What's the average daddy's sex drive?

[spiderhead]

I've always dated middle aged men. My last boyfriend was 40 and he wanted sex every day sometimes twice a day.

My current lover is 42. He's also a twice a day kind of guy although I usually only see him 3 days out of the week.

I've never had someone with a sex drive as low as what you're talking about, but have you been really open in discussing it? Some people have things they need to get motivated for sex.

One of my ex-boyfriends for instance, liked watching porn when we fucked.

I also dated someone who was into things a little kinkier like watersports. That guy in particular had to feel really comfortable with me before he even let me know that he was into that sort of thing. I'm pretty open minded about that sort of stuff so from then on we had a pretty good sex life.

Usually, or at least in my experience, when someone hasn't had a strong drive it's only because there's something that they're really into that hasn't been exposed yet like the aforementioned fetishes.

Or maybe he just doesn't have a strong sex drive.

I think work and stress can also be big contributors to whether or not someone feels up for some fun. If he's got a lot going on in his work or personal life it might be a factor.

 

[WYSIWYG]

Is he on any blood pressure medications or other drugs to make him have a low sex drive?

I hate general statements like, "guys his age just have a really low sex drive".

Puff, nice to see your with an older man. Sweet at your age too.

Everyone is different. My bf is 30, I am 62. We turn each other on every day, in bed, in the kitchen and in the shower. (We like to shower together!)

I am on blood pressure meds, and it is hard to get an erection sometimes, so we have found ways to stimulate me other than just our bed. We have discussed this many times, and we have found ways to make one another happy. He is latino, has a high sex drive, and is always hot and sexy. Love him in this way, and we make love every day and as often as we want.

 

[spiderhead]

yeah bringing up meds is a really important mention, especially if he's on any sort of anti-depressants. These are known to cause a low sex drive and are often taken with other meds to counteract that.

 

[12fear99]

Never thought that age might matter. I do not think so. I almost 40 and my sex drive seems to be just as strong as it has ever been even in my teenage years.

 

[Storybook_Man]

Yeah it could be a lot of different things. Work pressure, medicine, blood pressure, etc....

If you want to get him in the mood, find out the things he likes and what turns him on. Try different things when you guys do have sex so later on when he isn't in the mood or whatever you know what to do to turn him on and ready to go.

I always use massages, then working into lightly kissing, biting licking his neck shoulders etc... Usually works everytime. Lots of body contact works too, like just holding him close or being close and rubbing up and down his entire body. Dont give up! Foreplay is key!

 

[eurochaser]

nothing to do with age
it's just that some cats do and some cats don't

 

[xiandarkthorne]

Twice a day at least works for me. I'm a young Asian grandaddy - going to be 50 cum January.

 

[Storybook_Man]

if it helps me quit smoking, and increases my libido and orgasams...

Hey doc I want some of this! haha

 

[CallMeHTD]

You may not care for my answer.

When it comes to sex drive, all men at all ages are different. It's an individual thing. Some men have high ones, others don't; some have high sex drives at young or old ages, and some do not.

If you love him, and you really think he is worth it- explore all avenues as to what the cause may be on his end: Stress? Depression? High blood pressure? Are you young, fit and gorgeous and is he the exact opposite of that? Is he both attracted to you and intimidated by your young libido and hot body? Maybe the problem is coming from your end: Is your breath and body clean? Are you too demanding in bed? Do you ask for things or say things in the sack that make him feel embarrassed or inadequate?

From this end, it does sound like he's hiding from the problem with the old age / low drive angle. Maybe he just doesn't like sex that much.

If he is unwilling to work on this with you, or even to put out to make you happy, then start to make peace with the fact that you, at the tender age of 22, may not yet be ready to settle for a sexless (or near sexless) relationship. As this post proves, there are plenty of hot daddies with high drives that could keep you satisfied. Explore all options, try to make him understand how important this is to you... but also be prepared to deal with the fact he may be unwilling or unable to sexually satisfy you in the way you'd like. Good luck.

 

[Naughty_Monkey]

this isn't really about age (unless it's medical) it's just different people have different sex drives.

some people say they want it every day some say only every now and again. that's not about age young guys have low sex drives too.

try seducing him a bit more, he might give in and realise there's no tax on sex!!

 

[Storybook_Man]

I always say, sex is a healthy part of a relationship.

 

[Rupture]

My bf is 39, we see each other on weekends, and normally only have sex once in that time. It just comes down to the person, We hug and kiss all the time - That makes up for sex.

Once a week is enough for me really..

 

[nuknuk]

Hm, the "average" daddy is hard to define...

I'm 31, my BF's 57. We have "real" sex (means fucking...) every 2 to3 days.

However, if I want it more often, he finds other ways to get me off, and until now, I'm completely satisfied and have no complaints about my daddy...

 

[Shepherd 2]

I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 40. He claims that guys his age just have a really low sex drive and don't really want it. This is a problem, I'm asking for only twice a week and I can count the number of times we've had sex so far this year on one hand! Is this really the case?

Get a new bf and lose the loser. I am sixty-seven and I can go as often as five or six times a day, and you would have long sessions too, so the Dead CockSociety signals other problems and not just age.



Shep+

 

[Storybook_Man]

Im 22 turning 23 in about 5 days and I dont even know if I could go that long haha. I haven't had good long sex in such a long time . Meaning actual intercourse. Only one guy I have been messing around with for like 4-6 hours at a time, and thats really only exchanging bjs, rubbing up on eachother, lots of neck action, and sometimes me topping him, which he tells me to pull out after a bit =\.

 

[f0zzie05]

Ok...he's on no meds. In top physical shape, runs miles a day, and there is some sort of drive because I know he rubs one out in the morning before I wake up.

ALARM! hello--he rubs one out b4 you wake up. is he staring at you while he does it or comming to places like this one to 'talk' out his feelings. honestly you have an emergency on your hands and a decision to make (i am talking about myself but in reverse) he's good and healthy--enjoys fantasy and wanking...check out what he likes to look at--catch him in the act maybe, if you don't think it'll embarrass him. get into what he's into sexually and make compromises to suit you both.

i am 26 and my bf is 48. we would do it everday if/when we can. sometimes twice just to stick it in. a healthy adult relationship should have sex more than just a couple times a week, try like 3 to 5 times a week. it's alot of time and effort but it keeps things from not being like and going to so do some investigaytion or just try to keep the lines of communication open. maybe an open relationship--as long as its safe the more the merrier...maybe.

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