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What Should I Do For a Date?

Sportsguy313

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This Friday I'm hanging out with a guy and I'd like to actually take the lead in what we do. Usually I go along with the other person in these situations.

I'm a quiet/reserved person and conversation is usually hard for me. Its hard for me to think of topics to talk about and the other person usually takes the lead. So if anyone has any suggestions to talk about that would be good also.

We hung out Monday as a setup through a mutual friend and we both like each other. The situation was at this persons house and he had other friends over so it was slightly awkward, but it seems we're pretty similar.

We're probably going to go out to eat, but idk what else to do since we're in a small town. Many people might say a movie but it limits the interaction between us for a couple of hours. If I brought him back to my place after eating that might not give a good message.

Any Ideas?
 
Any activity would be ideal. It doesn't necessarily have to be an amazingly fun activity - just something to do together.

* bowling
* miniature golf
* museum/art exhibit
* see a local band perform
* shopping - clothes, mall, Target

The activity can serve as a jumping point for a bunch of conversation. "My friend used to have minature golf parties for his birthday every year between the ages of five and twenty." "I really need a new sweater, but I'm not sure if I should buy one now that winter's about half done." "I like this type of art, even I don't think it'd work at all well at my place."

Lex
 
I agree with Lex - he's very smart and it is a wise thing to do - - find an activity and since you are "Sportsguy" something you feel comfortable doing would be best.

Have you read anything your thought special; have you seen a really good game; bring those up and talk about them. Find those areas that your interests intersect / overlap. I'm sure you will do fine and have fun. Remember, having fun should be the goal.

Celebrate your life,
Rand
 
You know, you could always ring him up and ask what he enjoys doing and what he would like to do on your date.

It also provides an excuse to chat with him before the date.
 
Gosh, I think shopping on a date is a real risk, especially if you are already a little queeny.
 
It is a date... I use the term hanging out since idk how else to describe it. Its in the 30s so we couldn't do anything outside. Also it'll probably be dark out.

Maybe bowling is the best of those options Lex

we're both not shopping people, no art stuff here and i dont like it anyway, both not into music that much so no band, too cold for mini golf
 
Sportsguy313 said:
I'm a quiet/reserved person and conversation is usually hard for me. Its hard for me to think of topics to talk about and the other person usually takes the lead. So if anyone has any suggestions to talk about that would be good also.
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That sounds just like me. I hung out with a guy last weekend and I think he got a little freaked out by the fact I was so quiet. Now he tells me he's not sure I have a personality :( I'm really hoping we can hang out again though. Sorry, I know that's not any advice to you, but just saying that I know how you feel about that.
 
Sportsguy313 said:
It is a date... I use the term hanging out since idk how else to describe it. Its in the 30s so we couldn't do anything outside. Also it'll probably be dark out.

Maybe bowling is the best of those options Lex

we're both not shopping people, no art stuff here and i dont like it anyway, both not into music that much so no band, too cold for mini golf
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honestly if that is your pic in your avatar just lift up your shirt it will do a lot of the talking :D

but if you are looking for other ideas of what to do heres a few:

Boardgame
movie
watch t.v. together
video games
is you have access to a heated pool those are always fun
 
Yes that is me, and he knows what I look like. I don't want someone liking me because of my body though.

I already mentioned bowling to him so we're going to do that.
 
Sportsguy313 said:
I don't want someone liking me because of my body though.
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And yet you use a shirtless pic. I have no problem with it. Just as I have no problem with Sarah Palin suggesting abstinence only. Its the hypocrisy that stinks. Mark Foley, Larry Craig, David Vitter . . . holier than thou hypocrites.
 
After the dinner, go to someone's house. What happened to putting on TV and a nice cup of coffee. When it's time to go, leave. He'll get the right impression if you ain't a skank-hoe.
 
inlovewithblair said:
After the dinner, go to someone's house. What happened to putting on TV and a nice cup of coffee. When it's time to go, leave. He'll get the right impression if you ain't a skank-hoe.
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May have misread it. I think I just looked at the previous post and the last part of this sentence stuck out.
I'm not sure what your trying to say exactly.
 
PabloZed said:
And yet you use a shirtless pic. I have no problem with it. Just as I have no problem with Sarah Palin suggesting abstinence only. Its the hypocrisy that stinks. Mark Foley, Larry Craig, David Vitter . . . holier than thou hypocrites.
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A shirtless pic might entice someone to try to contact me or want to get to know me, but it's just for that. I'm not a great communicator and its difficult for me to talk to people. So when meeting people, its mostly about comfort for me. I try to a view on their opinions/history so I can try to understand and connect with them.

I don't see how that's hypocritical if I say I don't want someone liking me because of my body. They should like me as a person, and how I look is extra if they're attracted to me.

I don't get why people are attacking me, especially when no one knows my personality and how I act. I was just looking for advice
 
Sportsguy313 said:
A shirtless pic might entice someone to try to contact me or want to get to know me, but it's just for that. I'm not a great communicator and its difficult for me to talk to people. So when meeting people, its mostly about comfort for me. I try to a view on their opinions/history so I can try to understand and connect with them.

I don't see how that's hypocritical if I say I don't want someone liking me because of my body. They should like me as a person, and how I look is extra if they're attracted to me.

I don't get why people are attacking me, especially when no one knows my personality and how I act. I was just looking for advice
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I wasn't attacking you. I'm sorry if you got that impression. I said that you should go to his house or he should go to yours. Then, you should make a cup of coffee and watch TV. You shouldn't worry about giving him the "wrong impression" because if you aren't a hoe, which I implied you weren't, then you'd give him the "right impression".
 
>>>And yet you use a shirtless pic. I have no problem with it. Just as I have no problem with Sarah Palin suggesting abstinence only. Its the hypocrisy that stinks. Mark Foley, Larry Craig, David Vitter . . . holier than thou hypocrites.

Um, he's going on a get-to-know-you date. THIS, however, is a messageboard on a gay porn website. I thought you were smarter than that.

Lex
 
And a reminder that is the no-flame zone.
 
Sportsguy313 said:
May have misread it. I think I just looked at the previous post and the last part of this sentence stuck out.
I'm not sure what your trying to say exactly.
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Are you a skank-hoe?

No.

If he comes back to your place, he won't get the wrong impression.

If you were a skank-hoe, then he'd get the wrong impression.

But, since you're not, you're fine.
 
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