Whats sex with a woman like compared to with a guy?

[AsianDream]

I find this fascinating and probably agree somewhat. I used to be a lesbian (now bi) and I definitely don't feel similar to het women even when I'm with a man. I'm much more comfortable around gay men. Part of it is the ability to have fun with sex and not need to have the emotional aspects if the participants don't want that. It would go way beyond this topic and the available time to write about this, but I wanted to at least mention it. Unfortunately, I don't know enough lesbians now to make a proper comparison, and almost all the women I know are into BDSM.

You sound like you've got the same ideas as the two girls I was with

They're lovers - one of them BI and the other (untill with me) only ever having had sex with other women.

They aren't into BDSM - but very into WS (like me). Also both really expert at rimming - which I'd sort of thought only gay guys did.

Whatever - sex with them was awesome - I guess no emotional aspects - but also not at all impersonal - also very affectionate,

Maybe my limited description of it made it sound like just a meeting of bodies - but we also talked a lot - it was a real intimate personal experience - though i guess not the stuff of typical romantic ideas.

 

[clicker]

I hate this double/single standard gay men have:

It's perfectly alright for straight guys to be a little bi. . .or maybe even secretly gay. . .and most of us are like "Duh, everyone's a little gay!" But then there's absolutely NO WAY IN HELL gay men can possibly be the slightest bit bi, and it's extremely disturbing and offensive for you to realize that maybe everyone on the planet isn't completely gay.

You can make straight guys question their sexuality, but if someone makes you question yours, you can't take it it. At least now gay guys will know how your straight male friends feel when you try to make moves on them.

Of course truth cuts both ways, but I understand why many gays feel this way, and it's simple: we have suffered at the hands of the straight world, and continually so, despite great strides in gay rights and human sexualty. To have feelings on the "other side" (in this case, straightville) would seem threatening and suicidal, for it is the straights, would have so demonized us. I can see no other reason for this phenomena.

 

[clicker]

Have finally managed to write the rest of what happened see: BI-Virgin Watersports Foursome – What Happened Next

On reading it - it is rather "hard core" watersports - not really appropriate for this forum - but that's what I'm into.

Though I regulary do it with guys (not as often as I want ) - I think last Saturday was one of the hottest sexual experience I've ever had.

Well that was,er, interesting. Ws is not my thing, BUT I do have two questions. Why did you bareback both her and get barebacked from your bi friend? Surely you know that's dangerous?
You took Viagra. Do you think you would have had as much erection without it? Were your desires strong throughout the sex?

 

[Frau Blucher]

So I will sum it up with my philosophy:

Straight sex usually is based on either emotion, or some kind of domination/possession. Ever notice how with a girl and a guy, the guy either does all the thrusting and it's all about that, or just lays back and gets a blowjob. Straight sex and groups is not common.

Um.....no. Maybe in straight porn, but IRL? Just....no.

Us straight folk are a tad bit more creative than that, trust me.

 

[AsianDream]

I'm honestly still trying to figure out what the "water sports" thing is about. Is that for discretion or is it tongue in cheek or both? I know it's off topic but I'm curious.

"Watersports" (or sometimes just WS) is just a more respectable way of describing sexual activity which includes urination.

The technical term is "Urolagnia" - other expressions include "Piss Play" and "Golden Showers".

I'd guess "Watersports" is the most main stream (pun intended) expression. Though I did have one conversation where my question about liking it ended up in a long description of white water rafting

 

[AsianDream]

Have finally managed to write the rest of what happened see: BI-Virgin Watersports Foursome – What Happened Next

On reading it - it is rather "hard core" watersports - not really appropriate for this forum - but that's what I'm into.

Though I regulary do it with guys (not as often as I want ) - I think last Saturday was one of the hottest sexual experience I've ever had.

Well that was,er, interesting. Ws is not my thing, BUT I do have two questions. Why did you bareback both her and get barebacked from your bi friend? Surely you know that's dangerous?
You took Viagra. Do you think you would have had as much erection without it? Were your desires strong throughout the sex?

