Whats sex with a woman like compared to with a guy?

[AsianDream]

ASIANDREAM, you wrote in one of your posts that you bi friend said that straight bareback is safe?! What? Where did he get his facts? It sounds like dangerous advice.

Guess I gave a wrong idea of what he said -

It was basically that he knew the girls were real carefull doing casual sex.

Me and him Bareback - but only cos we know we're both strict about being safe when we have casual sex.

I know this isn't totally guaranteed to stop us getting HIV - but nothing in life is yotally safe - just you need to manage the risks.

 

[AsianDream]

Okay, so you'll have sex with these guys and let them use you for something you disagree with, yet you're horrified you'll turn out like them one day.

Good luck figuring that one out.

I don't feel used - it makes me hot having sex with guys that think they're STR8

So I wouldn't say this is them "using" me - more "Mutual Pleasure"

But I do find it a bit surprising that I'm probably not a "Total Gay" - which is a bit disturbing

 

[bankside]

I don't feel used - it makes me hot having sex with guys that think they're STR8

So I wouldn't say this is them "using" me - more "Mutual Pleasure"

But I do find it a bit surprising that I'm probably not a "Total Gay" - which is a bit disturbing

Being bi-curious or slightly, occasionally bisexual does not make you a lesser kind of gay. This just adds to your experience, it doesn't take away from it.

 

[AsianDream]

Being bi-curious or slightly, occasionally bisexual does not make you a lesser kind of gay. This just adds to your experience, it doesn't take away from it.

Hey Bankside - thanks for your "Show and Tell" idea - which is sort of what we did.

I've posted the start of the evening here BI-Virgin Watersports Foursome – getting started

I've still not got round to describing the rest of the evening - but it was totally hotter than I'd ever thought it would be.

Don'r know how much of this is the shared fetish thing - and how much is sexual desire for women.

Anyway - it was a much more intense experience than I expected. But since then has made me rather question my own ideas of my sexual identity.

I've even been masturbating since to a STR8 DVD my Buddy leant me (though it is watersports)

 

[clicker]

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Oh, I just saw the postIi wrote,I forgot about it, thanks.

 

[Nomenclature]

I don't feel used - it makes me hot having sex with guys that think they're STR8

But I do find it a bit surprising that I'm probably not a "Total Gay" - which is a bit disturbing

I hate this double/single standard gay men have:

It's perfectly alright for straight guys to be a little bi. . .or maybe even secretly gay. . .and most of us are like "Duh, everyone's a little gay!" But then there's absolutely NO WAY IN HELL gay men can possibly be the slightest bit bi, and it's extremely disturbing and offensive for you to realize that maybe everyone on the planet isn't completely gay.

You can make straight guys question their sexuality, but if someone makes you question yours, you can't take it it. At least now gay guys will know how your straight male friends feel when you try to make moves on them.

 

[mrjaxxx]

Its hard to really say what you should do when your gonna fuck anybody. Everyone is different and everyone gets off differently. I fucked plenty of women and men and the key to statisfying anyone is finding someone who will enjoy whats being done to them as much as u enjoy doing it.

Example...i like to be in control at all times...no matter with a woman or a man... i like to talk shit a fuck rough and hard. Not all guys or girls are into it but i usually just fuck the people i know ill have good chemistry with. A few I fucked just because i was attracted to but those arent usually repeat sessions.

So knowing what the others are into is a good start and the execution is key as well!

 

[Paradigm]

But I do find it a bit surprising that I'm probably not a "Total Gay" - which is a bit disturbing

Just because your favorite food is Pizza doesn't mean you don't enjoy a good steak.

 

[bankside]

Hey Bankside - thanks for your "Show and Tell" idea - which is sort of what we did.

I've posted the start of the evening here BI-Virgin Watersports Foursome – getting started

I've still not got round to describing the rest of the evening - but it was totally hotter than I'd ever thought it would be.

Don'r know how much of this is the shared fetish thing - and how much is sexual desire for women.

Anyway - it was a much more intense experience than I expected. But since then has made me rather question my own ideas of my sexual identity.

I've even been masturbating since to a STR8 DVD my Buddy leant me (though it is watersports)

LoL. Now I feel strangely naughty like I helped set it up. Glad you had fun even if it is a bit weird right now. I've never done that (WS or vagina) but it's all good.

BTW, don't worry too much about your gay identity...after all it's not like you turned straight. Now you just have a bit more insight into your bi friend, and he still enjoys the guys, right?

 

[AsianDream]

LoL. Now I feel strangely naughty like I helped set it up. Glad you had fun even if it is a bit weird right now. I've never done that (WS or vagina) but it's all good.

BTW, don't worry too much about your gay identity...after all it's not like you turned straight. Now you just have a bit more insight into your bi friend, and he still enjoys the guys, right?

He is hot to - no question that he enjoys guys

Also I guess he's older and wiser than me

I Don't think I've turned straight - but maybe a lot of the things I thought I knew about myself (and others) just aint so.

