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Sigh. I've been watching gay porn for probably.. five or so years. The want for a guy comes and goes, when I'm outside, I don't really find myself checking out guys or anything but I still have desire to be with a man, whether it's a relationship or sexual I'm not sure. I consider myself bi for the most part, but noone else aside from a close friend knows. My roommate next year is actually gay, but I feel like telling him would almost insult him.

Recently I've been fed up with women. My mom, my exes, girls I've tried to talk to, all of them have just been horrible, and I'm in need of a change. Women have just kind of been failing me. Not to say I want to completely switch to men, but my head has just been yearning one lately. I've tried it all, craigslist, match.com, adam4adam, I've tried cruising places in my area, nothing really came through. Now I'm 19, so I'm too young for bars, I just have no idea how to get this change. Of course, I'll jerk off later tonight and the desire will go down, but it's something that I will want until I get it. I just need a change and I have no idea what to do.

So any advice on what to do, where to go, who tolook to?
 
I know how you feel and am anxious to read what others think.
 
My roommate next year is actually gay, but I feel like telling him would almost insult him.
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Nonsense. Thinking it would insult him is patronizing and insulting.

Tell him.

Get him to help you hook up with other guys.

Do not come back and tell us you have developed an unrequited crush on him.
 
Haha no I don't. He's about as new to the gay thing as I would be though. And I don't go back to school for months, so I was looking for more of advice on what to do here and now, as I'm sure we could goto gay clubs when I go back to school. I just don't know any gay people at home, and with the failed online tries, I have no idea where to look and/or what to do.
 
Why haven't Craigslist and other such sites not been working? If I had more information I might be able to help you better.

I agree with rareboy as far as coming out to the roomate goes.
 
Well, let's start with what where do you live (if you don't want to say exactly where, then is it a big city, small town, near a major city?)? What kinds of things are you interested in? Where do gay guys in your area go (besides gay bars, adam4adam and hookup sites)?
 
I'm about half an hour from NYC. I have no ideas where gay guys go, as I do not know any gay guys. If I did, I probably would have better luck in my situation lol.
 
Is it easy for you to get to NYC? If it is I'd search for NYC bathhouses on google. If you're looking for something less sexual, I'd go with googling LGBT community centers.

Also, what kind of things do you do for fun?
 
Like I said, I worry about the fact that I'm younger, which I realize I'll encounter older men everywhere. Anyone have experiences with bathhouses?
 
I've been to one with someone and ended up just having sex with that guy, who I met online. I thought the guys were attractive, but I like older men. I would google them and see what other people have to say about the clientele. It's not something I would suggest as a first resort and I'm still not sure what went south with your online experiences. If you could elaborate on why they didn't work out, I might be able to help you more.
 
I could just never get people to actually go through with it, people would stop responding etc. adam4adam was always good for a chat but it never went anywhere. I might consider the bathhouse if I can find the right one
 
I'd keep trying online. There should be plenty of things to do in NYC if you can make it there. You could try going to museums, book stores, film screenings, dance classes, etc. Ask yourself what you like and go from there.

I wouldn't rush to the bathhouse unless you just want sex.
 
I definitely want to try the sexual aspect before I dive into any kind of dating, if I ever do (it's definitely 90/10 female/male attraction for me, like I said, I don't really look at guys in public so it's more sexual then anything..)
 
Oh for goodness sakes.

Just go to a bathhouse and get it over with.

If you only care about getting off, then I'm sure you'll find someone to help you with that.
 
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