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What should I write?

Stitch627

Stitch627

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I went out with a couple of friends yesterday night. And I know that one of them likes me. Actually, we made out a couple of weeks ago when we went to a party.
Nothing happened yesterday, but this morning I got this text from him saying he wished I had come home with him.
Now I should text him back but I do not know what to write. Advice?
 
If you wish you had as well.
just write 'me too'

If you didn't, then say 'perhaps there will be another time'
 
I like your 2 options.
I should have waited a bit more before replying...
 
Kind of the same. I said I had been dumb.
But I prefer Rareboy's wording
 
It's too late for that now, but I like it.
You guys have really great ideas!!

So... I don't really know what to do with this guy, let's call him Ted.
He's clearly into me. And he's really nice, kinda cute, even though it's true I may find other guys better looking.
He's part of a group of guys I have recently started hanging out with. The only gay guys I know actually.
I don't think I want any commitment, not that I wouldn't want a real relationship, a boyfriend. Actually I would love it. But I am going back to my home country in about 2 months. Besides, I am not sure I am ready. I am just coming to terms with my sexuality, so I think I'd like to have a look around before "settling down". And, look at me, I'm like almost already talking LTR, while I'm not even dating the guy. I know I have this tendency to make things complicated when they aren't. ](*,)
I would like to keep hanging out with these guys, the only gay friends I have. But, each time Ted will be there, so I don't know... if I date him or hook-up with him, it may prevent me from talking or meeting other guys...

So what should I do?
Just go for it? move on?
 
Stitch627 said:
So what should I do?
Just go for it? move on?
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Just go for whatever feels right at the time. Try not to over analyze everything, and live in the moment.

Life is way to short to worry about would could have been, when you never gave what could have been a chance.

Who knows at the very least you'll make a new friend that you can have for the rest of your life, rather than just a random hook-up that you'll soon forget.

Good Luck! (*8*)
 
may be that Ted isn't interested in a relationship, either. There's nothing wrong with telling him where you stand. "I like you guys, and I do like kissing you a lot. But I'm worried that since I'll be moving in a couple months, that maybe I'll be heading down a path that I'm not sure I want to."

Lex
 
Yes you do know what to do with this guy, you just don't want to do it.

There's nothing in your previous post that says interested. You're finding reasons why it won't work. Your mind is looking for a way out. In the past I’ve fallen into these kind of situations purely because it’s really nice for someone to like you that much. I enjoyed the attention, and the infatuation, but knew deep down I wasn’t going to go there. The problem is that once you’ve let someone think they have a chance, you’re responsible for sorting out the mess. At some point you have to be honest.

You might try:

"..I like hanging out with you and maybe fooling around with you could be fun, but I don't want to get into anything serious right now. I don't know where I am mentally, and I don't know where I'll be physically, so let's just have a good time until I figure myself out..."

When I was young - and not that I suggest you say this - I'd tell guys I liked to have sex with, but wouldn't date, how great a fuck they were. I go on and on about it - because I didn't want to say the relevant part, I hoped they get the clue - that I wasn't interested in anything more. I thought this was being kind. But my reluctance to say the relevant part, hurt more people than it helped.

BE HONEST. With yourself, and him. You don't have to make pronouncements from mount serious about it, but you need to find a respectful way to remove yourself from his list of potential boyfriends.
 
TX-Beau said:
You might try:

"..I like hanging out with you and maybe fooling around with you could be fun, but I don't want to get into anything serious right now. I don't know where I am mentally, and I don't know where I'll be physically, so let's just have a good time until I figure myself out..."
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I could try this one. It is pretty accurate I think.
 
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