When a man wears a chain and a padlock around his neck...

[Telstra]

You mean like this ?

 

[DantheManFL]

^ I wore something like that bartending one night, until someone told me what it meant.

 

[Telstra]

^ I wore something like that bartending one night, until someone told me what it meant.

I still don't know what it meant either. So what does it mean?
People should not assumed things, they should ask.

 

[Alistair]

^ I wore something like that bartending one night, until someone told me what it meant.

Why stop, it might have gotten you larger tips!

 

[jbrown329]

^ I wore something like that bartending one night, until someone told me what it meant.

I knew what it meant about 2yrs after coming out back in the early 80's. I guess you've led a sheltered life.

 

[luckynumbah7]

So I'm wondering what does the other man in his life wear to show that they are a "couple"? A key around his neck I'm guessing?

Can't ask the guy, for obvious reasons, lol.

Not usually, to my knowledge. If there's a collared sub there may be a key on a piece of jewelry (or just a different piece of clothing/jewelry that has personal meaning altogether) and it may even be worn as part of a scene, but I'd think it's usually unlikely to be worn to show others' the Dom's relationship status unless you've got an insecure-in-relationship-status dominant. Rather unattractive behavior to hear Doms boasting in particular manners (in a 'how many keys they've got' type o'thing), makes it seem unlikely they can dominate their way out've a wet paper bag. It's a 'show, don't tell' type of thing.

There's parading for events and scenes or such, and also wearable accoutremons designed for specific reactions at a specific time, mental or physical, but that's not the same thing as a permanent piece. A collar is generally first personal, then public. And only public when y'know what it means, cuz it's also just an interesting bauble of jewelry. It's the sub's job to follow what's set out and telegraph the boundaries of the relationship when someone interacts with said sub, not the Dom's job to chase everyone off via his acknowledged presence. Though it is customary in some circles to ask the Dom first to communicate in any manner with said sub.* Ymmv, ect ect

*Can't stand the last bit, personally. Everyone's relationship is different, but if I can't ask a generic question like where the hell the bathroom is, I'm not gonna go ask Grimly over there if I'm allowed to speak to his partner. Not when it's generic, everyday conversation.

 

[eastofeden]

This is the first time I have seen it...or heard about it.

 

[Vannie]

I heard about this before, back in 2009.

 

[luckynumbah7]

not the Dom's job to chase everyone off via his acknowledged presence. Though it is customary in some circles to ask the Dom first to communicate in any manner with said sub.*

That was acknowledged presence via key-necklace. And* was -in which case, said sub will say that y'need to ask so-n-so.

I suppose people could be wearing keys around their necks? Has anyone seen a lot of keys?

 

[SaskGuy]

I knew a punk (or rather, a poser) who did this, but I'm sure he only did it because he saw others doing it.