what should I do?

[mrhumphrys]

Today I feel quite confused, I have been running a training day for adult health care workers and at the end one of the male participants came up to me and offered me a lift home. As I don’t drive I said Ok, he stopped outside the house and before I could even say thank you he leaned right over and kissed me. He then said he had wanted to do it all day and hoped I wasn’t offended. Well I wasn’t really but it was such a shock. I certainly hadn’t picked up any vibes from him during the day. He has asked to meet again on Wednesday and I just said fine and quickly got out, but I don’t know whether I should or not. It just feels awkward as he will have to attend at least two other training sessions which have been booked. Help!

 

[Rgncajun]

Aren't you married?

 

[TylerDurden222]

just say no, then at the end of the last class get his number. problem solved.

 

[star-warrior]

This is where professional ethics come in. ^ wot he said.

 

[mike_n_herrin]

Not knowing your married situation (i.e., if you are in an open relationship or not), i would agree with tyler and star. wait till at least he is done with the class.

 

[d1919v]

sounds like a tricky situation. firstly, he came off very forward. it would draw me to question his past activity given he didn't have any hesitations about making a move on you. i agree with the above comments, give it some time. go out for coffee and wait and see what happens. also, make sure to play it safe during the next few days of training (i.e. no obvious glances and whatnot). good luck! keep us posted...

 

[mrhumphrys]

Thanks for your advice. The more I have thought about it the more I just want to avoid the situation completely, so have cancelled our meeting tomorrow.

Yes, I am married (and with kids) but we have had a really open relationship for several years now so my wife is ok. We have talked about this situation too and although she thinks if I fancy him I should 'live a little' she agrees that I should at least wait until the end of the training. Thanks again.

Will keep you posted.

 

[Storybook_Man]

I would say, tell him that you would like to keep it professional for now at least until the training sessions are done. Then afterwards you could possibly meet up with him again. But who knows how he would react.