What would you consider me?

[SpyFox]

I have had a lot of "discussions" with guys online, and I would like to get your opinions.

I have only ever had relationships with girls and I am very happy with that both sexually and emotionally.

However, I really enjoy jackin and suckin dick. Yes, it helps if he is really young, smooth and circumsized but I have found that I am more attracted to the penis than the guy attached to it. The worst/best thing that happened is that I found a local bathhouse and it is really easy to hookup there. On my best night I sucked 7 guys, 3 at once. That was really hot.

Anyway, I have been doing the penis thing after 3 bad relationships with girls in a row. Since I really only like oral and jacking, it seems to me that I have a dick fetish and I'm not even bi. I have no desire to be in a relationship with a guy at all.

Opinions please.

 

[genthree]

I have had a lot of "discussions" with guys online, and I would like to get your opinions.

I have only ever had relationships with girls and I am very happy with that both sexually and emotionally.

However, I really enjoy jackin and suckin dick. Yes, it helps if he is really young, smooth and circumsized but I have found that I am more attracted to the penis than the guy attached to it. The worst/best thing that happened is that I found a local bathhouse and it is really easy to hookup there. On my best night I sucked 7 guys, 3 at once. That was really hot.

Anyway, I have been doing the penis thing after 3 bad relationships with girls in a row. Since I really only like oral and jacking, it seems to me that I have a dick fetish and I'm not even bi. I have no desire to be in a relationship with a guy at all.

Opinions please.

I think you should read this post slowly out loud to yourself, then re-post something that makes sense.

 

[MarcForExample]

Firstly i think, to an extent, you're whatever you believe you are. If you think of yourself as straight, then who are we to tell you what your deeply held sexual and romantic orientation is or to define you? Why ask us? Are you unsure?

If you're unsure, ask yourself three questions:
1-Why do you like dick? Is it because it's taboo or hard or whatever, or is it because it's such a manly thing and you want to experience the masculinity of others?
2-Could you ever see yourself romantically involved without a guy and why/why not?
3-Do you like other parts of guys besides their dicks? Face, ass, torso, etc?

If the answer to any of the above affirms a liking for guys generally then i personally would see you as bi or at least 'mostly straight'.

Also, the night you sucked 7 cocks, 3 of them at the same time...why is that the 'worst/best' thing that happened to you? You said that was hot, and i agree, so why 'worst/'?

 

[Wonderboy45255]

I think sexuality is based more on emotion. I don't think sex is the determining factor. If you can't imagine being in a romantic relationship with a man, and you don't necessarily want to have any other sexual contact, I think you may be right. You just like dick and nothing else on a man. I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with that. Maybe relax and stop worrying about labeling yourself.

 

[newt72]

spyfox i think you need to evaluate who and what you are, maybe try a relationship with a man, i get along great with women who are friends i better with guys i want to fuck, maybe try a relationship with a man and i mean a man find some one you can be honest with explain the situation and hopefully they will work with you at your pace make sure it is someone you are physically atratcted too, i myself find shemales hot but i only want tosleep with one i would still rather be with well a man right now, but sometimes women.
and read marcfor examples post, please take all this too as meant to be friendly advice it does sound like you are not comfrotable with yourself as soon as you are you will be happier

 

[MattClaimer]

Sounds like you're a dude - just like the rest of us, only you're more comfortable with who you are and what you like than most people in the majority "heterosexual" society. Comfortable enough to recognize that you like to suck cock, and comfortable enough in that you can actually act on your desire, and do it -- Pretty simple if ya ask me.

But what do you get OUT of sucking cock? Do you do it because it gets you off? Do you come or jack off when you're sucking cocks? Or do you just like the feeling of having a cock in your mouth, hand? Do you do it to get the other guy off because you like doing that and giving a dude what he wants, or does it not matter either way if he gets off or not?

I'd say you're just a guy who likes to suck cocks. It is a sexual issue, and if you get aroused at the idea of doing it, then most would probably say you ARE bisexual. But it IS just a label, ya know? I'm not a big fan of labels.

But the question I have for you is, why does it matter what others would consider you to be? Do you just want to know for the hell of it, or are you trying to decide who/what you think you are in order to place yourself in life and carry on??

 

[seven2go]

^ I think you should have your own column here.......

 

[Bi Married Male]

Sounds like you're a dude - just like the rest of us, only you're more comfortable with who you are and what you like than most people in the majority "heterosexual" society. Comfortable enough to recognize that you like to suck cock, and comfortable enough in that you can actually act on your desire, and do it -- Pretty simple if ya ask me.

