what's your threshold for getting blown off?

[treanir]

I must admit I thought of a different kind of blown.

2 if I don't really care either way or am slightly interested, 3 if I'm very interested, and if I had the feeling we were going somewhere I'll ask after 3.

Dating is a game, and we all play by different rules.

 

[skips]

I say three. The first is making initial contact, the second is a follow-up and the third is like it's up to him to either get back to me or not because at that point it's whatever.

 

[AussieGuy91]

I say three. The first is making initial contact, the second is a follow-up and the third is like it's up to him to either get back to me or not because at that point it's whatever.

I'm pretty much the same. It's pretty frustrating when they don't even bother to write a short message.

 

[racer2438]

I'd say 3 for me/us,, first and 2nd things can happen,, but on 3rd no call back/text. Your gone, not wasting any more time.

 

[midnightromeo13]

I hate being ignored. 2 is my limit. First i give them the benefit of the doubt that they are busy. Second one i get annoyed. Then I send them a message, that isn't super nice, and then they normally respond, with some bull excuse about being busy. I don't put up with being ignored, it's rude in my opinion!

 

[Treborf]

2 is my limit, unless the guy specifically said that he'd be the one to call/text me first. In that case, I just assume he's not interested if I don't hear back from him within a few days.

 

[Seasoned]

This is what I did way back when, 28 years ago in April to be exact. Met a guy and hooked up. He was hot; it was hot. Got his number and called a couple of times to ask him out. There was always an excuse, but I didn't want to fixate on him only to call and have him say no. I made sure ge had my number told him I was interested and asked him to call when he wanted to get together. I totally forgot about him by the end of June when he called. We've been together ever since.

Leave him a nice message and tell him to contact you we he's less busy and then forget about him. Being a shrew burns bridges and makes you the bad guy.

 

[OogieMess]

Completely misread the thread title.

 

[TX-Beau]

Yeah, one contact. If he's interested, he'll call. If not, I assume he's not interested.

I won't call again if I've called already, and got no response.

 

[erobert]

if everyone followed that advice, wouldn't we all be sitting by our telephones waiting for them to ring?

updated situation is that the person that generated this post is responding to like two-thirds of my texts they're just shooting-the-shit kinda texts, though. think I'm going to wait until I'm no longer sick, see if he wants to get together again, and see where it goes from there.

Yep, that advice leads to no one getting anywhere and thinking the other person isn't interested when in fact they might be.

My threshold has gotten lower. I send two calls or text before I throw in the towel and conclude I'm getting blown off.

I know people are busy and/ or shy but if someone want's to spend time with you they'll usually make the time or provide an alternate date to see you.

I also have a low tolerance to unanswered texts/ slow response times. If it takes someone more than a couple hours to respond to a call or text I know I've been put in the friend category.

If they don't even respond I know I'm being given the silent rejection.

 

[maxpowr9]

I am a firm believer in the 3 strike rule. However, if I know they are blatantly lying to me (I have a good BS detector) then most likely, I am done with you with no second chances. My BF is pretty good about returning calls/texts but with friends, oh boy it can get downright horrible.