What was your first time at a gay club like?

[Rali_hates_Mondays]

I'm really curious about people's experiences of clubbing. I've been to gay bars and pubs with my friends and to be honest they were nothing special- some of them were just like straight bars. However I'm feeling a bit anxious about the club that we are going to tomorrow. I've looked at the website and it looks like an ordinary disco but I heard from my friend that his ex had a threesome right in front of everyone! I don't really know what to expect cos I've never been to those clubs before. Surprisingly I don't feel scared but I would love to hear what it was like for you going in for the first time.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

I hardly ever go to any of the gay clubs/bars to socialize. Yup, I know a few guys here and there and, if I want to meet them up and exchange the local buzz, we do it either at the place that serves the best coffee or at the place that serves the best wine in town. I'd rarely ever bother to go to a gay place for such an exchange.

So, if hitting the grounds, I do it for one purpose only. I want to meet up another dude and have sex with him. So, yeah, nasty places are fine.

I draw the lines somewhere, too. I am not there to perform a charity public show. So, yeah, meet up the dude, get some privacy and do your stuff.

SC

 

[G-Lexington]

My main thought was, "I thought we were supposed to be better dancers than this."

Lex

 

[ashonfire]

I walked around, kinda dissapointed,

Thought "this music's rubbish",

Some old American guy hit on me.

Realised it probably woulda been more fun if I was with friends.

 

[cbtfan]

Brighton has enough places for gays that if you don't like one... just go to another.

Good luck.

 

[albar05]

i just looked around and could not believe that there where sooooooooo many people just like me!! , its so strange but then your gay or bi, you always feel like your the only person like that, and everyone seems to be so " normal " !! lol.. thats a joke!! who is " normal " these days, its too much fun being "abnormal" !!!

 

[nufanm]

i personaly am not the kind of guy to go to gay clubs... i'd rather hang out with may straight friends at dive bars or at sexualy ambiguous indie and sceney bars... gay bars (for the most part) are full of stereotypes and i really can't stand that. however... i have come across this one bar that is terribly tacky and dirty with go go dancers and what not, but it's so much fun because drinks are cheap and u can just go sit and people watch creepy old men touching the go go boys... so much fun.

 

[Eagle653]

My very first time...seeing two men hug and kiss each other on the mouth as a form of greeting was so heart-warming. I said to myself, "I feel I'm at home. This is where I belong."

Shortly after that, I was partnered and have only made a rare visit to one of those places since. LOL. Oh well.

 

[M4P]

It was in Hull, Quebec and I was terrified. I was just coming out at the time and it was a bit too overwhelming. I was getting hit on and didn't know how to handle it. I even asked a friend to come to the washroom with me

 

[bluedragon4]

It was 1989 and I was 15 yrs old. A girl I went to school with had a gay older brother who worked at a club called the Ritz in Cleveland,Ohio. It was great! I loved it. Everything was pink neon and New Order was playing. Saw my 1st drag queen perform "Just like Jesse James" from Cher.(not a drag fan) and I met a guy named John Tompson. Funny I remember his whole name cause we only met for like an hour and nothing happened but it was the first time a guy hit on me. He was blond and about 22 I think. I tripped and he caught me and said, "Aren't you gonna thank me?" and I said,"thank you" but looking back he wanted me to kiss him.We didn't exchange numbers and I never saw him again which is odd. I ran into my high school spanish teacher at the bar who hit on me cause he thought I was a senior but once I said I was in 10th grade he flew out of the bar! I actually didn't see him out at a gay bar till 12 years after that and he once again hit on me. But that was a great night.The bar closed down like a week later so I never got to go back.

 

[mpdan]

Don't be anxious - nobody will force you to do anything you don't want to do. More importantly, don't pass judgement!

Your post made me think of another thread I started a long time ago - a lifetime it seems, because I was still deep in the closet and out to only three close friends at the time....

I hope it eases any fears before tomorrow night!

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=73310

 

[JOHN B]

If by club, you mean bar----It was a little scary. I was in my 20's and had long hair just past my shoulders (yep it was the late eighties). A lot of people kept trying to rub up on me; but mainly because they saw me as fresh young meat. Being naive though I thought that they really liked "me". I was too nervous to stay long and left. I got a dose of the real world the next time I went back, saw people I recognized from the first time, and tried to say a friendly "hello". Since they were on to new fresh meat, they just gave me the brush off. I learned quickly about bar environments, (but still got burned a few times early on....)

 

[Riverrick]

It was scary. I went alone and felt out of place and didn't stay long.

But it was a great adventure!

 

[backpacker]

I'll bet this story isn't what you will expect. I'll try to keep it short.

A causal friend and former co-worker of my best friend told us about this great new bar he found. Four of us decide to meet up with this guy at the bar on a Saturday night. We arrived at the designated time, go in and order some drinks. As we are waiting on the drinks, we look down the bar and realize the barmaid at the other end has a mustache. It's a guy in drag! We then look around and realize guys are dancing with guys. OMG we're in a gay bar! Keep in mind that I'm 18 and totally in the closet, even to myself. You can imagine how nervous four young, wet behind the ears, straight twinks feel in a gay bar. We waited for over a half hour for our friend and he's a no show. Can you believe he tricked us into going to a gay bar as a way of coming out to us, then he doesn't have the balls to show up.

PS - I never went back to that bar again. It was years before I went to another gay bar.

 

[drhladnjak]

My first time was at a gay night at "The Garage" (a straight night club) in Saarbrücken Germany when I was living there. My (straight) friends and I used to go to the club after partying in our apartments late at night. I remember walking up to the counter and seeing a sign that read, "Straights: 5 euros, Gays: 3 euros". I smiled and laughed as my friends who didn't speak German asked me what it said. The guy let us all in for 3 euros

The rest of the night was pretty unremarkable really, although I do remember being frustrated with the long line at the men's room (the place was crowded). We always just came to dance in our group of friends and that night was no different.

This was a couple years before I came out, although even around the time I went there I had accepted myself as not being straight. I didn't find it all that terrifying at all, but then again I had lived in LGBT housing co-op briefly on a friend's floor a few years before that too. I'd already met plenty of gay people before, so I wasn't afraid of them. However, all of the ones I'd met before were very stereotypical and I think it may have pushed me deeper into the closet because I didn't identify with any of them much at all.

After that, I don't think I went to a gay bar until I moved to Seattle. I'd come out in the mean time, but never lived anywhere that had much of a gay bar scene.

 

[evilest]

Crap. But then the gay bars and clubs by me are total shit.

 

[NickCole]

The first time I went to a gay club I was underage and it was 1972.

I doubt that experience has any relevance to going to a gay club today so I won't elaborate. But I logged on and just felt like saying something.

 

[bluedragon4]

The first time I went to a gay club I was underage and it was 1972.

I doubt that experience has any relevance to going to a gay club today so I won't elaborate. But I logged on and just felt like saying something.

I would love to read that. We are all joined together by coming out and being new so of course your story is relevant.I bet the 70's were crazy at the gay bars!

 

[Alive and Free]

SCARY ! I was asked for a bathroom date downstairs.

 

[hermanding]

it was 1967 - taken by the brother of a girl i knew. he thought it would open up a new world for me. it never occurred to me that this existed - and, yet, it did not impress me very much. a year later - entirely different story
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