what qualities do you look for in a guy?

[LateNite85]

Brainy guys always get my heartrate up. I love a smart man more than anything else. Next, I like a guy with a serious funny bone. So if we can have deep conversations and you can make me laugh (alot), I'm yours.

As far as the physical goes, I always had a thing for husky guys...they're cuddly and I like to hug. But the physical doesn't matter quite as much as the other traits.

Lately though...since I've been out for 2 years and still haven't gotten anything more than a wink from a guy (ever), my qualities have dropped down to just one requirement: Just have a pulse.

 

[Invidious]

You have to have a brain, you don't have to be a member of MENSA or anything, but please be able to hold an intelligent conversation. A good sense of humor is a must as I love to laugh and love those that make me do so. Physically I am not a supermodel so I don't expect that, but some evidence that you do more than sit and watch TV/Play Video games all day is nice. Oh and if we have at least one shared interest that helps..if you are a car guy that is +++++++

 

[nihilis]

I'd just want someone who's honest, loyal, faithful, and who will love me, commit to me, and have my back so that I can do the same. I can take moody, and I can take protective, but jealousy is a little much. Since I'm on the introverted side, I'd like someone who's a little more outgoing than me and who's sensitive but manly. Everything else is kinda irrelevant, though I have a thing for Irishmen with brown hair and blue eyes. A lefty would also be kinda cool (don't ask, I have a weird fixation with lefty's).

 

[evil_danger]

< --- Is a lefty and can do a fake Irish accent... but I'm English so its almost the same... hehe

Someone who isn't afraid to take charge of a relationship, I'm always gonna be the distant one, lost in my own head, drowning in my own depression, I need someone who can pull me out of that, I need someone who is willing to get me out of myself, I probably need someone who is just as messed up as I am so we can kinda help each other out. I need not want, need someone who can see into me and know when I'm faking a smile or when I really am happy.

Okay the good sense of humor stuff too, but to be honest I can connect with most peoples senses of humor anyway.

Phyiscally I would love someone taller than me, got a thing for black hair on a guy.

 

[nihilis]

Is a lefty and can do a fake Irish accent... but I'm English so its almost the same... hehe

Either accent drives me wild (and I mean in a good way). Just saying...

 

[comfortable]

contagious smile, good sense of humor, can handle some sarcasm (cause I'm FULL of it), relatively good body, and good fashion sense...I believe in taking pride in one's appearance ; - )

 

[landers]

Physically I would want someone who is a few inches taller than me so it makes it easier to rest my head on his shoulder and neither of us has to get on a step ladder to kiss the other one. Someone who is similarly proportioned would also be nice so we can share clothes.

Someone who shares at least a few of my interests but not necessarily all of them because I do like to talk about my interests and it would be nice if he knew what I was talking about some of the time. A good sense of humour since I'm a sarcastic bastard. Someone who is logical and rational. Someone who likes to cuddle, will hold me when I've had a bad day because it's the best way to make me feel better and when I'm sick will sit on the couch with me watching tv/movies and cook me chicken soup to make me feel better (or call my mom and get her to make soup for me if he can't cook).

 

[marky mark]

pretty much my current boyfriend of 1.5 years.

funny, slightly goofy, makes me smile and laugh all the time, similar interests, *smart enough* (i'm not going to quiz him, but he needs to have enough brains to know what's going on), not overly flamboyant (we all have our moments)... basically someone that balances me out.

light brown hair, green/brown eyes, gorgeous smile, my height, about my weight... yeah =) and he's sweet to boot

 

[TomahawkEagle]

Well educated, non-smoker, rarely drinks alcohol, cute and nice looking.

 

[Pathfinder]

/necro

If we're talking about body - i love the "tall, dark and handsome" type of guys with deep dark eyes (brown, black or dark blue/green; not a fan of light blue). I'm not too much into muscles, so guys who spend all of their days in the gym - no. A few tattoos or piercings is sexy. Personality wise, he should be a person who knows who he is, and can/will fight for what he believes in. Someone who is intelligent, faithful, outgoing. Loves to watch movies and shows, has a romantic side (while coming off as a tough and serious person), prefers to make love over sex, enjoys a very long cuddle/hug session. Perspective and not manipulative (by society, his family, friends or me). And also has a childish side. Something along those lines.

 

[Bi_Stud]

^ We have the EXACT same taste in men.

