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When does a date become a BOYFRIEND?

RicanDAB

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I have posted on other threads about the guy I am currently dating and mentioned that even though we have been dating for about 2 months I am not sure if "boyfriend" is the appropriate reference for him. To my friends, I refer to him as the "guy I am dating" but when does that get tired? Been reading posts here for a while now and now I have this question in my head.

I had not dated since I started a relationship with my last ex 4 years ago and we broke up last year. So I guess you could say I am rusty on the dating etiquette. At my age, I figured I would know better! And to boot ... how do I bring this up with him without sounding like a dork (like he will think: duh, why u asking? OR he might even surprise me and say he was not feeling that way, but that I seriously doubt - especially the way he caresses my face and looks into my eyes)?

Oh, and the "love" issue I am sure about ... THAT I think is too early for me to know, although I can safely say it COULD happen - but in the meantime I care for him extremely.

Any advice guys?
 
I remember after I had been dating my first BF Charlie for about two or three weeks.

One morning, I was laying next to him in bed drinking coffee and eating bagels and reading the news.

I looked at him and he looked so cute with his hair all messed up from just waking up and I said, "So are you my boyfriend?"

and he looked at me with this goofy look he got and said, "well, duh".








ok, I thought it was cute.
 
Soilwork said:
I remember after I had been dating my first BF Charlie for about two or three weeks.

One morning, I was laying next to him in bed drinking coffee and eating bagels and reading the news.

I looked at him and he looked so cute with his hair all messed up from just waking up and I said, "So are you my boyfriend?"

and he looked at me with this goofy look he got and said, "well, duh".








ok, I thought it was cute.
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I agree! That was very cute!

RicanDAB, maybe you could ask him what he thinks of the relationship.
 
Soilwork said:
I remember after I had been dating my first BF Charlie for about two or three weeks.

One morning, I was laying next to him in bed drinking coffee and eating bagels and reading the news.

I looked at him and he looked so cute with his hair all messed up from just waking up and I said, "So are you my boyfriend?"

and he looked at me with this goofy look he got and said, "well, duh".

ok, I thought it was cute.
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Awww, that WAS cute, dude!

And Soilwork's story also brings up an important point: Just ask him!
You seem to be getting along well, so, i think it's a fair question to ask.

I know i asked my previous bf that question point-blank too. (*8*)
 
Hmm...The common answer to a question around here is "Just ask." There's some truth to that, even though it's tough to ask.

Though I have to admit that when I saw the "When does a date become........" title I thought Jockboy struck gold with his luck recently. We'll have to keep waiting for that.
 
Soilwork said:
I remember after I had been dating my first BF Charlie for about two or three weeks.

One morning, I was laying next to him in bed drinking coffee and eating bagels and reading the news.

I looked at him and he looked so cute with his hair all messed up from just waking up and I said, "So are you my boyfriend?"

and he looked at me with this goofy look he got and said, "well, duh".

ok, I thought it was cute.
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I know it's already been said, but that is just too cute:D :D :D
 
LOL thermodynamics. Yeah, I HAD to read this thread. But no, too early for that for me now... I'm just happy that this is a guy that I could see as a bf in the future possibly.

Soilwork's story is great (I'd heard it before but had to read again anyway).

I would give you advice, but yeah, I think you might have to ask... for all the advice we give about being open about everything, I have to admit it is a bit harder to do than it is to say haha. Ok, time to go out again ;)
 
dkonfrost said:
Awww, that WAS cute, dude!
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And THAT was freaky, because as I scrolled down I was thinking of posting the exact same words you started with...even with the upper case "WAS" and all.

Usually it's best to ask something to the effect of "are you my boyfriend"...but 2 months sounds like a long enough time, especially with all this "face-caressing, eye-to-eye looking".

The only time I had this happen, I got sat down and asked straight out too (though it was more awkward than cute...it was complicated...ie. a girl). Seems to be a popular way to go about this though...communication at one of the simplest levels.
 
That's so cute! Just had to say. I would think it would kinda confuse a guy at first: "What kinda question is that?"
Definately a not so serious yet effective way to find out.
 
go with something simple...like maybe


"Well boyfriend, is this like a relationship or just a really long one night stand?"
 
I've noticed that in American usage 'dating' connotes 'screwing'; it's often used as a euphemism. In the rest of the civilised world having sex is NOT implicit in 'dating'. A date is simply two people agreeing to go out and have fun together. The date is what happens in public space. Dating is the process that leads up to sexual interaction. If you're the sort of person who screws on the first date then 'dating' is a brief process for you. After that, if you go out together again, then he's your boyfriend, or you're lovers.
 
I think when the two of you decide you don't want to see anyone else and you'd both like to focus on eachother exclusively

For the record - one date does not constitute "dating" or "boyfriend"
 
Wanted to update you guys ... turns out on the day I was going to approach this with him, he introduces me as his boyfriend to his neighbor. :eek: :)

It all happens naturally ... thanks guys (*8*)
 
You know what this means, he is introducing you to his neighbors, thus you are a keeper ;)
 
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