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When does a date become a boyfriend?

Lube

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I'm dating someone and was told last night that I can't call him a boyfriend for at least another couple weeks. :rolleyes:

So what are your criteria for elevating a date to a boyfriend?

Do you have to have dated x number of times?

Do you have to have said those 3 magic words? (I love you)

Do you have to have dated x number of weeks or months?

Do you have to have reached a certain level of sexuality?

Do you have to have met family?

Are there any phases between 'date' and 'boyfriend'?
 
Lube said:
My wife never swallowed.

Does that mean I can get an anullment? :p
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Yep, try that one in court:

"But Your Honour, she didn't swallow."

I want to see that.

As far as the question at hand, when both wish to call themselves such. It seems this is not the time.

So, call him your wench. =]
 
We dated on and off for 2 years before we both were comfortable enough to become exclusive boy friends - I would have rushed into it, being the impulsive one, but he wanted to take it slow and see what would happen. And of course he was right.
 
looseliam said:
Yep, try that one in court:

"But Your Honour, she didn't swallow."

I want to see that.

As far as the question at hand, when both wish to call themselves such. It seems this is not the time.

So, call him your wench. =]
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I'm sure the judge won't swallow any of this either.
 
I would say it's sometime between when he breaks up with his old boyfriend and when you both get too old to have sex anymore.
 
Effortless_Pro said:
THEN! I Just flat out ask him if he wanted to be boyfriends with me. He said yes and here we are just over three years later...

Aww.
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Congrats! Sounds like you guys are doin' great.

DANNO said:
It was really cute actually. We were lying in his bed watching TV and he just kinda turned to me and told me that he didn't want to see or date anyone else!
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Another cute one! OTOH, I proposed used 'bf' while we were IMing. That was my first problem. Definitely a faux pas. (However, we IM more than post people--we are not teenagers!--because he's deaf.)

looseliam said:
Yep, try that one in court:

"But Your Honour, she didn't swallow."

I want to see that.

As far as the question at hand, when both wish to call themselves such. It seems this is not the time.

So, call him your wench. =]
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He's really good at saying beeeeeeeeeeeytch! I'll have to call him that. That'll get him to change his mind. ;)

randyreese said:
We dated on and off for 2 years before we both were comfortable enough to become exclusive boy friends - I would have rushed into it, being the impulsive one, but he wanted to take it slow and see what would happen. And of course he was right.
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Does that mean it didn't work out?

slobone said:
I would say it's sometime between when he breaks up with his old boyfriend and when you both get too old to have sex anymore.
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Sex? Are supposed to be having sex?

I just paint his toenails.

We're taking it very slowly. :p

No, he does not paint his toenails!
 
Sounds like you all are doing really well and just taking it slow.
 
That's it exactly.

TheBled said:
I just think it has to do with a couple of dates and if things work out, one or the other discusses wether or not you want to take it to the next level, and if so, then you have yourself a boyfriend.

I don't think the others are a requirement to be a boyfriend, because those are things that can happen during a relationship.
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A date becomes a boyfriend when he is invited to sleep over at your house one night, and he never leaves.
 
I can't really answer since I'm still so young and never had a boyfriend before... :(

But I think it would happen when you don't expect it to. You just become closer for a longer period of time than you do with your oher friends I guess. :?
 
I think it might be after you've been naked on the kitchen floor with the lights on

:badgrin:
 
shyguywpg said:
A date becomes a boyfriend when he is invited to sleep over at your house one night, and he never leaves.
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Yeah! That's what happened to me!! And he's still here after 24yr.!!! (group) :hurray: (!w!)

It was just one of those things that was "meant" to be! We weren't planning on starting anything "major"! But ... surrounding circumstances (very long story!) ... lead to a permanent condition! ..|

Now, I'm wondering, when does "boyfriend" become "Partner"?? That transition somehow alluded my conscious realization! (Maybe it was when we managed to "accidentally" get my other two roomates (an established guy/guy couple) to move out of what became "Our" apartment?? :confused:

Keep smilin'!! :kiss: (*8*)
Chaz (and "My" Kev) ;)
 
My partner, whom I lovingly refer to as The Boy in these forums, and I began calling eachother "partners" after we made a commitment to eachother. Until then, when we were dating, the term was boyfriend
 
Lube said:
I'm dating someone and was told last night that I can't call him a boyfriend for at least another couple weeks. :rolleyes:

So what are your criteria for elevating a date to a boyfriend?
When you don't have to ask.

Do you have to have dated x number of times?
No, until the above happens, you'll just be wondering if you're just using each other to pass the time.

Do you have to have said those 3 magic words? (I love you)
For some guys, yeah. But a certain percentage will think "bleh" and run the other way.

Do you have to have dated x number of weeks or months?
Sometimes it's a sure thing before even the first date starts!

Do you have to have reached a certain level of sexuality?
That has nothin' to do with it.

Do you have to have met family?
You have to meet each other's mind and get acquainted with how it's furnished.

Are there any phases between 'date' and 'boyfriend'?
Depends on how masochistic you are, respectively.

:D
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But everyone else's answer is better than mine.
 
I actually posed a similar question elsewhere on JUB and I got good feedback from the guys who replied. Basically asking him and talking about it is the key. I have yet to do that. I have been dating my guy for 2 months now and we have not approached the issue. No hurry on my part and probably not his either to put a label on ourselves. We're enjoying the moments we have. I do intend on having the conversation with him sometime when it feel natural (unless he does it before me). We seem to be gravitating in that direction however, and I realized that when he suggested that we take a weekend trip to Miami sometime.

However, if we are still together next Feb 14 and things are still going great I will be sure to do something extra special to let him know how I really feel. It seems like the perfect occasion. :luv:
 
Kurn said:
But everyone else's answer is better than mine.
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Oh, not so, Kurn! I thought your answers were just right!! Intelligent, Insightful, AND Entertaining! ..| (group) :hurray: (!w!)

Keep smilin'!! :kiss: (*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
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