Whats the limit on sex with guys....?

[sebastian-k]

hmm, the amount of guys who i had sex with currently is under 10 (7 or 8 i guess -i'm really picky-) so if he says 30 or more is kind of too much for me, makes me think that he is just looking for casual sex, or nothing really serious.

 

[Sausy]

You ask too many questions. You know you want me. Just ask. I would do you.

God dammit X,out of the way.....I'm comin' in!

 

[Soilwork]

I object to the word slut.

A "slut" is someone who takes anything that's offered.

a "stud" sees what he wants and goes and gets it.

Either way. I think the word is rather judgemental.

And sure... If I had a connecvtion with the guy his past would be irrelevant.

 

[Johnny Yen]

There is something to be said for proficiency... nothing like a pro.

 

[Croynan]

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[Johnny Yen]

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Pussy.

 

[JASON0980]

Or not........Would you date a guy that has had sex with hundreds of men? Do men that have slept with a lot of partners bother you?

In other words......sluts......love them or not? And why or why not?

i didn't know it when i started dating him, but i dated a guy that said he had been with over 600 men. i think that was probably a little less than accurate. but i found out that he was a total slut. and the number was at least 300. it did bother me quite a bit.

 

[woaini]

it bothers me~~

 

[G-Lexington]

My b/f wasn't exactly a slut, but he wasn't exactly too discriminating back in the day, either. I guess I got the best of all possible worlds, because he's really good, AND he settled down after he hooked up with me.

Lex

 

[winterknight]

The situation is unlikely to ever occur.

 

[Rand]

Or not........Would you date a guy that has had sex with hundreds of men? Do men that have slept with a lot of partners bother you?

In other words......sluts......love them or not? And why or why not?

Stop the talk and just bend over! LOL

As others have said, it is the person that matters - you are a great person, I've enjoyed your threads and posts, so your past actions are not excess baggage to me!

Now if you start in on your frosted-glass-bricks in the bathroom again ...

 

[thewiz]

I've been with several virgins and I've been with experienced guys. I have to admit that the experienced guys taught me a lot about what makes another guy feel good and showed me some places I didn't even know were sensitive! I think they helped make me a better lover.

I don't care how many guys they've been with but when we have a relationship, I expect just that -- we have a relationship with each other. I have had friends that had "open relationships" which I would not have. But that's just me.

 

[XLeatherX]

Pussy.

what did the original post say?

 

[SilverRRCloud]

I'd have very great reservations before starting to judge other people. Throwing stones around, while living in a glass house sounds like a particularly dumb policy, doesn't it?

Their personal histories do not begin with me. And my personal history certainly does not begin with them.

I'd be appreciative of someone, who is truthful and honest and first and foremost, self-confident enough to admit to having had his fair share of fun in life. I am interested in dating sex-positive dudes. Uptight types are not on my list. Sorry, nope.

Besides, I am either into this guy, and am willing to give our dating a chance, or I am not into him. His personal past in that respect is fully irrelevant.

SC

 

[NickCole]

I don't care how many guys a guy has slept with.

I care about what happens between him and me.

 

[andyspete]

I had sex with twenty guys today (and I only count the ones that I fucked or who fucked me). My weekly total has probably not been under fifty more than two or three weeks of the past fifteen months. I guess I've fucked with about 1,500 total strangers since my 18th birthday (and many hundreds more in the four years before that). BUT I look normal, and so do all the guys I fuck.

If a guy is goodlooking and has a great ass, I will fuck him. If a guy is goodlooking and has a big dick, I will bottom. Nothing else matters.

If you're telling the truth, which I believe you are, I am very concerned for you. You must have a really big hole in your heart to feel the need to have that much sex. I sincerely feel sorry for you. Please seek out some help. I would hate for you to become another statistic. Life is too precious to risk for a piece of ass.

 

[drhladnjak]

I don't think anyone has actually had sex with thousands of guys, but I don't think it'd be any different from one who only has had sex with a few or with none at all. However, I prefer unexperienced guys, especially virgins, or guys who have never been with anyone else.

There are definitely guys out there who have. A good friend of mine used to work as a resident in a clinic in San Francisco focusing on STD/HIV testing for gay men. Part of the screening involved asking how many partners a guy had had in the past week, month and year. He'd regularly get guys coming in who were having several partners a week. Even with 2 per week (hookup on Friday and Saturday night), you're looking at over 100 per year. For really horny guys who go out tricking several nights a week and get involved in group sex, 5-10 times per week (250 to 500 times per year) is not hard to do.

All those horrible things we read about in articles or see in public health campaigns were playing out in his office every day. Even now with him working as a physician for a clinic run by the city, something like 90%+ of his HIV+ patients are or were crystal meth users who got infected while barebacking with large number of guys.

 

[mabby7]

are people telling the truth? ... maybe they are (or not) ... but where do you find those guys to sleep with? ...

it almost makes me laugh because in the place where i live ... if i said i slept with 100 guys ... it's like i was saying i slept with half the town ... lols ...

hmmm ... for now i guess ... sleeping with that many guys will just have to be a fantasy ...

 

[drhladnjak]

When a doctor at an STD clinic asks how many partners a patient has had, I can't imagine guys would exaggerate the numbers. If anything, they might downplay them so as to not seem quite as promiscuous.

If you live in a city with a large gay population like San Francisco, it's really not that hard to find sex if you're looking for it. Estimates are that about 17% of people in San Francisco proper are gay or lesbian with nearby cities having unusually high percentages as well. There's simply a lot of gay men around and a high enough fraction of them are looking for sex.

Here's some random stats to think about:

I count 1900 postings (19 pages of 100 postings each) on the men seeking men section of sfbay.craigslist.org just for today. Virtually all of those are for NSA sexual encounters and not for things like dating or platonic friends.

Search for single, gay men between the ages of 18 and 68 (broadest age range it will allow) who have pictures and live within 5 miles 94101 (a zip code in SF) on myspace and you get 2766 results. In Seattle (98102), you get 1565. Do it in San Clemente, CA (92672), a Los Angeles suburb where I went to high school and you get 33.

The density of gay men in certain cities is WAY higher than your average suburban or rural area. It's really the type of thing you can't understand unless you experience it first hand.

 

[dte]

It would be far better to have sex with a slut who has been careful and safe as opposed to someone who has had sex once but unprotected and put themselves in a compromising situation.