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When did I become such a pussy...

Since when did coming out also include having to change someone else's point of view? Telling her that I'm bi and arguing with her about whether homosexuality is a choice/wrong/whatever do not have to go hand in hand. Whether my mother is able accept it when I tell her is on her, not me.

As I said earlier, I just finished school and am looking to move out. If I were to come out to her tomorrow, without having somewhere else to go, living here would be hell. Why would I put myself through that when I don't have to?
 
It's not changing someone else's point of view; it's standing up for yourself.

You don't instigate arguments, but you don't back down either.

That's being out.

And I'm not saying you have to come out today; just don't keep putting it off and putting it off. It solves nothing. Good luck, I'm rooting for you! (*8*)
 
Thanks for the support.

And I get what you're saying. If it were someone else, I'd have no problem engaging the argument. But if my words are going to fall on deaf ears, I just don't see the point.
 
Actually, besexuals are really the only ones that have a choice. If you're a monogomous bisexual, then at some point you'll have to choose a parter, right?

But one thing you should keep reminding yourself is that you are her son and hopefully she loves you unconditionally and that her church teaches that.
 
Round two.

So after last week's strike out with my sister, I was hoping to give it another try. She's heading back to grad school, so I was running out of opportunities to talk to her in person. Today was the last time I'd see her for a while and I was having trouble getting a moment alone. She had some errands to run today so I said I'd drive her.

We were in the car just having normal conversation. I hadn't really planned out what I was going to say, and just getting the two of us alone took a bit of work. But the car was a pretty good place for me because I knew neither of us were going anywhere. Regardless, I was nervous and my heart was absolutely racing. I was starting to get afraid that I was going to back out again. I didn't wait for silence. I addressed her by by name and in a tone that made it pretty clear that I was bringing up something new.

And I just said "This is a little weird for me to say to you. I like men. I'm bisexual." After so much buildup I was little surprised that I finally was able to tell her. What I predicted in my first post was pretty much how it went. She said she wasn't expecting that and had a few questions for me. She told me I'd always have her support and actually thanked me for being that open with her.

All in all, a good experience. One down, many to go.
 
congrats, my fellow haitian brother! very happy you made the step!
 
bounder said:
Round two.

She said she wasn't expecting that and had a few questions for me. She told me I'd always have her support and actually thanked me for being that open with her.
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It doesn't get much better than that. Congrats! (*8*)
 
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