DerKanzler
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Ok, this guy has been really confusing me for the longest time. He's one of my closer friends at college and we'll be roommates next year, so I'm not hoping to make a move on him since it would be awkward but I really cant tell if hes gay or bi or curious or what! Firstly, no one at college knows im bi, only friends back at home do. Don't know why I never told my friends here, just never felt the need to to.
Let's see, recently he's been scatching himself and telling me he's scratching himself to bring attention to it. He also keeps his ID card under the elastic band in his gym shorts and sometimes asks me to "get it with my teeth." He frequently puts things of mine (cell phone, wallet, etc) down his pants and tells me to fish it out. He comes into my room and will give me a bear hug for a few seconds while im in my chair (he hugs lots of people, tho not as long it seems). He'll grab me and pull me onto his lap and make thrusting movements with his hips. Early in the year he tricked me into the "kissy game" where he made kissy faces at me and I thought he was just joking around so i made them back, but then he walked across the room and kissed me on the check. i only played a few more times since he looked so pitiful when i refused to play! sometimes when channel surfing he'll stop briefly if a guy has his shirt off and may say in a not too serious voice "oh man hes hot" or "damn he's ripped!" But when guys happen to kiss on screen he'll convulse! sometimes he'll stand up in front of me while im sitting down and i could almost swear he's got boner starting to poke through his gym shorts. he wears 3 shorts daily (jeans, 2 gym shorts, and then boxers) and will occasionally strip down to his 2nd gym shorts and sometimes even just his boxers. Today he, of his own accord, watched a Lifetime movie about a transgendered teen in my room. He has repeatedly asked me to come home with him over breaks and wants me to come up over the summer. He frequently discusses his penis and its large size *rolls eyes*. I've mentioned to him that a few of my friends back home are homo- or bisexual and he brings that up a lot (not necessarily negatively)
Of course I can't describe all of his mannerisms and I realize you have to experience the nuances and subtleties of his actions... but im just really confused! I've never trusted my "gaydar" and would never think someone was gay unless they came up and told me basically. But sometimes this guy act so gay. In my experience straight guys do sometimes act gay if they're very secure with their sexuality. Please tell me this is the case here, I sorta know it is, but sometimes he does stuff and im like "omg, he has to be gay!"
It's very frustrating!!
Let's see, recently he's been scatching himself and telling me he's scratching himself to bring attention to it. He also keeps his ID card under the elastic band in his gym shorts and sometimes asks me to "get it with my teeth." He frequently puts things of mine (cell phone, wallet, etc) down his pants and tells me to fish it out. He comes into my room and will give me a bear hug for a few seconds while im in my chair (he hugs lots of people, tho not as long it seems). He'll grab me and pull me onto his lap and make thrusting movements with his hips. Early in the year he tricked me into the "kissy game" where he made kissy faces at me and I thought he was just joking around so i made them back, but then he walked across the room and kissed me on the check. i only played a few more times since he looked so pitiful when i refused to play! sometimes when channel surfing he'll stop briefly if a guy has his shirt off and may say in a not too serious voice "oh man hes hot" or "damn he's ripped!" But when guys happen to kiss on screen he'll convulse! sometimes he'll stand up in front of me while im sitting down and i could almost swear he's got boner starting to poke through his gym shorts. he wears 3 shorts daily (jeans, 2 gym shorts, and then boxers) and will occasionally strip down to his 2nd gym shorts and sometimes even just his boxers. Today he, of his own accord, watched a Lifetime movie about a transgendered teen in my room. He has repeatedly asked me to come home with him over breaks and wants me to come up over the summer. He frequently discusses his penis and its large size *rolls eyes*. I've mentioned to him that a few of my friends back home are homo- or bisexual and he brings that up a lot (not necessarily negatively)
Of course I can't describe all of his mannerisms and I realize you have to experience the nuances and subtleties of his actions... but im just really confused! I've never trusted my "gaydar" and would never think someone was gay unless they came up and told me basically. But sometimes this guy act so gay. In my experience straight guys do sometimes act gay if they're very secure with their sexuality. Please tell me this is the case here, I sorta know it is, but sometimes he does stuff and im like "omg, he has to be gay!"
It's very frustrating!!
... I was thinking he might have some sort of "leakage" problem so I am not sure how much you should press the issue. Maybe that is why he's not discussing it, because he's embarrassed?