But what do you get OUT of sucking cock? Do you do it because it gets you off? Do you come or jack off when you're sucking cocks? Or do you just like the feeling of having a cock in your mouth, hand? Do you do it to get the other guy off because you like doing that and giving a dude what he wants, or does it not matter either way if he gets off or not?

I'd say you're just a guy who likes to suck cocks. It is a sexual issue, and if you get aroused at the idea of doing it, then most would probably say you ARE bisexual. But it IS just a label, ya know? I'm not a big fan of labels.

But the question I have for you is, why does it matter what others would consider you to be? Do you just want to know for the hell of it, or are you trying to decide who/what you think you are in order to place yourself in life and carry on??

I like what he said. You can live a straight lifestyle and stay forever in the closet like a lot of married guys who only act on it when they get the urge...your a guy after all. The desire creeps up once in a while. Then it's back to reality and your lovely lady. Nobody ever needs to know....don't even give yourself a label.

 

[gabug01]

Sounds to me like you go through great lengths to separate out sex from emotion with a guy but you dont with women. Thats the problem with bi men, straight sex is a total package but with men its just the sex. I think its just wishful thinking to believe this. After all, the straight part of you is public but you keep the bi side hidden. It all comes down to being honest with one's self.

 

[SpyFox]

Hi Guys,

Sorry I haven't responded earlier but I kind of figured after the first response I got that I was just going to get bashed and not taken seriously. Tonight, however, I saw and read the other replies from others who seem to care and want to help. Thank you all for responding and offering your advice and opinions. I really appreciate it.

Because I don't know how to type a response to multiple quotes, I'm going to post multiple responses. Sorry. But, even though I might quote one response in my reply, please know that I am open to other's comments and ideas on that same post.

Thanks again guys. I'm still confused but you have given me more to think about.

SpyFox

 

[SpyFox]

Guess what? I figured out how to reply to multiple quotes in one reply! LOL This should make things easier.

I think sexuality is based more on emotion. I don't think sex is the determining factor. If you can't imagine being in a romantic relationship with a man, and you don't necessarily want to have any other sexual contact, I think you may be right. You just like dick and nothing else on a man. I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with that. Maybe relax and stop worrying about labeling yourself.

I'm not exactly sure that sexuality is based on emotion. To a certain extent I agree that they are related but I have a very sexual desire for penis and while I get a lot of pleasure from sucking a penis, there is very little emotion involved. You are probably right that I should stop worrying about it but it is in my nature to understand things before I accept them.

spyfox i think you need to evaluate who and what you are, maybe try a relationship with a man...
... it does sound like you are not comfrotable with yourself as soon as you are you will be happier

First Newt, I loved you in Aliens! Such an adorable little girl.

Second, I AM trying to evaluate who and what I am. That's the reason for my original post. I have no desire for a relationship with a man.

You are absolutely correct that I am not comfortable with myself and I'm sure I will feel better once I have something I can accept.

Sounds like you're a dude - just like the rest of us, only you're more comfortable with who you are and what you like than most people in the majority "heterosexual" society. Comfortable enough to recognize that you like to suck cock, and comfortable enough in that you can actually act on your desire...

But what do you get OUT of sucking cock? Do you do it because it gets you off? Do you come or jack off when you're sucking cocks? Or do you just like the feeling of having a cock in your mouth, hand? Do you do it to get the other guy off because you like doing that and giving a dude what he wants, or does it not matter either way if he gets off or not?

Yes, I'm a normal-ish dude but I'm actually not that comfortable with what I do. That is part of the problem.

What do I get out of sucking dick? Usually I get nothing in return as far as a BJ or a hand job. I don't usually even jack myself off during the process. It doesn't really bother me. I do it because I like it. I like the look and feel of a dick. I like how it gets heavy when it is partially hard and after it cums. I like the smell. I love watching cum squirt out of a dick or feel it squirt in my mouth. I like making someone else cum, (even with girls I would rather them cum than me). It's not really a "taboo" issue.

I like what he said. You can live a straight lifestyle and stay forever in the closet like a lot of married guys who only act on it when they get the urge...your a guy after all. The desire creeps up once in a while. Then it's back to reality and your lovely lady. Nobody ever needs to know....don't even give yourself a label.

I don't really want a "label" but I don't want to have some secret life either.

Sounds to me like you go through great lengths to separate out sex from emotion with a guy but you dont with women. Thats the problem with bi men, straight sex is a total package but with men its just the sex. I think its just wishful thinking to believe this. After all, the straight part of you is public but you keep the bi side hidden. It all comes down to being honest with one's self.

gabug, I don't really have a response to what you said other than to say that you really nailed it. I have a lot to think about.

Thanks everyone!