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hey all you JUB-ers! This is my second post on here and my first time ever experimenting with guys and now i have a question. i've been talkin' to this guy online and now he wants to meet up. he's got a boyfriend already but they're looking at a threesome and want me to join; however, they both want bareback action. they both claim are monogamous (until this threesome action takes place) and have tested negative. i'm 100% clean myself, but am so hesitant about joinin' the action without them (or myself) using any protection. should i let this opportunity slide by? something else will come along, i'm sure.

thanks for your advice, boys. i love reading everything on here!
 
Let it pass. If they can,t use a condom. Than they are certainly USING YOU!!
 
Don't do it is my advice. Pesonally, if they don't care enough about their own health by using condoms why should they care about yours....? It is not worth the potential harm. Something else will come along in due time.
 
Let it slide. There will be other opportunities out there for you to experiment, and they will be much safer. I would be very hesitant of a 'two-on-one' situation, especially where a first-timer is concerned. Find someone who will guide you and let you go at your pace. Besides, can you really be sure this is their first threesome? You may simply be 'next in line'.
 
I agree, not a good idea for your first time, especially if they want bareback.

Just for future reference, never rely on anybody's statement that he's HIV-. For one thing, he could have it and not know it.

Always use a condom. If he doesn't like the idea, tell him to take a hike.
 
You should never have unprotected sex with a stranger. Sure, if you get into a long term relationship and are 100% sure that your partner is monogamous and you are, then bareback is fine, but with strangers, tell them no way.
 
Turn around and walk the other way. Find someone who will respect you by wearing a rubber.
 
I would pass on it on two counts. One is the bareback sex. It's not a question of trust, it's one of common sense. I can understand not using a condom for oral sex. For anal sex, however, it's not a detraction and just makes sense. I completely trust my guy, and neither of us would consider not using them.

My second concern is that you write about this being your first time experimenting with guys. I would be concerned taking on two guys at the same time. My first time could have easily turned into a disaster. Let's just say that what I wanted to do and what we were able to do were not the same thing. A little nervousness is always involved, and the pieces don't always want to fit together right away. I got lucky in that my guy and I talk about everything, and most importantly, we can often laugh about it when things could get a little awkward. Eventually (a day or two later) we got things to work, and when they did, it just made it so much more stimulating and special. I don't know if you could have that level of patience and understanding in a threesome.

If you do go ahead with this, I hope you have a great time.
 
Unprotected sex with a stranger is like Russian Roulette. You're already hesitant, which means your gut feeling and better judgement are telling you NOT to do it. These two guys claim they've been monogamous and are clean. So why have they "all of sudden" starting soliciting men online for threesome-sex...? If they were promiscuous and HIV+, and soliciting sex online, do you think they would be telling anyone? Do you think they would have any takers...?

I would not bet you're the only that's been asked so far, and I would not bet you'd be the first one to participate either...

But let say, for example, if you did do it -- afterwards, when everyone went their own way, and you're alone in your bed at night, wouldn't there be some small part of your peace of mind being gnawed away with doubt and worry...? And everytime you had an ache or pain, a fever or a night sweat, etc., would you wonder if you had caught something...?

Peace of mind is a precious thing. Don't let someone else rob you of it.
 
:confused: There's something fishy about these guys.

They say they are 100% monogamous and are "100% clean". THEN, they want to have bareback sex with YOU, who, only on your word, is also 100% clean. Why would they even consider taking the risk that you could be wrong or lying?

Aren't they worried about their own health? And if they aren't worried about their own health then logic seems to say they aren't 100% "clean".

Newbie, don't put yourself at risk right out of the gate. Find a single guy on Craigslist or somewhere and start off slow and safe. So far, not one single response to your post says to go do it. And this is from guys who are experienced in gay sex. Please think first.
 
thanks for all your comments, guys. the situation was so intriguing but after reading what you had all written i'm definitely going to pass it up. my initial gut reaction was to not even think about it at all so now i'll stick with that initial feeling and walk. now.... just to find someone that wants to play one on one and introduce me to the fun stuff!

thanks again.
 
And since it sounds like you're looking for people online, I'll reiterate the basic rules in case you haven't seen them before.

  • Don't assume somebody looks exactly like their online picture. Photographs lie and so do people. Guys also lie about their age, their weight, etc.
  • Never give out identifying information like your phone number, address, or real name until you've met the person and know you can trust him.
  • Never agree to have sex before you've met him in person. If he's pretty strong about wanting to do something you're not interested in, move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
  • Your first meeting should be a short one in a public place. Don't commit in advance to spending the day, the night, or the weekend with him! Have a backup plan to make an escape if it's not going well.
  • And of course, always practice safe sex. It couldn't matter less to you whether he says he's positive or negative.
 
JUB_newbie said:
thanks for all your comments, guys. the situation was so intriguing but after reading what you had all written i'm definitely going to pass it up. my initial gut reaction was to not even think about it at all so now i'll stick with that initial feeling and walk. now.... just to find someone that wants to play one on one and introduce me to the fun stuff!

thanks again.
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I'm glad to hear you are taking the advice of the previous posters and for the record, I'm in agreement with them all. 100%. Experimentation is one of the best things about life and it would be terrible to risk so much when you're just starting out. Have fun! But always be safe. ;)
 
I'm glad you're listening to the advice everyone gave you. I agree with all of the points that have been made.

I didn't see anyone mention that two people could overtake and control more easily than one. For example, they could "say" they would agree to use condoms and then, if they got you into a compromising situation, not use them against your will.

If you could find someone you know and actually like for your first time, it could possibly make it a better experience. I know it's hard to wait for things like that, but you deserve the best for yourself. If you don't hold out for the best, few others will.
 
Curious George said:
I didn't see anyone mention that two people could overtake and control more easily than one.
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I sort of did with my 'two-on-one' comment. I wanted to make Jub_newbie think about it. I didn't really want to scare the pants off him. However, what you said is exactly what I was thinking. ..|
 
I thought you guys were trying to scare the pants ON ME! Again, thanks for all the input - so many comments in so little time.
 
Byt he way, Newbie, if you listen to the inner voice that made you hesitant this time, you will hardly ever go wrong. I wish I had learned so much earlier in life to listen to that inner voice, it knows what it is talking about.
 
slobone said:
Yeah, we're busy little bees in here! :cowboy:
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Slobone, move over, would you? You've got all that room next to the hard drive and you always wander over here into my space next to the microprocessor! What's up with that? I'm really geting tired of this!

Oh, Oh, looks like a new post is coming in.

Back to work guys!

:slap: :jab: :lol2: --%-- (*k*) \:/
 
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