I don't Bareback except with guys I know very well and trust to be very careful when having casual sex - or in this case - where a friend can vouch for them.

I'm always very strict about condom use during casual sex. But I do realise there's always some element of risk. A lot of the guys I have sex with regulary are older than me - and have several AIDS horror stories.

I definitely think the Viagra had an effect - even doing group sex with guys - I can't usually cum then still be hard enough to start fucking again almost immediately.

I think maybe quite a bit of feeling excited is from signals you get from your own body - also sort of an "association" thing. I heard somewhere that even STR8 sexuality is a form of Fetish.

 

[snakkie]

DAMN! what a fucking great story! i'm not into WS but that was damn hot and naughty (and dangerous if your not all STD free).
Thank you VERY MUCH for sharing your story. If you repeat something with a woman, please, tell us again how it was.

 

[AsianDream]

DAMN! what a fucking great story! i'm not into WS but that was damn hot and naughty (and dangerous if your not all STD free).
Thank you VERY MUCH for sharing your story. If you repeat something with a woman, please, tell us again how it was.

I know my Buddy and I are both very careful about STD’s and he’s very certain about the girls.

We’re not meeting up this weekend – but we have arranged to go as two couples to “Swingers Night” next week. This is every third Monday of the month – held at the Gay Sauna I go to a lot – they only let in M/F couples – but my Buddy says a lot of people there are BI.

I guess we may do some W/S in the showers – but mostly a “Pee Free” evening – and no bareback (not even between the four of us if others might see us). He says we need to get there early if we want to use the Sling in public (the other two slings are in cubicles).

 

[ShihTzuTylenol]

Um.....no. Maybe in straight porn, but IRL? Just....no.

Us straight folk are a tad bit more creative than that, trust me.

And just how creative is that, Frau Blucher?
[sound of horses freaking out in the distance]

 

[ShihTzuTylenol]

I'm honestly still trying to figure out what the "water sports" thing is about. Is that for discretion or is it tongue in cheek or both? I know it's off topic but I'm curious.

2 words Wel... pee pee...

and other stuff like enemas and shaking up a soda bottle for squirtin'...

 

[AsianDream]

Um.....no. Maybe in straight porn, but IRL? Just....no.

Us straight folk are a tad bit more creative than that, trust me.

And just how creative is that, Frau Blucher?
[sound of horses freaking out in the distance]

Would like to hear some creative ideas for oposite sex activity

Though not with horses - nor the (reputed) New Zealand style - "Where Men are Men - and Sheep are Scared"

 

[traveler1111]

[sound of horses freaking out in the distance]

I just spat out my coffee. LOL

 

[slnattak]

A lot of gross generalizations and bad advice in this thread. When what the OP really needs is something more specific.

Gay sex isn't inherently more 'bond-y' that's just sort of some weird frat boy fetish that people have, that I never really had. Gay sex can be dominating and possessive just like straight sex. I think that perception comes from watching too much porn.

I will say that, it seems, that straight sex is more 'fluidy' and 'watery' and gay sex feels more grounded and 'earthy'. I would say the 'water' element is more like straight sex, cause women naturally lubricate much better, and for other reasons, the physical mechanicals of the vagina.

Gay sex as 'purely animalistic' also isn't true, but there tends to be more emotional issues and hang-ups sadly, because of self-loathing issues, and things that straight couples really don't face. And guys don't like admitting their feelings a lot, and are conditioned to be 'protectors' or whatever. But it's all BS, really. Once you can get past the fact that you prefer men, and it isn't really all *that* different, and a lot of this shit is just in your head- you can probably have a good time with guys, both emotionally and sexually.

 

[slnattak]

It's perfectly alright for straight guys to be a little bi. . .or maybe even secretly gay. . .and most of us are like "Duh, everyone's a little gay!" But then there's absolutely NO WAY IN HELL gay men can possibly be the slightest bit bi, and it's extremely disturbing and offensive for you to realize that maybe everyone on the planet isn't completely gay.

