When did you know you were gay?

[seven_sins]

I was pretty young when I heard my father and some co-workers talking about the son of another co-worker. They never said gay, queer, or anything specific about him. But somehow I understood what they were talking about and I knew then that I was the same way.

 

[ronboy]

I knew when I with my buddy Vince, and all I could think of was what he looked like with his clothes off....

(and yes...I did get to find out after!!!!!)

 

[hotdog1846]

I dunno ... I've always known I was attracted to guys (seven words: hotdog age 6, Mark Spitz, 1972 Olympics! ). Like another poster, I thought everyone felt that way, but I thought guys who made it work with girls had some magic ingredient like the right cologne or something that I lacked somehow. Until I fell in love with a guy, then another, then another, then ... you get the idea.

 

[Joshua_me]

That's a tough question...

In a way, I guess I sort of always knew, but ya know...
NEVER underestimate the power of denial.

"I just haven't met the right girl", all that BS we put ourselves thru....

I guess it was around 10th grade or so that I realized why I was so pissed off
that my 'best friend' (wink wink) was going out on a date with a girl (the horror) that I finally took a step back and realized that I had a crush on him...

Then I knew.... "Holy crap, I'm gay !"

Things got MUCH better after that.

Joshy

 

[Croynan]

Mirror Mirror on the Wall - Who is the fairest of us all?

Think about this question logically and with something called COMMON SENSE.

How at any given point in anyone's give life are they going to recall the moment in time when they discovered they were one of those - a homosexuals.

Yes there might have been an incident while growing up as a child and or moving into adulthood - the exact moment that you decided you were actually a homosexual, i think would defy the laws of "mother nature."

I sure hope you are not asking the year, your age, the month, the week, the day of the week or the hour and the minute it happened. Because if you are doing so and or hinting at that - you are gooding to need a lot of good luck and the fate of the gods working with you.

How does anyone really remember anything that happens for the really first time in their lives - there are so many possible factors involved i would think it would be humanly impossible to determine when such events in the life of a given human being takes place.

Let me know when you find some reliable research, publications, or other sound and reliable method when any event of this nature or others are shown to be truth or provable.

minor opinon on the mind of the local village idiot, and certainly not intended to be offensive in any manner, he promises.

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eM.

 

[Theyoungman]

I never knew I was "GAY"...

But I know I've always like bigger men ever since I was in third grade...

I would explain why I mentioned my specific type of attraction, but I'll let you guys figure it out for yourselves...

 

[jamie_01930]

When I let me be me and kissed that guy. flipping fireworks went off and I had just met this guy. there was no doubt any longer.

 

[_AJ_]

i dont think there was one point

really being gay has always been a part of me its just at differant times i dident know what its was or tried to deny it

i really really knew about 2 years ago when i was working with this girl she would be perfect for any guy and i had no motivation to ask her out when a couple of months earlier i almost asked out a guy who i dident even know was gay

 

[coloradoguy]

I don't know that there was one specific moment, but I remember seeing a cover of a Playgirl magazine when I was seven or eight and it showed a guy with a hairy chest and belly and jeans slightly unzipped. I remember being completely fascinated by that and thinking naked guys are way better than naked women.

And that Loverboy album cover that Soilwork mentioned - I already knew I was gay, but I do remember being turned on by that, especially that hairy arm!

 

[Pringle]

By no means can I speak for Pringle, but his claim resonates with the answer I was preparing. I think I knew most undeniably at the point that I realized it was unmistakable to those detractors around me who felt compelled to taunt me with epithets (i.e., Pringle is unsubtlely saying he was bullied and tortured into facing it, not that they raped him or had sex.)

Or I could be wrong. Quck someone, get a screen shot of this before I recant.

Yeah ^ what he said. (much better than I ever could have)

Although I perhaps wouldn't use the word "torture" sounds a bit too gruesome.

I'm not even sure it was that obvious but as the collegues called lots of people gay - law of averages meant it was going to strike a cord with someone.

