What Should I Do (Facebook Marriage)

[Lewis1]

Ok So Me and my friend (that is a girl) Decided that we should say were married on FB. And I really thought it would be great because ppul that add me or friends that i reconnected with would think I am 1) Straight 2) A good catch enough for someone to find attractive and marry.

But now....

My distant relatives are adding me and Assuming its real.
My uncle actually called me and was grilling me about "our life" (not really grilling but just being nosy in general cause ive been so far away so long) And Ive made up more lies about why we live in separate states and ( I had to think of something)

So the dilemma is

I really did not expect to see family members on facebook I dont know why but I tottaly did not expect to be communicating with them on facebook. I am glad I am though but I do not want to lie to them eventhough I enjoy the thought of them "thinking" I turned out normal I feel even worse keeping up the charade now.

So what should I do ...

I was contemplating letting some time pass and then divorcing lol and tell them it was a marriage of convenience one of those if we arent married by a certain age we would marry each other deals...

Ps. Flat out telling them I am BI and my marriage was fake is not an option lol

 

[Craig86]

lol okay um firstly: if you're 'married' with someone on FB, that doesn't necessarily mean people are going to think you're a catch! So I don't know where you got that idea from

So your parents obviously know you're not actually married.. have your family talked to them about it? Because if they have it's likely the truth has come out that you aren't actually married. Maybe check the truth hasn't come out first. I would say you just need to put this to rest. People do silly things on FB with their friends all the time like this. Just 'divorce' and when people go 'nawwwww' or 'what happenedddddddddd' just write some sarcastic comment that makes it out it was all a joke. You can't really go on with your family all thinking you're a) married and b) married to someone in another state! Just get it out of the way, is my advice!

 

[Lewis1]

lol okay um firstly: if you're 'married' with someone on FB, that doesn't necessarily mean people are going to think you're a catch! So I don't know where you got that idea from

So your parents obviously know you're not actually married.. have your family talked to them about it? Because if they have it's likely the truth has come out that you aren't actually married. Maybe check the truth hasn't come out first. I would say you just need to put this to rest. People do silly things on FB with their friends all the time like this. Just 'divorce' and when people go 'nawwwww' or 'what happenedddddddddd' just write some sarcastic comment that makes it out it was all a joke. You can't really go on with your family all thinking you're a) married and b) married to someone in another state! Just get it out of the way, is my advice!

Umm lol
I dont know where I got it but I know it dispells a few myths
you know how ppul say " a good man like you isnt spoken for"
or whatever or the response of "hes married" when someone is suspected of being gay ..not 100% science here but you get what i mean

and ugh this is gonna be hard

i like being married lol

 

[Lewis1]

You dug the hole, now you have to own up to it.

The only real way to get out of this is to admit that it was a fake marriage. You can say it was "just for kicks" or whatever, but the best option is to just come out.

I dont think i can bring myself to do that

that makes me out to be a BLATANT liar & a phony and thats not who I am lol

we married on fb for "fashionable" reasons

but i just dont want ppul i really know to get the wrong idea

but i got sucked into the way they talked to me ......it was like i joined the manhood club or something when they ask me about her

but i will try to squirm out of it

dammit

 

[Craig86]

All you need to do is divorce on FB and write in the comments it was a joke. Your family will see and that'll be the end of it!!

 

[Lewis1]

All you need to do is divorce on FB and write in the comments it was a joke. Your family will see and that'll be the end of it!!

that is too damn drastic

i need to know how i can ease out it lmao

 

[rjmrjm21]

LOL That is hilarious if true. Just be honest and say it was a prank. Unless you're really into the girl?

 

[TX-Beau]

...that makes me out to be a BLATANT liar & a phony and thats not who I am lol...

...but i just dont want ppul i really know to get the wrong idea...

I'm sorry to be so blunt, but you are blatantly lying - about several things, and your marriage is phony - and you did want people to get the wrong idea.

The longer you go with the lying the worse it gets, and the worse you look when people find out, and they will.

And when they do, they're going to ask themselves why you lied and kept lying, and the answer is going to occur to someone - gay.

 

[CHUCK905]

I'm sorry to be so blunt, but you are blatantly lying - about several things, and your marriage is phony - and you did want people to get the wrong idea.

The longer you go with the lying the worse it gets, and the worse you look when people find out, and they will.

