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Last summer I had a summer school abroad for a week. In my class was this amazing cute boy. We hit it of right away, we talked for hours, laughed etc. He said he had a girlfriend but I felt something was there. One evening I asked him if he would like to drink something up in my room, thinking that if he would refuse I was imagining things and if he would say yes I would take things further. He refused, flatly.

Naturally I was very disappointed, but the next morning he told that he booked a room with another classmate from his own university and asked whether I would like to stay an extra day, I could sleep together with him in his bed. Naturally I said yes!, although I did promise myself I wouldn’t do anything. When the summer school ended the next day we had a wonderful day. In the evening he even put his head on my chest when we were watching a movie played on a big screen outdoors. You can imagine my confusion. :confused:

When we returned to the hotel room I said I would rather sleep on the ground than with him in a single, because I knew it would become an embaressing situation. But he kept insisting so I caved in, not minding it at all. ;)

The roommate fell asleep immideatly and I was lying next to my dreamboy trying to keep my erection down. We touched hands. And I touched him on his arm as I felt his hand travelling to my underwear. I followed his example and found that he was rock hard. We fooled around, masturbating each other a bit, not daring to make a sound. But when I whispered that I wanted to kiss him he said no :(

The next morning was a very unconfortable situation. We didn’t talk about a lot, let alone about the incident. I left for home and after the plane ride, I decided to text him with a neutral message. He responded very warm and we kept in touch and he invited me for a visit. During these chats and emails we were very open, he confessed he sometimes had trouble with having sex with his girlfriend and we even wanked off together online.

When we met again some time later (we live far apart) sparks flew around, we masturbated together and touched every day, but he still didn’t want to kiss or lay on top of me, or me on top of him. He said he saw it only as masturbating not as something more. And I just cant believe this, if you touch someones dick it means something. At least that you are attracted to someone, right?

He made me a return visit a couple of weeks ago together with his girlfriend, but we had one night to ourselves, and we did do something but he was very passive. In my opinion he was refusing himself to be as he wanted. But I cant be sure.

Now we chat regularly and he told me he sees me as only a good friend. But moments later he makes sexual remarks and says he loves me, and invites me over for a visit again and talk about trips in the future. Does he really see me as only a friend and likes experimenting, or does he want more? He comes from a conservative environment so that may play a role. I really like him.. How do I pursue this? I don’t want to scare him and push him away.
 
DENIAL.

How do you pursue this? Why would you want to? You won't get anywhere until he admits he wants your cock. All you'll get is frustration and games, and the distinction of being the guy he cheats with.

If you're OK with that, good luck, but remember, far more often than not, this ends badly.
 
DENIAL.
You won't get anywhere until he admits he wants your cock.


I know! but making him see this is almost impossible. I know he's attracted to me, he says so. But what can I do, wait?

I am getting on with my life, but we will meet again in a couple of weeks and I am not sure how to react. Should I be cool and stand offish? Or try and make the most of it?
I have the feeling he wants me to take initiative so he can be the straight one and step on the brakes once in a while. Should I just wait for him to make a move?
 
A lot of straight guys think of mutual masturbation as something between buddies, nothing more.

He won't kiss you, have bodily contact, etc etc etc and he has a girl friend, etc etc etc.

This will never be anything more than mutual masturbation with a straight guy.

Now we can debate whether he is "really" "straight" all we want, but he thinks of himself as straight and that is all that matters. It will never be anything more. Never. Ever. Protect your emotions.
 
You deserve more that this. Don't waste your time with confused little boys.

There's someone out there who is grownup enough to admit his feelings.

Go find him.
 
I know! but making him see this is almost impossible. I know he's attracted to me, he says so. But what can I do, wait?

I am getting on with my life, but we will meet again in a couple of weeks and I am not sure how to react. Should I be cool and stand offish? Or try and make the most of it?
I have the feeling he wants me to take initiative so he can be the straight one and step on the brakes once in a while. Should I just wait for him to make a move?
Until he dumps his girlfriend, dump him. Do not see him.

Only then will you even have a chance with him.

As TXBeau said, he's in denial. Been there, done that (although I never did what he did with another guy). It's ugly. I pity him, but there's nothing you can do until he wakes up and smells the coffee.
 
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