What the hell is up with my sexuality!

[jamietxx2]

Hi guys,

I know you probably get alot of these threads started so sorry for starting a new one but I need to get my feelings out, and well this seems like the best place to do. I have never been with a guy in any way or form (I have wanked off with a friend before), and I have had sex with 5 girls and I have had sexual encounters with more. I think what I'm confused with is that I do get turned on by gay porn, and men masturbating but I equally enjoy watching straight porn and girls masturbating.

I would never consider having a relationship with a man, well not how I feel at the moment its more of a "sex" thing but I love going out with girls and I do want to get engaged, settle down and have kids sometime in the future with a woman of whom I love. I have been considering meeting a guy off gaydar for a while as I was told this was the best place to go to find a similar guy to have fun with however I just can't bring myself to meet with a guy because I'm so nervous, but I want to experience what its like to be with a guy. I have guy friends who I would glady experiment with just like I have girl friends who I would experiment and play around with too!

I've read that been bisexual is just been closeted gay and I really don't believe that because I do like both ends of the spectrum but at the moment its confusing me because I don't know what to do about it and to be honest its making me get quite annoyed and frustrated with myself.

Does this sound like I am bisexual? Or confused? Or what?
I don't even know what replys I'm asking for really..

Once again sorry if this sounds stupid and immature but I needed to vent off some of my feelings!

Jamie

 

[lonnie1]

Sounds to me like you're experiencing the normal confusion that comes to many guys in their late teens and early adulthood. Have you considered paying for sex with a guy at his place so you can see whether or not it appeals to you? Your sexual proclivities change over your lifetime so it may not be the thing for you now, but before you marry and have a family you better make sure.

 

[jamietxx2]

I wouldn't pay a guy for sex.. not when I imagine theres many guys out there willing to experiment and in the same situation as me! Sounds a bit like paying for a prostitute lol. I do think I need to experience something with a guy though!

 

[buddy1970]

You're a bi. Ain't nothing wrong with that.

Sign up at a free site like Squirt.org and don't meet up with a guy until you know exactly what he looks like (from the pics he posts on his profile). Don't settle for less than total mutual attraction.

 

[Wajdan]

Don't get frustrated or stuff and start experimenting. If you like it then you are bi otherwise just bi-curious.

 

[jamietxx2]

Thanks for the advice guys, will check that site out!

Much appreciated

 

[bulge]

There are lots of guys like you. All history long men have married women and had sex with men. It has never been a problem except in the mind of some fools. This is not your problem. It is society's problem. Society has intoxicated you with images of male-to-female love and has put a romantic flavour on it which doesn't exist. Feel free to experiment as you feel. Society is clearly wrong in limiting guys to one partner and one sex. Men's sexuality is exuberant and doesn't tolerate any limit. Besides society can only win by the exuberance of male sexuality. The Roman and Ottoman Empire collapsed as soon as they became homophobic.

[ame="http://www.amazon.com/Biological-Exuberance-Homosexuality-Diversity-Stonewall/dp/031225377X"]Amazon.com: Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity (Stonewall Inn Editions): Bruce Bagemihl: Books[/ame]

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Besides society can only win by the exuberance of male sexuality. The Roman and Ottoman Empire collapsed as soon as they became homophobic.

Amazon.com: Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity (Stonewall Inn Editions): Bruce Bagemihl: Books

The rise of homophobia did not lead to these societies demises. All major societies eventually collapse or lose major power that they once held. It has nothing to do with the perspectives towards sexuality, however.

 

[tamk13]

Dude. its all good. its nothing to get worried about. I was exactly the same a couple of years ago. I hadnt a clue what was going on.

I was with the girl for four years, so basicly my whole high school experience. but during this time, probs when i was 14/15, before we had had sex, i started looking at gay porn and getting off to it. when we split up i was 16 and we had had a health sex life before we splt. So i became more curious about trying something with a guy but i was too scared because i was stll at school and if anyone found out i would of be destroyed(i still live in a town thats like 60 years in the past

so at 17, i joined and online site and met up with a guy and that was my first exp. and honestly it was terrible. after that i felt like i was disgusting and i had to go find a girl and sleep with her. So the next few time i had sex with guys i would find a girls in a bar or whatever and take her home.

Now at almost 21 and many sexual exp later i am happy being Bi. I am equally like guys and girls. I generally take it day about at looking at porn so one day straight and the next its gay.
I am also similar to yourself, i want the wife and kids too but i am young so i can decide what i want later and just enjoy my self now(safely of course).

So just chill man, majority of guys on here will have went through it too or still are going through it so we are all happy to help ya

 

[bulge]

The rise of homophobia did not lead to these societies demises. All major societies eventually collapse or lose major power that they once held. It has nothing to do with the perspectives towards sexuality, however.

I agree 100%. There is no cause/effect relation.