And when they do, they're going to ask themselves why you lied and kept lying, and the answer is going to occur to someone - gay.

^^^ Totally agree. You can't lie about a phony marriage and then try to come off as not a liar and a phony. It was a joke, a prank. The acceptable FB transition is "it's complicated" for a week or 2 then "single." What's wrong with telling relatives it was a joke with your gal pal? They don't think things are a real on FB do they? If so they need to be schooled.

 

[On The Edge]

I know alot of gay & some totally straight people....just use the feature for fun...as they good friends...knowing that most will realise that it's only that...since you ain't really living together or did the whole marriage thing ..

 

[Seasoned]

Being gay is normal. It's a normal sexual orientation that doesn't need fixing.

 

[future_retro]

All you need to do is divorce on FB and write in the comments it was a joke. Your family will see and that'll be the end of it!!

Agreed, this is the best way.

 

[looseliam]

Get a divorce

srsl, how long do you think you can keep this up?

 

[Lewis1]

^^^ Totally agree. You can't lie about a phony marriage and then try to come off as not a liar and a phony. It was a joke, a prank. The acceptable FB transition is "it's complicated" for a week or 2 then "single." What's wrong with telling relatives it was a joke with your gal pal? They don't think things are a real on FB do they? If so they need to be schooled.

Damn yall goin INN oiuwhueuikwoisjsj

But

I think they do they didn't question if it was real or not.

I will have to look into the its complicated thing

but i really cant do that now since i just spoke with everyone about her (insinuating everything was fine)

 

[altlover85]

I dont think i can bring myself to do that

that makes me out to be a BLATANT liar & a phony and thats not who I am lol

we married on fb for "fashionable" reasons

but i just dont want ppul i really know to get the wrong idea

but i got sucked into the way they talked to me ......it was like i joined the manhood club or something when they ask me about her

but i will try to squirm out of it

dammit

You are a liar and a phony. Frankly, it's not the end of the world. You had your reasons for doing so and maybe people will understand and maybe not.

Damn yall goin INN oiuwhueuikwoisjsj

But

I think they do they didn't question if it was real or not.

I will have to look into the its complicated thing

but i really cant do that now since i just spoke with everyone about her (insinuating everything was fine)

I honestly feel like you are making this worse by keeping up the lie.

You should just come out. What you are doing is pretty silly and a little unhealthy.

Good luck with things.

 

[CHUCK905]

Dear Lewis:
This is a definition from the Urban Dictionary that should have your picture next to it:

DRAMA QUEEN :

Someone who turns something unimportant into a major deal. Someone who blows things way out of proportion when ever the chance is given.

Damn yall goin INN oiuwhueuikwoisjsj

But

I think they do they didn't question if it was real or not.

I will have to look into the its complicated thing

but i really cant do that now since i just spoke with everyone about her (insinuating everything was fine)

 

[Lewis1]

You are a liar and a phony. Frankly, it's not the end of the world. You had your reasons for doing so and maybe people will understand and maybe not.



I honestly feel like you are making this worse by keeping up the lie.

You should just come out. What you are doing is pretty silly and a little unhealthy.

Good luck with things.

I really am not a liar and a phony...otherwise I wouldnt be feeling guilty for appearing so.

but i guess i know what i need to do

 

[Just_Believe18]

Wat is this i dont even

 

[treanir]

i need to know how i can ease out it lmao

You can't.

Bottom line: you've been lying to people. When your relatives asked you about your marriage, you didn't immediately tell them it wasn't real, and that led them to believe it was. The only real recourse you have now is to switch to 'single' and explain to everyone who asks that it was a joke. Some people will be angry, but they'll come around.

That's really the only thing you can do here.

 

[TX-Beau]

I really am not a liar and a phony…

Ok So Me and my friend (that is a girl) Decided that we should say were married on FB. And I really thought it would be great because ppul that add me or friends that i reconnected with would think I am 1) Straight 2) A good catch enough for someone to find attractive and marry...

...And I’ve made up more lies about why we live in separate states and (I had to think of something)...

...but I do not want to lie to them even though I enjoy the thought of them "thinking" I turned out normal I feel even worse keeping up the charade now.

...Flat out telling them I am BI and my marriage was fake is not an option lol...

You didn’t do this as a joke, you did it to feel “normal.”