What motivates the hate ?

[Lube]

I knew I would be able to turn you around.

I didn't know you were a top!

 

[Lube]

Well, speaking from my own experience, I think in many cases it does involve a certain insecurity and/or even self hate.

I would have never posted such a comment on a public message board, but I once avoided anyone who was gay or even thought may be gay for years and even in private said hateful things. The truth is I'm gay and it took me years to accept this about myself. I hated myself for being gay even! I think many of these comments are nothing but someone expressing their own internal conflicts.

Anyway, now that I've gotten to know a few gays I've discovered they're some of the warmest and friendliest people, especially my boyfriend. I was so wrong in my perceptions of the gay community! Sorry you've had to encounter this kind of hate, justaguy!

Like you, Robertac, I was in the closet for a long time (longer than you, I imagine). And when I talk to a lot of other formerly-closeted guys, they say the same thing. But I must've been a weirdo closet case, because I was always very gay-friendly. I've had an openly gay friend for 20 years.

But in a way it shows how screwed up I was: it was OK for my friend to be gay, but not OK for me to be gay? WTF? I never said it made any sense.

Anyway, I totally agree that gay men are so warm and friendly. It's one reason I don't get why some gay guys pursue str8 guys. I find gay guys to be warm, cuddly, and far more interesting than your average str8 guy.

 

[kallipolis]

In my experience warm, cuddly men are as likely to be as human, as the next gay man. In other words let us not presume that such human qualities are monopolised by gay men.

 

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I certainly never said monopolized.