes. In this instance, yes I am. It should be that simple. But lets go on to the rest of your post.

Oh c'mon peeps..some of you must have at least pet peeves/deal breaker when it comes to gay friends.^^
"I dont get along with smokers, addicts, moocher, etc.."

Those are not qualifiers for gay people, those are qualifiers for people in general. You make it seem like there should be a different set of rules for having gay friends, bi friends, straight friends and transgender friends. I have the same qualifications across the board.

but the purpose of this thread is to focus on the positive note instead of the negatives, so feel free to share what kind of guys seem to compatible with you? ^^

Yes he is gay but elaborate?

That's what I did. The kind of gay friend I want is a friend that happens to also be gay - I don't want him to be my friend because he is gay. Now, if you're asking what qualities I like in friends across the board, I may be inclined to answer... but I find putting what I'd like in a gay friend only rather silly.

 

[The Fly]

I have plenty of gay friends as well as straight friends...requirements are the same.

What kind of gay friends do you have? And if they're not the kind of friends you want, regardless of orientation, why do you remain friends?

 

[Ryuukie]

For me it's all about loyalty. Also I enjoy being with people who are not too self centered.

 

[JPGhost]

Yes. In this instance, yes I am. It should be that simple. But lets go on to the rest of your post.



Those are not qualifiers for gay people, those are qualifiers for people in general. You make it seem like there should be a different set of rules for having gay friends, bi friends, straight friends and transgender friends. I have the same qualifications across the board.

But..but...what if I want to share hot guys story with him? Would straight guys love to hear?

(duh)

That's what I did. The kind of gay friend I want is a friend that happens to also be gay - I don't want him to be my friend because he is gay. Now, if you're asking what qualities I like in friends across the board, I may be inclined to answer... but I find putting what I'd like in a gay friend only rather silly.

Then answer it, make it sound light not like this..^^ If having gay friend with you is similar like having straight friend with 0.001% differences, then go ahead.

for me..the quality when I hang out with gay friends vs. straight crowd is tipping drastically. I have no fulfillment with straight crowd.

 

[JPGhost]

I have plenty of gay friends as well as straight friends...requirements are the same.

What kind of gay friends do you have? And if they're not the kind of friends you want, regardless of orientation, why do you remain friends?

I usually ended up acquaintance with straight guys. Not like I forbid myself, that's the way it is..cause I dont have their interests.

Right.

IMO, to say "which kind of gay friend"--as if we're simplistic stereotypes that come in categories--is insulting. I'll leave that kind of thinking to the straights.

In fact, after perusing this thread, I'm gonna go and co-sign everything MofK adds until future notice.

This thread is free from gay nationalist agenda

 

[GamerBear]

A friend who is not going to give me bullshit about the color of my skin, how attractive or unattractive I am and someone who is not going to call or text when they need something from me. I feel so many of my Portland friends just don't have time for me and some even seem to be uncomfortable around me because I'm Latino.

 

[Adrock-JD]

I've had many gay friends, male and female. They've all been unique and enjoyable in their own ways. Gay people tend to move around a lot, so we lose touch. I still have gay friends, of course, but the vast majority have moved (or I moved) or we've grown apart.

A friend is like a teacher. You learn things from them and see the world through a different perspective. As well as being entertaining to each other.

 

[tryingthisout94]

Someone who's my age (out or not) and just down to earth. Doesn't fit the stereotypes, and knows that there's more to life than being gay. Not fem, but not overly-masculine. Someone you can just chill with. Gotta be funny like me and love music, though lol

 

[Scealle]

But..but...what if I want to share hot guys story with him? Would straight guys love to hear?

(duh)

I think open straight guys do at least to a certain extent. But probably not too much detail lol. There are times my straight guys friends told me "Ewwww Too much information gay boy" or judges me whenever I bring up gay topics or thinks I am slutty lol.

I do find it a tad bit annoyed when some gay guys won't befriends with you if you don't look like a model or have six pack abs. I have been rejected few times as they do not find me suitable for their type

 

[JPGhost]

A friend who is not going to give me bullshit about the color of my skin, how attractive or unattractive I am and someone who is not going to call or text when they need something from me. I feel so many of my Portland friends just don't have time for me and some even seem to be uncomfortable around me because I'm Latino.

I think open straight guys do at least to a certain extent. But probably not too much detail lol. There are times my straight guys friends told me "Ewwww Too much information gay boy" or judges me whenever I bring up gay topics or thinks I am slutty lol.