Actually Dear One, this isn't something that gay men do. If they repeat it, they're just internalizing more hatred of themselves. This is something that actually, *straight people* start. All media made for straight people can't have a gay guy that's a little bi. (or even the reverse) But that's straight people's own doing much more than it is gay men's. If a gay guy is repeating it ,he's just being a cliched, pathetic self-loather that is internalizing his prejudice instead of growing a spine and standing up for himself. But he didn't start it. You're being angry at the wrong targets, once again.

 

[Nomenclature]

So what you're saying, is that gay men repress their bi-tendencies due to fear and pressure from straight Society.


How is that any different than a straight man repressing his bi-tendencies due to fear and pressure from Straight Society?!


There is no "us vs. them"; human sexuality is a natural spectrum, and a lot of people who have even the slightest bi tendencies are simply terrified to admit it. Get off of that shit; the entire GLBT movement has been about never being ashamed of who you are. Whatever happened to that?

 

[slnattak]

Basically, you're just like straight men, in that you're terrified you'll somehow enjoy it and it will completely change your sexuality identity as you've always known it.

You're missing the point, and you're being angry at gay men for no good reason. Of course it might feel very, very good. But so does fucking my pillow. It doesn't mean I want to date my pillow, or fall in love with my pillow. Sexual orientation encompasses romantic, sexual, intimate, psychological, religious and emotional (and a whole bunch of other shit, you know), and what you're more intuned with in the balanced sense is what you are. It's kind of like in world of warcraft, the pure classes have the most abilities of their role. Just because a Draenei Warrior has one healing hot spell as their racial, and a few auto-healing abilities, doesn't mean that they're a healer. They're still warriors and main tanks.

I'm a dude. A piece of lint could make me cum hard and have a great good time. Though it's not the interconnectiveness of my soul, as it were.

I don't consider this my 'identity' either. I consider it simply as something natural I was born with. My brown eyes aren't my 'identity.'

And yes, Dear One, it can be very uncomfortable if a gay man is attracted to a female because we know it will just be in a very vacuumy way, instead of the balanced approached of our real, natural orientation- so we don't think it's worth acting it out on, just for some orgasm or good experience. It's unfair for the female and to ourselves. It's not that we're afraid of liking it lol. It's much deeper.

 

[AsianDream]

I'm a dude. A piece of lint could make me cum hard and have a great good time. Though it's not the interconnectiveness of my soul, as it were.

I don't consider this my 'identity' either. I consider it simply as something natural I was born with. My brown eyes aren't my 'identity.'

And yes, Dear One, it can be very uncomfortable if a gay man is attracted to a female because we know it will just be in a very vacuumy way, instead of the balanced approached of our real, natural orientation- so we don't think it's worth acting it out on, just for some orgasm or good experience. It's unfair for the female and to ourselves. It's not that we're afraid of liking it lol. It's much deeper.

Guess I'm rather a shallow person - or at least very hedonistic

I don't mind going to quite a lot of effort for some orgasms and good experiences

Though with sex it's just as much being really excited by the thought of what I'm doing as the physical sensations. Plus love seeing another person really horny and experiencing intense pleasure.

PS: Not tried using lint yet - does it feel good?

 

[AsianDream]

Jesus, if you ever find yourself legitimately attracted to a female you're certainly going to have a rough time.

Also, why are you calling him Dear One, with each word capitalized? The hell?

I'd agree that describing a gay man being attracted to a female as in a "very vacuumy way" is not neccesarily acurate.

Also - while I think my English is brilliant - I'm not a native speaker and know to bear this in mind for others.

You do not know slnattak's country - often an expression like "Dear One" may actually be a mark of respect - which either looks like sarcasm (or rather wierd) when rendered in English.

In fact - though there is no country on his profile - I think that the "SIN" part probably stands for Singapore

 

[rickston69]

I've never been with a man, but I have been with many many women, and they are great. Especially when they are kinky.

I find myself fantasizing about cock now whenever I'm fucking though.

Having never had sex with a woman, I'm curious it all pussy feels the same or does each pussy feel different & unique?

 

[snakkie]

Having never had sex with a woman, I'm curious it all pussy feels the same or does each pussy feel different & unique?

interesting question