Physical: Tall, dark-haired, nice build, and handsome...tattoo's and piercings definitely are a plus for me. But not too many.

Non-Physical (the most important) : Somebody who can make me laugh. I love a guy who is goofy and a softie under all that tough exterior.

Yeah.. pretty much what Pathfinder said... haha. Thanks man.

 

[hothunk222]

Intelligent but not cocky about it.
Takes care of himself, looks presentable.
Sweet, kind, warm, good manners, a little bit goofy and weird.
Smells good
is laid back and down to earth.
has sparkly and friendly looking eyes.

 

[sacrednerve]

For me, the only things that really matter are physical attractiveness and a good personality. If a guy doesn't take pride in his appearance or has a bad attitude, he's not for me.

Physically, my ideal guy is in good shape (doesn't have to be super chiseled because Lord I'm not [yet], but he can't be flabby), shorter than me, and clean-cut. I'm not into thuggy or punkish guys.

Personality wise, I'm not that picky. As long as nice, laid-back and interesting to talk to, he passes the test. However, the one thing I absolutely hate is a "straight-acting" man. Don't get me wrong, I'm very attracted to masculinity, but I have no time for self-hating fags who are obsessed with aping straight dudes. You know what kind of guys I mean: the ones who are so repelled by the idea of being considered "stereotypically gay" that they won't even shampoo their hair or clip their toenails.

Other than that, I'm not that picky.

 

[Persian89]

Totally opposite me, except when it comes to intelligence.
I can't stand... whats the word I am looking for.
...
Lets just say immature guys below 18, that show no manner or won't even show a slight interest in writing correct or behaving good.
I can't stand the typical gay stuff -_-

 

[inlovewithblair]

I've never been in a relationship, but these are the qualities that I think I'd be into:

- fair skin or tanned skin, but not really in between
- light eyes, whether they're brown, blue, green, or hazel
- athletic build, but not overly muscular
- someone who plays any sport, but preferably tennis
- not hairy
- nice skin; doesn't have to be flawless, but smooth and one-tone
- no bushy eyebrows
- someone who's romantic, but not in the cheesy way; or in a way that he's embarrassed to be romantic, so he tries, but it isn't romantic at all, but I think it's cute, LOL.
- someone who gives me a lot of attention
- someone who is funny, but not stupid-funny
- someone who dresses presentably, but not better than me
- someone who's just a nice person and gets along with my friends
- no flamer.

 

[Headphone90]

Funny is good..id much rather have sex with someone who can make me laugh than someone who is all like "yeah you want my cock dont you baby"(ick). he should be about as attractive as I am (or as I consider myself). He should have a job, doesnt have to be rich but should want to work (My career/ hobbies take alot of my time....he should have something to do when I am busy that doesnt include sleeping around or doing alot of drugs).

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[jJoEd77]

never been in a relationship but. . .

-for sure a cuddler. someone to snuggle in with you and
watch a movie
-cute smile
-not crazy outgoing
being shy is pretty sexy
-stubble is crazy hottt

and then the normal ones:
-someone who makes me laugh
-smart
-kind
-etc.

 

[Mysterons]

Of course, the appearance is what draws my attention first, but if the guy is a bummer, I'll lose interest in a second. So, personality is first:

* Intelligent/Mature
* Well-spoken
* Affectionate
* Slightly shy (!!): People who are too outgoing kinda bore me, for some reason I tend to find shy guys more interesting (a bit shy, you know, not autistic, lol).

We should have some things common (or at least not totally opposite), such as music taste and stuff.

Regarding appearance:

Above all: he has to wear 'normal' clothes. Flamboyant/Punky clothing is a huge turn-off.
* Deep voice: not like Vin Diesel, lol, but at least not high-pitched.
* Short hair.
* A bit taller than me -or at least not shorter.
* Nice eyes, or rather NICE LOOK. Rather than eyes of a stunning blue, what attracts me more is the way a guy looks at you.
* Average build, not athletic. Just not skinny.
* Some short beard may be a plus, depending on the guy.

I also tend to be more attracted to blond guys, but as I said before, I don't find that so important.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

I need a man with real sensuality. Someone who believes there's an art to presentation.

 

[darkdreamerx]

Geeky and handsome (the combination DOES exist!).

Good sense of humor.

I like masculine men.