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what were you like before you were queer?

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I saw this thread on Empty Closets i wanted to put it here so it will be a serious thread.

What was your life like before you knew you was gay? was you attracted to girls etc? What was the turning point what happened when you said Damn im gay?

Before i new i was gay i was attracted to females 100 percent never thought of a guy. I had a few crushes on girls i always fantasized about having sex with them and stuff. I new what sex was at a early age thanks to the internet.I was a quiet person i kept my room clean and was very organized i had a few crushes on girls and stuff and tried to ask them out and be their boyfriend but it all failed. Tried to kiss a girl it never happened i guess it was meant for me to be gay. I would probably been the next 40 year old virgin if i was still attracted to girls.

The turning point was when i was in 6th grade what caught my attention was this guy in my class in a wife beater in 6th grade during a hot day of recess this guy in my class took his shirt off and had a wife beater on he was tan and had nice arms so that turned me on which was strange i was never attracted to guys i was suppose to be straight, make a long story short during summer break i called it the worst summer ever that's when i discovered gay porn and chatrooms. I was also depressed and crying every night tried to pray it out nothing work.

And when school started during the middle of the year me and a friend used to write letters to each other and he asked me to touch here and touch there. We went into the bathroom together and thats when i had my first kiss and made out it was magical And he was the first guy i ever had sex with and had my first kiss with. I was depressed from being gay hears the weird part i started getting into game shows and whatever it did made my life better i started being happier i semi accepted being gay. and a few months and years later i fully accept it life is much better being gay opened my eyes made my mind more open. Im still into game shows and i figured that being gay is right for me


Sorry for the long thread i know my grammar sucks sorry for that i was typing it before i went to bed. I always wonder what will life be like if i was straight would i been a virgin? Or a christian? would i been a teen parent etc.
 
I was never attracted to girls much before I realized I was gay. Never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl.

I had fantasies about boys though even before I realized that made me gay.
 
I was always attracted to guys. For some time I thought this would change when puberty was over. But it didn't ;)
 
Well, I was eleven at the time, so I guess I was building forts, playing war and bothering girls.
 
I only realized at maybe the age of 15, when I started checking out gay porn on the internet. Before that I remember having a crush on a girl of my class, she was very sexy, especially her legs and ass. I also dated and made out with girls.
 
I was probably a fetus, so I don't remember. My earliest memory of being attracted to another guy was actually in the first grade. It was a non-sexual attraction, of course, and I had no idea why I felt the way I did, but now that I'm older and I understand it more - it couldn't be more obvious to me.
 
Royal Heart said:
I was probably a fetus, so I don't remember. My earliest memory of being attracted to another guy was actually in the first grade. It was a non-sexual attraction, of course, and I had no idea why I felt the way I did, but now that I'm older and I understand it more - it couldn't be more obvious to me.
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That's kind of how it is. I had the same experience. I was always more attracted to guys as long as I can remember, but it takes a while before you make the conscious connection and say "hey...... I'm GAY!" And THEN the part of accepting it.

I think the question should be more what were you like before you ACCEPTED you were queer? Knowing and BEING are 2 different things.
 
I pretty much accepted it the moment I became aware of the concept of "gay" and that there was a word for it. Prior to that I was ... prepubescent. I never really underwent a fundamental change. I just shrugged and went back to drawing stupid comics.
 
IMHO, it's all pretty much a matter of chance. I never have thought of myself as queer; I was friendly with both males and females, but did not "fool around" with the girls because in my town if you got a girl pregnant you married her--no ifs, buts, or maybe!!!

It was my good fortune to bond in very deep friendship with the new guy in town; we were both fifteen and had a wonderful zone of privacy at his house. Our friendship became more than just that; we wanted and needed ways to express our affection. The sex came about naturally and continued through two years of high school. Yet, neither of us ever thought of ourselves as queer (the word gay had not yet come into use in that way). We wondered whether our peers were having similar "adventures" but have long ago decided that we were more active than others. We learned by doing and we did just about everything two young guys can do together. After many years he remains my dearest male friend.

We both married but we treasure that youthful sexual bond; we learned about a side of our sexuality which we had not considered before. I had two other male partners in long term relationships and two female partners, also in long term relationships. I have always been utterly faithful in any relationship. Therefore, I do not really think of myself as bisexual; I prefer the term ambisexual because I know that I can sustain and be happily sustained in a relationship with a man or a woman.

To me it is the quality of the relationship which determines if sexual contact is appropriate. I loved every one of my former partners before we ever had sex and many years afterwards I still love them.
 
IMHO, it's all pretty much a matter of chance. I never have thought of myself as queer; I was friendly with both males and females, but did not "fool around" with the girls because in my town if you got a girl pregnant you married her--no ifs, buts, or maybe!!!

It was my good fortune to bond in very deep friendship with the new guy in town; we were both fifteen and had a wonderful zone of privacy at his house. Our friendship became more than just that; we wanted and needed ways to express our affection. The sex came about naturally and continued through two years of high school. Yet, neither of us ever thought of ourselves as queer (the word gay had not yet come into use in that way). We wondered whether our peers were having similar "adventures" but have long ago decided that we were more active than others. We learned by doing and we did just about everything two young guys can do together. After many years he remains my dearest male friend.

We both married but we treasure that youthful sexual bond; we learned about a side of our sexuality which we had not considered before. I had two other male partners in long term relationships and two female partners, also in long term relationships. I have always been utterly faithful in any relationship. Therefore, I do not really think of myself as bisexual; I prefer the term ambisexual because I know that I can sustain and be happily sustained in a relationship with a man or a woman.

To me it is the quality of the relationship which determines if sexual contact is appropriate. I loved every one of my former partners before we ever had sex and many years afterwards I still love them.
 
Oh god, I was the fruitiest little kid ever. My brother played sports and here I was, running around the house singing and dancing. Hahaha. In like, Middle and High school I was just kinda awkward around everyone, and I never really had a crush on anyone. I think I finally realized I was gay around sophomore year? I didn't really care though, it was never really a big deal.
 
What was I like before I was gay? I don't know....a zygote?
 
I used to think I was gay because I liked to masturbate. Thank you religion. Thought for certain I was gay when I developed a crush on the junior high football QB. It wasn't until after I accepted it (5 years later) that I really had any interest in women.

I can't say I define myself by my sexuality, so I haven't really changed much other than just growing older.
 
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