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Have a quick question, and your honesty is highly appreciated.

I sort of like this guy I have been talking to on and off of adam4adam. We exchanged numbers, texted, and have talked on the phone. The thing is.. he says he's interested, but never initiates conversation with me. I have even pointed it out to him.

I guess what I want to know is... do you think I should just move on, or ride it out? :confused:


Thank you.

Schuyler "Schuylerrr"
 
honestly, I hate when people play games, I you should just move on. But b4 you do let him know "put up or shut up"
 
There are people who do not know how to initiate conversations. Maybe he is one of those people?
 
It may not matter who initiates the conversation. The real questions is, does he keep his promises? Ask him to meet you in person. You'll quickly find out if he's really interested or not.
 
He told me that he's gone through some life changes in the past few weeks, and let me know January would be better for us to meet in person, but even still.. he's still not making a big effort to see how I'm doing throughout the day. I go through a lot as well, and I guess I want some form of reciprocation.. you know? but I guess you could be right.. maybe he's not much of a conversation starter.. *I talk a lot.. sorry.. haha*
 
If he puts off the meeting more than once, walk away. He's not interested.
 
I dont know all the details but he sounds like one of those trolls who posts other peoples pics on his profile so he can chat with and get attention from hot guys he wouldn't dare approach in a bar. Try to get him to cam, if he says he doesnt have one you know he's full of shit.
 
And now, when he said he's interested in you. Did he mention whether it's for sex or for friendship/dating purposes? I don't think you should think too much about how come he doesn't initiate conversations on a4a. Some people don't take something like a4a seriously so they don't put a whole lot of effort into online chatting. He could be one of those guys that will talk more and engage in a real life conversation....but I'm just speculating since I don't know the details.

For now, just wait until January and sees if he's really want to meet you or not. If he doesn't put effort into meeting you after 2 attempts then time to move on.
 
There's a new category of relationships that has developed over the past decade- the "online relationship". It exists only over chat, phone texts and occasionally over voice.

Generally, if the person isn't offering early to meet in person (and that meeting doesn't happen early) then the relationship will continue only as an online one.

These online relationships are fine... for what they are.

But if you're looking for someone to curl up next to on a cold night or to wake up with in the morning, you should probably look in the real world instead of the online world.
 
batman7457 said:
I dont know all the details but he sounds like one of those trolls who posts other peoples pics on his profile so he can chat with and get attention from hot guys he wouldn't dare approach in a bar. Try to get him to cam, if he says he doesnt have one you know he's full of shit.
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he was for real.. i have gone through that once, though.. 2 or 3 years ago. The guy told the truth after a bit of conversation, and I forgave him for it.
 
hotb0d said:
And now, when he said he's interested in you. Did he mention whether it's for sex or for friendship/dating purposes? I don't think you should think too much about how come he doesn't initiate conversations on a4a. Some people don't take something like a4a seriously so they don't put a whole lot of effort into online chatting. He could be one of those guys that will talk more and engage in a real life conversation....but I'm just speculating since I don't know the details.

For now, just wait until January and sees if he's really want to meet you or not. If he doesn't put effort into meeting you after 2 attempts then time to move on.
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We were going to go on a coffee/tea date, but he did mention getting me into bed. lol. I gave up on him, and I told him I just want to be friends because I felt like I was putting more effort than he was. To be real, though.. I know he'll never talk to me again. That's how it is on a4a.

KaraBulut said:
There's a new category of relationships that has developed over the past decade- the "online relationship". It exists only over chat, phone texts and occasionally over voice.

Generally, if the person isn't offering early to meet in person (and that meeting doesn't happen early) then the relationship will continue only as an online one.

These online relationships are fine... for what they are.

But if you're looking for someone to curl up next to on a cold night or to wake up with in the morning, you should probably look in the real world instead of the online world.
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Thanks for the insight. :)
 
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