I do find it a tad bit annoyed when some gay guys won't befriends with you if you don't look like a model or have six pack abs. I have been rejected few times as they do not find me suitable for their type

That's...well, welcome to our imperfection
As we have unique dynamic in friendship between gay buddies, we also have our unique adversities too.

In this case: between pack/prey mentality. Thats why I posted this earlier: http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/406934-Look-how-cute-are-they
I think we need better solidarities

but then again other problem might occur- what if there are some amount of gay guys who always be Mr.nice guy to his friend circle and almost never been objectified?

It could be the other way around- when gay guys just communicate to each other to fuck or he never can able to be outside of objectified- type? Some gay guys find impossible to make friend with other gay guys because he always got hit?

sigh unfairness in the world.

That's why I dont go for fbb because it just make tangled mess ^^

A friend who is not going to give me bullshit about the color of my skin, how attractive or unattractive I am and someone who is not going to call or text when they need something from me. I feel so many of my Portland friends just don't have time for me and some even seem to be uncomfortable around me because I'm Latino.

I think I read your avatar description as "married" then..fuck those bitchess, you dont need them
if they giving you hard time just think "You have friend for life"

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

SSSSSSSSH"
ooh

thankyou

 

[JPGhost]

Someone who's my age (out or not) and just down to earth. Doesn't fit the stereotypes, and knows that there's more to life than being gay. Not fem, but not overly-masculine. Someone you can just chill with. Gotta be funny like me and love music, though lol

2 things that make me not click with straight guys: Cars and sports. Im so terrible with those subjects..
Im meh with sports- I think car is just like a 4 wheels moving can ..and I just poop in their party alot

Maybe my "gayness" is another factor or maybe I could marginalize myself into nerdy-introvert-hobbyist kind of guy..^^ if you like. Im such a pansy and vegetable (love art and gardening)
I dont have straight female friends too, can you believe? At first...they're less intimidating to get to know..but I realize actually they're wired differently than I do. I can't stand them either ^^ (especially when they're about married/have babies)

Recently I found a type of car I like but it's already late too late to be conversation starter for straight guys, I have not much desire to befriend with everybody in this world- like when Im a teen ^^
but Im so exciting with it!! Vrooommm....

 

[JPGhost]

It could be the other way around- when gay guys just communicate within each other to fuck or he never can able to freed himself from being objectified? I knew some gay guys find impossible to make friend with other gay guys because he always got hit.

'xcuse me.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

But..but...what if I want to share hot guys story with him? Would straight guys love to hear?

(duh)

If he's secure and he asks, then yes, he wants to hear. If all that exists for you between friends is sex though, you might want to work on that.

Then answer it, make it sound light not like this..^^ If having gay friend with you is similar like having straight friend with 0.001% differences, then go ahead.

I've answered it twice, I really don't see what you don't get about having friends that aren't defined by their sexuality.

for me..the quality when I hang out with gay friends vs. straight crowd is tipping drastically. I have no fulfillment with straight crowd.

Sounds like we've reached the apex of your own personal problem.

 

[treeri]

One older gay guy that I hang out with a few times / week; cooking, watching tv, and movies... he's a rare drama-free gay friend! He's a man whore though so it's always interesting to see which guy he played with off grindr. I'm always telling him he needs to find a husband and settle down

 

[JPGhost]

If he's secure and he asks, then yes, he wants to hear. If all that exists for you between friends is sex

uhm...nope

Sounds like we've reached the apex of your own personal problem.

ooo kay................... that's all?

 

[JPGhost]

This is where I have to accept how lucky I am. I talk to my straight friends about guys the way they talk to me about women. It really doesn't matter. They're adult about the fact that I am gay and they don't need to share a sexual preference with me to hear about my guy stories.

Where can I find straight people like them? ^^

I rather hear people's story on this.
I still think this thread is undebatable matter in term of your favor not to use distinction between gay and straight friendship, that isn't necessary.

Agree?

 

[USEDCAR]

Someone down to earth not out to use anyone has his own money and job and car, Can hold a conversation and fun to be around. And is not always looking for sex sex sex.

 

[Marco Sensual]

I dont like the bitchy gays.Gay men who always have something negative to say about others.I cant stand bitchy gays at all.This is the reason i never go on any other gay blogs.

I have gay friends.They doesnt represent the stereotypes.They are masculine and not bitchy.They are nice.

 

[ibill1]

I am very satisfied with the kind I already have, thank you.