I'd always reccomend trying WS - I guess also girls

PS: U did help so should feel naughty !

 

[clicker]

Just because your favorite food is Pizza doesn't mean you don't enjoy a good steak.

Excellent!! I always thought a good analogy for bisexual desires would be like enjoying two different cuisine-like Italian and Thai. Nonehteless, I find it tiresome and annoying when people say "I don't like labels" . Why do we feel offended by giving our sexuality a label and not other things in life. We need labels to describe things, however imperfect they are. It's called accurately identifying something because we're human. There's no prison cell for labelling our sexuality as straight,bi,gay. It just seems like people who insist on saying "just sexual" are really being cowardly and lazy to say bi.

 

[clicker]

He is hot to - no question that he enjoys guys

Also I guess he's older and wiser than me

I Don't think I've turned straight - but maybe a lot of the things I thought I knew about myself (and others) just aint so.

I'd always reccomend trying WS - I guess also girls

PS: U did help so should feel naughty !

ASIANDREAM, when are you going to write about the rest of your experience?Hello?!

 

[snakkie]

please, please tell us the rest of the story when possible
you made something that i am willing to do for months, but i am in some way afraid to, that is: fuck a woman =X

 

[soulja]

I'm 20 now and had my first sex (with a woman) when I was 12 years old. I didn't even have gay minds or anything like that. 7 years later, when I was 19, i fell in love with an 47 year old guy and still didn't know how to sleep with him and all that, it was just love. But after a few weeks it worked very well and now, 18 months later, he left me. The sex with him was the best in my life, but was it him, the love, or really the gender? I don't really know. I never had sex with a different man. But now girls getting really boring for me and (older) men is what I want more and more. But fucking you know, when I fuck by myself, I still prefer cunts, I don't like to fuck ass. But on top of that, I love to jerk, suck and get fucked. Kissing has to be there too.

There may be some mistakes, sorry about that, my english is not 100% perfect.

 

[AsianDream]

Excellent!! I always thought a good analogy for bisexual desires would be like enjoying two different cuisine-like Italian and Thai. Nonehteless, I find it tiresome and annoying when people say "I don't like labels" . Why do we feel offended by giving our sexuality a label and not other things in life. We need labels to describe things, however imperfect they are. It's called accurately identifying something because we're human. There's no prison cell for labelling our sexuality as straight,bi,gay. It just seems like people who insist on saying "just sexual" are really being cowardly and lazy to say bi.

Yea that does sound a good way of thinking about it

Also agree that we need labels - specially to communicate complicated things

 

[AsianDream]

please, please tell us the rest of the story when possible
you made something that i am willing to do for months, but i am in some way afraid to, that is: fuck a woman =X

Have finally managed to write the rest of what happened see: BI-Virgin Watersports Foursome – What Happened Next

On reading it - it is rather "hard core" watersports - not really appropriate for this forum - but that's what I'm into.

Though I regulary do it with guys (not as often as I want ) - I think last Saturday was one of the hottest sexual experience I've ever had.

 

[traveler1111]

damn dude! i'm not into WS but your experience sounds friggin hot.

good work.

 

[AsianDream]

damn dude! i'm not into WS but your experience sounds friggin hot.

good work.

Yea - it was incredibbly hot - real hard to actually describe in writing,

I didn't manage to get as far as describing the next morning - maybe I'll skip this - but it was equally awesome

 

[EJMichaels]

One Guy I talked to today said that Lesbian sexuality was more like Male sexuality than that of a Hetro Female?

I find this fascinating and probably agree somewhat. I used to be a lesbian (now bi) and I definitely don't feel similar to het women even when I'm with a man. I'm much more comfortable around gay men. Part of it is the ability to have fun with sex and not need to have the emotional aspects if the participants don't want that. It would go way beyond this topic and the available time to write about this, but I wanted to at least mention it. Unfortunately, I don't know enough lesbians now to make a proper comparison, and almost all the women I know are into BDSM.

 

[EJMichaels]

{Excerpted by EJM} Having sex with a woman and having sex with a man is COMPLETELY different. It's kind of indescribable but I'll try. . . . Personally, having sex with a man, to me, doesn't have any emotional aspect it's completely physical and mental; animalistic if you will. . . .Sex with a woman can also be somewhat political for lack of a better word because (in most cases) you have to treat them respectfully while at the same time trying to make them melt with ecstasy . . . sex with men is more "selfish" with the individual more focusing on getting themselves off than they are the other person while sex with women is more of a game. . . In a nut shell, sex with men is "easier" . . .

I think that covers many of the reasons I prefer seeing men together (as compared to men with women). Not that men don't have high-quality emotional relationships. I'm just talking about the sexual attraction.

If JUB adds "ex-lesbian, now bi" I'll change my profile to include my gender. When people see female and bi, I think they usually assume it's a straight woman who tries women sometimes. I never did that.