when you get older....?

[eryk-v]

You are only 18.
What are you talking about. Plenty of things you haven't done yet.

what I meant was that I don't look forward to being an age where there is less vitality/less hair on my head/less energy/more wrinkles/more aches...it's not something to look forward to.
do the wonderful things in life there is to do. travel, whatever. before 40 or 50.
i'd rather 'burn out than fade away', so to speak.
i am not suicidal, though.

 

[spooger]

i know that for some people, aging hurts, but i've never completely understood the dread of growing older or the fascination with youth ...

yeah ... i know that in the gay world you're dead past 30, but ... really!

for me, life gets better ... i'm not partnered now ... he died some years ago ... but i love my work, i volunteer with a medical group in another country, my finances are relatively secure, and i am healthy and fit, i still canoe, camp and backpack miles in the mountains or desert ... and i have many long term friends of 30+ years, and i make new friends easily ...

Native American proverb: "One should not complain about growing old. It is a privilege denied to many". I believe this whole heartedly. I turn 60 in May.

 

[birddog7]

Getting older sucks. At least it does for me...

 

[Croynan]

it's too late, the deed has been done.

eM/

 

[virgoboy]

Eh.... it's not so bad.... Let me finish gumming my oat meal real quick....

I never thought I'd live to see 30, but here I am now at 47.
I'm dating now and enjoying the experience, but I discovered that at this age I know myself pretty darn well and actually don't want a partner. I truly enjoy the freedom I now have. Didn't see THAT coming.

I have friends, toys to play with, my own business and great health. I can come and go as I please, and intend to stay that way. Other than a FWB, I'm not too worried about getting old alone.

It is very well to say you enjoy your freedom but you don't have someone to share day to day like travel. It is not fun to travel alone.
Who is going to care and visit you when you are sick in bed???
Human are dependent on others, another way would be darkness n loneliness

 

[Telstra]

It is very well to say you enjoy your freedom but you don't have someone to share day to day like travel. It is not fun to travel alone.
Who is going to care and visit you when you are sick in bed???
Human are dependent on others, another way would be darkness n loneliness

Nursing homes ...

Yeah that is a tough question to answer.

 

[Deandbn]

Curious what it would be like if you pass 40??? Not as attractive and still single, how do you cope?

I find it pretty good to be past 40 actually. I am 58 now and would not change it for the world. I have a wonderful life, wonderful boyfriend, good job, nice house, lovely car and lots of amazing friends.

In fact I would hate to be young again and have to put up with zits, an oversupply of testosterone, immaturity, shit beginners job with minimal pay, undetermined sexuality, no self confidence, no long term relationship / fickle relationships, etc. - need i go on?

What you poor youngsters are going to have to put up with and/or go through to get to where i am now will take you many years. I much prefer where i am now.

 

[bendted]

Not as attractive and still single, how do you cope?

Coping just fine, thanks (52).

 

[Scottyboi]

I'm gonna look like my uncles when I'm older (I've been a spitting image of them my whole life cept I have brown hair instead of blond =P)

both are in their late 50's and both still look like they are in their mid 30s =D


that said...if I'm still single at 40 I plan to buy a ton of cats, dress like a women and move someplace where they dont know me and be the crazy cat tranny ^_^

 

[Telstra]

I'm gonna look like my uncles when I'm older (I've been a spitting image of them my whole life cept I have brown hair instead of blond =P)

both are in their late 50's and both still look like they are in their mid 30s =D


that said...if I'm still single at 40 I plan to buy a ton of cats, dress like a women and move someplace where they dont know me and be the crazy cat tranny ^_^

Easier said than done.
Have anyone done this?

 

[Audio Tech]

It is very well to say you enjoy your freedom but you don't have someone to share day to day like travel. It is not fun to travel alone.
Who is going to care and visit you when you are sick in bed???
Human are dependent on others, another way would be darkness n loneliness

I never said I WANT to be alone, but I'm not desperate to find someone either. And I AM dating....

But anyway, I figure that if the right guy is meant to come into my life, he will. I just won't sit here and feel old and lonely in the meantime, because... well... I'm not either of those.

 

[ibill1]

You have to realize even if you do find someone you could be alone later in life. I was partnered for 33 yrs. then BAM, in the blink of an eye, he suddenly passes and I'm alone, except for family and friends of course. At least I had those years with him and we did take care of each other all those years. I got such pleasure taking care of him when he was ill or going through a tough time.

If this does happen to you life takes on a whole new meaning. I try to get as much enjoyment out of life as I can without him, but I'm ready to go at anytime with the fantasy hope that I'll be reunited with him. I have to believe and hope for that or I'll undoubtedly lose it completely. I'm not leaving out the possibility of meeting someone else this far along in this journey, but I am aware it's unlikely.

 

[birddog7]

Years ago I never though I would get this old, and really didn't want too, but I did. I don't know if that's a good thing, or not...

 

[lil_Diablo]

The alternative to growing old is not much better, but seriously, older men report being happier than younger men. I can attest to the truth of this, because I'm happier now than I was at 20. (see link below)

"In an aging and happiness study that for the first time studied the same subjects for 12 years, researchers found that as people age, they become happier."

http://www.suite101.com/content/older-people-happier-than-younger-research-finds-a306555

 

[MindBlast]

I'll be even more muscular than I am now, feel great about myself, and enjoying my life.

I'm 27. I'm only getting better with age. I've seen guys that were 65+ and ripped and active. That's going to be me.

Plus I'll be far into my career by then. Already got 3.5 years as a geophysicist under my belt.

Getting older isn't necessarily bad. I'll enjoy every step of the way if I can.

 

[birddog7]

The alternative to growing old is not much better, but seriously, older men report being happier than younger men. I can attest to the truth of this, because I'm happier now than I was at 20. (see link below)

"In an aging and happiness study that for the first time studied the same subjects for 12 years, researchers found that as people age, they become happier."

http://www.suite101.com/content/older-people-happier-than-younger-research-finds-a306555

I'm happy for those who find this to be true. However, I have not found it so for me.

 

[lil_Diablo]

I'm happy for those who find this to be true. However, I have not found it so for me.

I'm sorry to hear that, BirdDog. Hang in there.

 

[evanrick]

i think men do get more attractive with age.

im 27 now, my life is already over. if i could sell my soul for 5 years of happiness then die i would take it in a heartbeat.

so being old is a great achievement, it means you were successful.

 

[tdguru]

Even better!!!

I turn 51 on May 1st, and all I can say is that I have been hit on by 18 year olds and up constantly, flirted with by sales staff at more department stores than I remember. I usually dine out with friends twice a week, and I usually come home with a telephone number from a cute waiter AND something missing from the restaurant bill!

 

[sabot3ur]

Life is a journey, it's all about enjoying the present time you are given and learning to cope with whatever shit gets thrown at you. I hope as I get older I can continue to progress my life and be more in tune with my wants and needs.