What Should I do Next?

[nautiboyjeff]

If you get him on the phone or a chance to talk to him - perhaps a FB message - you need to clarify....just say "Did you say "I love you" two times when we talked - because that's what I heard and that's why I am trying to understand what's going on and keep pursing a way to communicate with you."

You seem to be hanging on this one peice of information and you are not even sure you heard what you heard.

Ask him to just answer that one question. Ask him if you can meet in a park (or somewhere public) and just talk.

 

[TX-Beau]

He obviously didn't understand what I meant by "like"…
"Not really, you think I'm funny? Cool? What? Fill me in." he says. What a line
"You know. . . more than the usual. . ." I reply.

That weekend I tell him what I actually meant.
His response: "Yikes."

I attempt to break into his locker through the most extraordinary means.

He doesn't talk to from then on. Even until now. After Christmas -- still no response. He completely ignores me, no hellos or anything.

"umm.. . can I ask you something?" I ask.
"Why?" he queries.

Now, what I hear him say next is: "I love you." He very, very quickly says "I have to go" in a slightly aggressive tone. I say bye, and the conversation ends.

I still ponder if he said "i love you". I tell myself "he probably said f**k you"

Now. . . our relationship remains in tatters. I love him so much, with all my heart, I wish we could be together, but he remains ignoring me.

John, on Facebook, claims to be completely straight.
I told him that very few people are 100% straight or 100% gay, He denies it

He ignores me plenty, like avoiding crossing each other in the hallway. Lately, he's been acting much stranger too.

When I thought he said "I love you" -- TWICE,

However, I've observed they are childhood friends. Their parents are obviously friends with her parents. If John were to not be her "boyfriend" then that might cause huge trouble between the two families, especially since this girl seems annoyingly addicted to him (he is amazingly handsome).

I tried inviting him over a few weeks after telling him how I felt.
He said he was going to a cabin or something for the long school break.

So far, my plan is the wait for him to come online Facebook.
Hopefully he won't ignore me this time, like he has for the past three months.
I intend on asking him what he said before saying "I have to go." on the phone.

Sometimes I manage to convince myself "Dang, it's obvious he said I love you!"

I'm still not "sure" he said "I love you" on the phone.

I have told him on several occasions that I love him -- but that was online.

Besides, ignoring him would only make it easier for him to ignore me –

I was thinking that too -- the anger in his tone could be him being upset. It wasn't quit anger, it was slight. . . slight anger. . . I could say it was the tone of an upset person.

Eeeh... so confused. He isn't replying on Facebook.

Whilst I really do believe he said "I love you" and simply, was taken too much by surprise to acknowledge it -- I'm dumbfounded at why he ignores me so actively. Consequently, I'm a little scared to call him. What's to stop him from hanging up on me?

If only I could hear properly if he said "I love you" or not. . .
If only he wasn't ignoring me. . .

I'd say he's being quite clear. Unless you require a black eye to see it. Emphasis mine.

 

[Ramius]

Quite clear -- about saying "I love you" too me? Lol.

Thanks for replying nautiboyjeff.

Now that I think about it -- just directly asking him if he said "I love you" or not makes things seem far easier than before. I think I'll do that.

 

[TX-Beau]

Quite clear -- about saying "I love you" too me? Lol.

Now that I think about it -- just directly asking him if he said "I love you" or not ....

Hopefully he won't ignore me this time, like he has for the past three months.
I intend on asking him what he said before saying "I have to go." on the phone.

Sometimes I manage to convince myself "Dang, it's obvious he said I love you!"

If you won't hear, you won't.

 

[Ramius]

I'm trying to listen to you -- but you're being vague.

Yes, those quotes make some sense.

However, the last two quotes you made indicate that it's quite clear he said he loves me -- what are you imposing?

Are you meaning to say that I have a chance or not? Please be a little more specific?

 

[Ramius]

Athiest here.
I don't believe something is meant to be or not meant to be.

I stop praying, get up, and do something about it.

I think I'll send him a voice message or. . . do something a little less rational in real life. Going broke

 

[TX-Beau]

I'm trying to listen to you -- but you're being vague.

Yes, those quotes make some sense.

However, the last two quotes you made indicate that it's quite clear he said he loves me -- what are you imposing?

Are you meaning to say that I have a chance or not? Please be a little more specific?

If there was no doubt he said "I love you," you'd be obsessing over something else entirely. But you don't know that's what he said, you admitted that yourself. I am of the opinion that you do know what he said, and you just didn't want to hear it.

So the question becomes, are you really looking for advice, or just looking for people who'll tell you what you want to hear? Let's cover both cases shall we.

Here's the advice:

You're hounding and pursuing this poor guy, who's made it ABUNDANTLY clear he isn't interested, or even gay. This is stalking. Stop it. If you push him far enough, he's probably going to knock your head off. I can't say I'd blame him.

I don't know how old you are but we'll just assume 18. Which is old enough to know better. Somewhere out there in the big gay universe is a gay man who'd love for you to break into his locker. Go find HIM.


Here's what you want to hear:

Despite his protestations of being straight and having a girlfriend, and all the ignoring, and the things he said which we all know he didn't mean, he's secretly in lovey love of purest kind with you, all rainbows and pastel bunnies and unicorns; and he can't express it because of the cold, cruel world, which forces him to date this evil bitch to appease his parents; but if you just have faith and hang on, incessantly try to contact him, stare at him long enough from across the room, follow him in the halls, break into his locker to leave little love gifts; the grand beauty of your feelings for him will become a bridge for him to cross into the euphoric land of erotic gay bliss.

 

[Ramius]

I should've included this as further evidence about his so called gf, but here it goes.

I managed to take a look at his online "Important Relationships" assignment.
I know the name of this girl who so flirtatiously acts upon John.

In John's assignment, he didn't put her name as his girlfriend.
He put "Maddy". Some kind of puppets name by all means. If he can't even put her simple name on his assignment, he can't feel too much for that girl.

Anyways, you finally knocked some more sense into me.
Poor John. . . I've been so rough.

As for finding some other gay man who'd love me. . . John's one of a kind