What's your take on this?

[Swellegant]

My feeling is that the guy is going through something of his own. He sounds like a not very communicative person to begin with, so if he's having personal problems he'd be unlikely to discuss them. But this kind of withdrawal is often a symptom of emotional upheavals... perhaps he's struggling with depression, maybe there's a health problem or death in his family, maybe his girlfriend left him, maybe he's got a drinking problem, it could be anything.

So my instinct is to cut the guy some slack. Reserve feelings of anger or rejection by adopting a wait-and-see attitude for whatever's going on with him. And let him know that if there's anything he needs to talk about, you're all ears, but that if he doesn't want to talk about it you'll respect his privacy.

 

[rareboy]

I think you just may be annoying him.

Leave him some room.

If he wants to be friends, be friends. If he just wants to be a casually friendly acquaintance, accept that.

Stop being so needy.

 

[Rex]

My feeling is that the guy is going through something of his own. He sounds like a not very communicative person to begin with, so if he's having personal problems he'd be unlikely to discuss them. But this kind of withdrawal is often a symptom of emotional upheavals... perhaps he's struggling with depression, maybe there's a health problem or death in his family, maybe his girlfriend left him, maybe he's got a drinking problem, it could be anything.

So my instinct is to cut the guy some slack. Reserve feelings of anger or rejection by adopting a wait-and-see attitude for whatever's going on with him. And let him know that if there's anything he needs to talk about, you're all ears, but that if he doesn't want to talk about it you'll respect his privacy.

I think that could be possible because he's had issues with lots of coworkers, he's only 18 and he is starting a new semester at school so I'm sure he's dealing with a lot right now. I don't think this is because he found out I'm bi because I'm positive nobody I've told would go spreading that around and even if they did he's one of the last people they'd tell.

I do think I was annoying him with the texts but hopefully not so much that he wouldn't wanna hang out with me again so I've given the texts a rest.

 

[jizzeater]

Gossip spreads like wildfire in a workplace. It could be someone saw you two were hanging out a lot and they decided to rib him about it.

"Oh, you know about Sultan, don't you? He's *does gay hand gesture*"

 

[Rex]

Gossip spreads like wildfire in a workplace. It could be someone saw you two were hanging out a lot and they decided to rib him about it.

"Oh, you know about Sultan, don't you? He's *does gay hand gesture*"

Like I said, i'm sure it's not a sexuality issue and we haven't even hung out enough for someone to make that assumption. I don't work with assholes who out people and nobody who I came out to would do that to me I'm positive.

 

[Rex]

Thanks, appreciate everyone's input on this. I'll keep you guys updated.

 

[Rex]

Just a small update. I got a 7 day trial membership at the gym where this guy goes.

I did it because it's an amazing gym, 24 hours with a huge lifting and cardio room, 2 big pools, sauna, hot tub, steam room etc. It totally blows my gym away and I wish I would have signed up for a membership there months ago.

Only thing is if I end up seeing him there it might feel awkward. Like, I don't want him to think I'm there just to try and stalk him around or something.

 

[Croynan]

forget about him. if he has been that rude to you before you leave for the military, you can count on it being a lost worse when you leave for the military.

his conduct has really been nothing more they rudeness and a lack of sensitivity towards you. why waste any more time on this guy - what is it going to prove.?

spend your remaining free time with those firends you are close to you and give a damn about what is about to happen to you.

eM.

 

[willsboy84]

forget about him. if he has been that rude to you before you leave for the military, you can count on it being a lost worse when you leave for the military.

his conduct has really been nothing more they rudeness and a lack of sensitivity towards you. why waste any more time on this guy - what is it going to prove.?

spend your remaining free time with those firends you are close to you and give a damn about what is about to happen to you.

eM.

FOR REALZ!!!

And DAMN IT, Sultan...you're FAR too fucking hot to be trippin' over some fool who doesn't appreciate you

 

[Rex]

Just an update.

Me and my friend are actually really close now. I think this was all just in my head.

We spent like 4 hours together at the gym the other day and we became really close as friends.

I feel a little guilty because he feels like a brother to me but I still find him attractive. Sometimes I feel like we are so close to each other that we could become physical in the right situation but I don't really expect that to happen and I'm not trying to pursue it because I like him too much as a friend and would never do anything to ruin the friendship.


I'm so happy everything turned out for the better and I'm gonna really miss him when I leave. I don't think he is just a work friend anymore but a life friend.