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Hey guys, been reading these forums for a while but just now decided to make an account and post.

So just a little back info, I'm 20 years old, going to school in So Cal, but I'm back home in Nor Cal for the summer. I'm in a fraternity and in the closet still so I haven't really hooked up too much and I guess you could say I'm really inexperienced lol.

Anyways like 2 nights ago I met this really hot guy and he was really chill and we hit it off extremely well. I had mentioned something about transferring schools and coming back to Nor Cal and he was saying like dude you totally should so I can see you more often and I haven't met a guy like you in a really long time. Anyways one thing led to another and we ended up hooking up and going all the way. I guess I was a little too excited and came like right away, so after I came I started giving him head and he seemed really into it but he fell asleep like halfway through lol (we were drinking though). I ended up spending the night and we did it again when we woke up, and the same thing happened again, I came waaaay too early and then he just wasn't into it anymore. So after that I took a shower and left, but we didn't like kiss or hug or anything before I left, we just said bye to each other.

So overall the sex was realllllly bad on my part lol and I could totally tell he wasn't satisfied at all, he didn't even cum. So I guess I'm wondering like if I should text or call him or not even bother because I kind of got the vibe that he wasn't interested at the end but i wasn't totally sure and if i do talk to him like what to say. Sorry if this seems like a really lame question haha like i said I'm really new to this and kinda confused right now but I haven't been able to stop thinking about him.
 
Welcome to active membership. Text the guy. Let him know that you felt ackward. Whatever happens you have learned a few things: you like a connection with a sex partner; you're not a machine; and, you feel a connection with someone with whom you were intimate. That's all good stuff to know. If the guy was just interested in sex this might not go any further, but it sounds like you'd like closure on the evening. It also sounds like you are capable of handling either outcome of your text. Give it a shot. It will be another learning experience for you.

Try jacking off before planned sex. I don't have experience with that because I have the opposite issue. It takes me forever and some guys would lose interest.
 
elmateo said:
Hey guys, been reading these forums for a while but just now decided to make an account and post.

So just a little back info, I'm 20 years old, going to school in So Cal, but I'm back home in Nor Cal for the summer. I'm in a fraternity and in the closet still so I haven't really hooked up too much and I guess you could say I'm really inexperienced lol.

Anyways like 2 nights ago I met this really hot guy and he was really chill and we hit it off extremely well. I had mentioned something about transferring schools and coming back to Nor Cal and he was saying like dude you totally should so I can see you more often and I haven't met a guy like you in a really long time. Anyways one thing led to another and we ended up hooking up and going all the way. I guess I was a little too excited and came like right away, so after I came I started giving him head and he seemed really into it but he fell asleep like halfway through lol (we were drinking though). I ended up spending the night and we did it again when we woke up, and the same thing happened again, I came waaaay too early and then he just wasn't into it anymore. So after that I took a shower and left, but we didn't like kiss or hug or anything before I left, we just said bye to each other.

So overall the sex was realllllly bad on my part lol and I could totally tell he wasn't satisfied at all, he didn't even cum. So I guess I'm wondering like if I should text or call him or not even bother because I kind of got the vibe that he wasn't interested at the end but i wasn't totally sure and if i do talk to him like what to say. Sorry if this seems like a really lame question haha like i said I'm really new to this and kinda confused right now but I haven't been able to stop thinking about him.
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Unlike with women, I don't think ejaculating early is necessarilly as big a problem with gay men. In my experience I've slept with people and didn't ejaculate or orgasm (I think with one guy, he somehow felt it was cuz he wasn't good enough :S). But going back to the point, I think you should at least text him to see how he is doing, at least for your own closure. Its entirely possible that he only wanted to fool around and has no interest in following up. I guess for now try not getting too attached... what I mean is that, when it was my first time, I got partially attached to the guy, not because I was in love with him or was crushing with him, but mainly because he was both my first time and the first gay guy I knew, and it sure feels lonely when your in the closet and know only one gay guy ;-).

Take it in strides, and remember that if he does not reciprocate a desire to see you, there are plenty more gay fish in the sea, whether its for friendship or dating~
 
Definitely call him -- and tell him that you need more PRACTICE!!! :D

I think its cool that you found someone that you might have a GREAT summer with...

Don't let the opportunity pass up without at least trying...

Best of luck...

:):):)
 
I agree with the above, text him and just talk to him... worse case scenario he says he isn't interested, but hell you already think that :-D you never know though, maybe he'll understand... also if you don't mind me asking, were you the top or the bottom?
 
Contact him and say "I really had a great time with you. I'm sorry I finished so quickly, but honestly, you REALLY got me excited. :) I'd love to have another chance to make you that excited, too, if you feel up to teaching me how."

Lex
 
Maybe the problem isn't that you came too quick. Maybe the problem is that your partner was too drunk has a problem coming?

Call. Ask him out again. Talk about the elephant in the room- just say that you haven't had much experience with guys but you had a good time with him and you want to see him again.
 
G-Lexington said:
Contact him and say "I really had a great time with you. I'm sorry I finished so quickly, but honestly, you REALLY got me excited. :) I'd love to have another chance to make you that excited, too, if you feel up to teaching me how."

Lex
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Great advice. Let him know that he was the reason you were so excited. Also don't be afraid so say that you are inexperienced, but you would love for him to teach you want he likes.
 
Wow guys, I'm stunned by all the great advice you all had. Thanks for the replies, it's much appreciated =)

Anyways so I was just going to text him but then I was thinking maybe I should check my email first and sure enough he had emailed me earlier this evening! =) Ahh I'm so excited lol. Gonna see where it goes from here =)

Oh and ucfknight12, I was on top
 
Just as a recommendation, you can try bottoming if you are ok trying it and he is ok topping, you may not cum as fast
 
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