I can answer the question "When did you know you were thick?" much easier cause I had to look up two words in Hard-up1's post to understand it

 

[ixthrock]

puberty. at 7 or 8, i remember making out with a ray coniff album cover with some faceless vaseline-lensed late-60's glamourpuss chick on it. yick. i also sucked my brother's dick around the same time, but that was just pretty embarrassing. It wasn't until my first year of high school that i actually got horny thinking about guys. kevin with his saxophone and long-legged swagger and the holes at the crotch of his jeans, and that mesmerizing ass swaying in front of me during marching practice. the baseball uniform. grrrrrrrrr my best bud shaun and those broad hips and powder blue adidas shorts and eyes, low-voiced and hairy-legged. the tastiest cock i ever sucked while i was in denial. ah, we made FUN of loverboy.

 

[bma1983]

I really don't know.

I guess it could be the time when Devin Jones told me I had sexy legs in the elementary school bathroom. I wanted to kiss him. And whenever I saw him my stomach felt funny.

or

It could be the first time I saw the porn my father had hidden in the closet. I only focused my attention on the penis', never the vaginas. And I always pictured myself in the womans position.

 

[gazzax2]

i realised at 16 when i started thinking about the hot boys on the basketball team while jacking off.

16, thats so embarissing! most ppl i know knew at like 13. 3 yrs i missed out!

 

[Reprobate]

I'm not even sure it was that obvious but as the collegues called lots of people gay - law of averages meant it was going to strike a cord with someone.

That was always a big cue for me, whenever I heard slurs against gay's it always cut deep. Other clues such as drooling over my sisters second husband (he is 50 now and still HOT!!), Trying to check out the other boys in the showers in High School. Everywhere you look on a Navy ship someone is working out, walking to the shower in a towel, some of the guys sleep nude, it was difficult to deny what I was feeling. It was amazing how good it felt once I came out to myself but I still feel occasional bouts of confusion when I ask myself if this is all real. I guess the straw that broke the camels back was when I started working with this realy hot black guy about 3 years ago, we work midnight to noon and are alone most of the time and I have always wanted to suck his cock, I love looking at the bulge in his jeans.

 

[hotdog1846]

Speaking of album covers ... when I was a senior in high school ... this one was definitely a boner-inducer!

 

[jockboy21]

belive it or not, around 9 year old

 

[tonyboy]

The word 'gay' wasn't around when I was a kid, at least not that I knew of.
When I was 11 in 6th grade I knew I liked a couple of boys in my class. I hit puberty early.
Before that age I played sports with my buddies like any boy did. Baseball, kick soccer, basketball.... but I always did like to read (not a common thing with the boys in my neighborhood).
Hell, I started writing plays when I was about 9. Got the kids from our neighborhood together and performed them, did many of them until I was about 15. How gay is that?
I'd never heard the term gay growing up.... but when I was 13 I figured something was up with me, something different. Used to hit the library and check out the psychology section. I learned the term homosexual then. I knew by then that that was me.
Once puberty hit I turned from being able to keep up with my buddies in sports in to an uncoordinated, gangly, introverted kid. Spent my time reading.
I remember going in to 7th grade, 12 yrs old.... prayed to God that I would not get a boner in guy class, you know showering with all those guys my age.
Never did happen though I did scope out all the guys then.
It got worse by 9th grade, 14 yrs old.... by then most guys had caught up with me in the sexual development area.
So, I guess to answer your question I've known since I was a kid that I was attracted to boys, then guys.
Never did anything about it until I was 18 or 19 though.

 

[Reprobate]

Or maybe, "Quick someone, get me a spellchecker!"

I thought your sig said no one likes a negative nelly.

 

[bsasfo]

When I was 5 I remember having a ring from a cereal box and it had a compartment in it. I put the names of a boy and a girl that I had a crush on. Some of the neighborhood kids picked up on that I was gay at that point and this one kid named "Seb" was a bully and kept calling me Frisco (as in San Francisco).

Then the first real sexual sense I had was my mother getting a gag gift of a calendar of male celebrity butts. I remember taking it to the bathroom with me before I even whacked off and just salivating over speedo clad asses. That and Jim Palmer and his Jockey ads.

Well, it turns out I am gay and got to San Francisco as soon as I could.

 

[tx_doc]

When I first had a thing for sucking Harrison Ford's dick in Star Wars.

Same for me. I remember coming home from the Empire Strikes Back and telling my mom that when I grew up I wanted to marry Harrison Ford. I was only 7 at the time but that's what I wanted.