What to do?

[LatinCoffee]

My boyfriend and I moved in together to help each other out. I lost my job and have been going on interviews. He has been supportive and has told me that he's there for me and has fallen in love with me. I am very grateful and care about him. I have been honest and told him that I'm not in love but like him a lot. I started school for Nursing, a month ago and I'll be done in 2 1/2 yrs as I have some college work already. He is done in June, getting his Masters in Criminal Justice. We are going on 6 months of dating. I'm orig. from Chicago and he is from Texas. He has made several comments--how he can't wait to be done and go back to Texas. We're both in Florida ( and don't like it here--for several reasons). When I asked him if he'll wait for me before he moves--he just straight up told me that he doesn't know. For the past several days, I have been kind of "not myself" and he has asked me if I'm okay. I told him--regarding the 'move and his plans" and how was I supposed to feel...and he just looked at me and didn't say anything.

If I had a job at this moment (& I'm praying I get one soon)...I would have packed my stuff and moved out and let him be.


Any additional advice? Sorry for the grammar here! I just wanted to rush through this!

Thanks in advance, guys!

 

[palbert]

This comes off as your sole interest is his subsidizing your living arrangement while you are unemployed and possibly through nursing school.

So what's the big deal if he moves to Texas. You'll have to find a new living arrangement. Your emotional commitment to the relationship appears minimal.

 

[LatinCoffee]

Not at all, Palbert! I'll talk to him about this, too. I like him a lot but not in love with him. I would never use him or anyone for that matter. I have always been very independent. My situation can happen to anyone.

Also, I have given him some money for rent and I have bought food with my own money

 

[nycguydowntown]

Maybe if you fall in love with him things will change but for now why should he feel the need to hang around if you're not on the same page?

 

[bankside]

I don't understand how to call someone my boyfriend if I don't love him.

 

[LatinCoffee]

Maybe if you fall in love with him things will change but for now why should he feel the need to hang around if you're not on the same page?

He asked me through text (he's in class)--if I wanted to go out tonight...I said yes. He asked me if the the relationship was over...and I said not from my part and if it was for him...He said NO...he wants to continue being with me.

 

[Rolyo85]

"Love" is a VERY strong word, and I don't use it lightly either. For some people it comes way too easy. I believe that if you both enjoy each other's company, and would rather be together than apart, you are probably on the same page, even if you call it "like a lot" and he calls it "love". You should discuss what you want from this relationship. You can't really keep it in limbo with "well, I like you, but I don't love you", because that means jack shit for the other person. What matters is - do you see yourself being with this guy a year from now? Five years? If the answer is yes, then find a way to convey that to him, and even if he can't wait for you to finish school, maybe he would agree to a long distance relationship (since he loves you, according to him, it shouldn't be a big sacrifice for him), with the goal to eventually end up in the same place together.

If you don't see yourself with him a year from now, or five years from now, you should be fair to him and let him go NOW.