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Okay so I reconnected with a guy from hs, about 3 weeks ago, who I thought was really cute and decided to message him on Facebook (I'm in college btw and we haven't spoken in like 3 years). So I'm drunk and tell him that I'm gay and he's shocked ! Nether the less we talk A LOT and we start to learn about each other. However, about a week ago the texting slowly died out and we talk very little now. I go to school 5 hrs away and I'll be home in two weeks and I told him this. He did say that he's going through a lot now so that's why he hasn't been in touch. But I feel like he's better now so idk what's going on. I just don't want this to die out because it's happen to me before. Is the distance just a killer ? Or what ? I like this guy and I look forward to the summer but he hasn't been responding to my most recent texts so idk.
 
Don't worry. People are busy in their lives. Don't take it personal. Just go visit him in 2 weeks...then find out in person and update each other. Let him know that you will be here to listen, talk and support when he needs it.

Don't be obsessive though. Check up on him once every few weeks.
 
So, is the guy also gay? Or is this more of a platonic thing?
 
Perhaps he has met someone more closer to home, you never mentioned if this was a sexual friendship, or just one of two buddy's with you
hoping for more.
You have only hooked up again in the last few weeks, after an absence of several years, maybe he thinks you are coming on too strong?
I also noticed your profile says you are dating, perhaps this may also be a factor n the complete picture.
Either way, you will never know, until you can arrange to meet up and have an open and honest heart to heart with the guy.
 
Well, he knows you're going to be in town and he knows you like the peen. So, either he has other things going on (i.e. a boyfriend, personal issues) or he's not that interested.

These things shouldn't be work. If they are, then it's better to move on to something (or someone) else.
 
KaraBulut said:
Well, he knows you're going to be in town and he knows you like the peen. So, either he has other things going on (i.e. a boyfriend, personal issues) or he's not that interested.

These things shouldn't be work. If they are, then it's better to move on to something (or someone) else.
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He has been going through a lot lately and no he doesn't have a boyfriend. However, if he isn't interested then he should just say it. That's a big issue with guys today they're just too afraid of being honest. In any case I texted him a couple of times asking him how things are going and how easter was and still no replies. He's active on facebook and snapchat so idk what exactly is going on. I don't believe I was too strong because all we've been doing is talking that's it. And no I'm not dating I just never updated my profile.
 
hi NYClover54,

I agree with KaraBulut that he is now knowing that you are a gay guy as well and that its now up to him to let you know if he is interested in having more contact with you, or not. Please be also aware that being gay does not automatically mean that guys must be friends with each other (or something like that).

So I would like to suggest you that you go on with your life and that you also stop bothering what's going on with him. He knows that you are also an open gay guy, and he will know that he can make contact with you when he would like to continue with having contacts with you. So don't look too much behind what he is doing (or not).
Feel free to react and/or ask.

Best wishes & take care & feel free to react when you have more/other questions.

And I hope soon you will find a new boyfriend / lover.
 
NYClover54 said:
..However, if he isn't interested then he should just say it. That's a big issue with guys today they're just too afraid of being honest. In any case I texted him a couple of times asking him how things are going and how easter was and still no replies. He's active on facebook and snapchat so idk what exactly is going on...
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He is saying it... with action, just not with words.
 
Not everyone responds the same way. Maybe his "cold shoulder" action is his way of saying that he's not interested. If you're seeking a platonic buddy, then meet up with him in two weeks and see how he is then. You really just have to see what happens once you two are meeting in person. You can't force a relationship and you can't force a friendship. Best of luck.
 
You'll know best when you get home. Put the ball in his court and let go. If he's interested you'll soon know.
 
I'm going to take what I like and leave what I don't. I will however see what's up two weeks from tomorrow but I really just think that he's busy and really I just want to see where this goes. If it winds up being a relationship then that's great if it stays as just a friendship then that's also great.
 
^Sounds like the best you can do.
 
NYClover54 said:
I'm going to take what I like and leave what I don't. I will however see what's up two weeks from tomorrow but I really just think that he's busy and really I just want to see where this goes. If it winds up being a relationship then that's great if it stays as just a friendship then that's also great.
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That is a healthy mindset to have. You will be fine. (*8*)
 
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