what should i do???

[DolphIsYummyyy]

well my brother just borrowed my mobile phone, because someone stole his.
I dont really need a mobile at the moment but I forgot deleting gay porn and I am still in the closet and my family is uber-religious.

 

[Blueboy369]

If you act like it's no big deal it won't be a big deal. If he says something just say "you should see the crazy stuff i find on the Internet, I just look at different things out of curiosity". Then change the subject.

 

[anchihiro]

Ask for it back as quickly as possible and delete.

 

[FunFunk]

well my brother just borrowed my mobile phone, because someone stole his.
I dont really need a mobile at the moment but I forgot deleting gay porn and I am still in the closet and my family is uber-religious.

Ah, well. Here's your opportunity to come out by confirming you're gay (or bi). My coming out experience was actually a little similar to yours in that a member of my family (my mother, also uber-religious, like the rest of the family) found clear evidence that I was gay. (In my case it was a stack of gay erotic books and stories in a bookcase next to my bed, not really hidden -- in fact, they were in plain sight when she spotted them from across the small room.) I had long planned to come out but In some ways the incident actually took some of the pressure off because I was already "found out." All I had to do was confirm it. Which I promptly did.

I wonder how many people are found out in similar ways?

In any case, if anyone from your family asks about the porn on your phone, I generally advise you to not deny anything. It may seem awkward or uncomfortable now, but would probably save those same feelings later on in life, so you may as well get that out of the way. But, do it only if you're comfortable enough doing so. If coming out to your family will likely make you truly suffer at their hands, maybe you should make up a story -- but then what could you possibly say?

How old are you and are you highly dependent financially on your family? So much depends on that. If 1. you're very young (i.e., under eighteen), 2. you're still dependent on your family and 3. you think they'll react in a way that puts you in danger or otherwise hurt you, maybe you should avoid telling the truth, just for now until you have some modicum of independence from them. If any one of those variables is not the case, then I don't see why you shouldn't come out.

 

[racer2438]

Act like nothing happened until and if he asks. Then just say you were surfing around and found it while you were joking around with some friends.

At least until you come out it may buy you some time..

 

[KaraBulut]

If he finds it just say, "Yeah, I like looking at it every now and then, so why do you care?".

If he persists, ask "Why were you looking at gay porn on my phone anyway?".

 

[DolphIsYummyyy]

thanks guys. I am not ready to come out yet, so I am gonna do what some of you said; Act like nothing happened.

I can't get my mobile back yet, because he recently bought a new house, and I forgot asking him where it is.

 

[Spiff]

I understand everyone can forget things. But how can someone as closeted as you with your family just hand over a mobile phone to a family member and forget it is full of gay porn? Maybe its your sub-conscience telling you that keeping secrets is not your thing and it's time for your family to know.

 

[Seasoned]

^ Most of the time when that stuff happens we are tired of the secret whatever it may be. No one in your family is going to die because you are gay. To me all uber religious means is that someone thinks it's more important to tell you how to live as opposed to showing you by example. Someone else in that family has got a secret. I can almost smell it.