When you see a hot guy...

[Charon]

Do you get all "feelsy" about him or do you just think of him as a piece of fuck meat? For example, porn actors and "popular" male models on social media (well, porn actors use social media, too). As you pay more and more attention to him, do you begin to "care" for the guy or, again, fuck meat? Like, if something bad happens to him (property destroyed, death, etc.), do you "feel" for him, or do you just shrug it off thinking to yourself, eh, plenty of hot guys I can spank the monkey to. The comments I've seen posted on gay porn blogs and such announcing the demise or poor health condition of certain hot porn actors really got me thinking about this...

 

[ShadowCat]

Depends on who it is Wolf Legrand Bill Farnsworth Paul Carrigan Vinnie DAngelo Brent Corrigan Trevor Knight Robert Van Damme Alec Powers Jessie Coulter all fuck meat! I god help me actually care about Topher Di Maggio, Damien Crosse Francesco D Macho Connor Maguire Connor Habib Allen Silver JJ Knight Colby Keller Colby Jansen Nick Capra Paddy Obrian Jaxton Wheeler and Diego Sans!

 

[DepravedMuscleFTL]

I do - and maybe I have a little story that helps illustrate that many other guys do to...

long ago I bought the inventory of a leather shop that was going out of business - in that deal it included hundreds of still factory sealed out of print magazines like Colt - Spurs - Olympus - etc. which I was posting on eBay and getting good money for - and one night I was feeling my love strings pulled on and I posted one Colt magazine with no description whatsoever - just song lyrics - and started the auction at .01 cent - normally I would post them at 29.69 and they would get a handful of bids and sell for about $75. a mag at the time... this one got nearly 100 different bidders and sold for over $300 - I am confident that most of those guys just wanted to pay homage to the thought process - exactly as you were describing - the connect and care for a gay icon of the times...

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Don't leave me in all this pain
Don't leave me out in the rain
Come back and bring back my smile
Come and take these tears away
I need your arms to hold me now
The nights are so unkind
Bring back those nights when I held you beside me

Un-break my heart
Say you'll love me again
Undo this hurt you caused
When you walked out the door
And walked out of my life
Un-cry these tears
I cried so many nights
Un-break my heart
My heart

Take back that sad word good-bye
Bring back the joy to my life
Don't leave me here with these tears
Come and kiss this pain away
I can't forget the day you left
Time is so unkind
And life is so cruel without you here beside me

Un-break my heart
Say you'll love me again
Undo this hurt you caused
When you walked out the door
And walked out of my life
Un-cry these tears
I cried so many nights
Un-break my heart
My heart

 

[Dominus]

I actually tend to get too emotionally attached to guys. Hence, I don't watch porn. I know this sounds silly. I don't sleep with any guy unless we are at least dating.

 

[Cormac135]

Not really, nowadays it's mostly amateur porn i watch so i don't know the names at all.

Back in the day i was very into Mason Wyler who i think caught HIV don't know how he's doing now and more recently Blu Kennedy when he was younger not the muscle queen he is now, sadly i think he's got himself in trouble with the law, haven't been keeping up with him either though.

I've got a retro porn thread here and a lot of the guys are very into a lot of the old timers from back in their youth, a lot of them got wiped out due to AIDS, drugs, and a hell of a lot of car accidents, i recall when i first got here there was one member who delighted in posting now pictures to my here ones, usually some poor sod lost on drugs or in prison for murder etc, fairly delighted in the guys downfall.

 

[Peloso]

I know Carl Bratananadilewski understands this concept.

 

[USEDCAR]

I don't know any of the porn actors names either.

I remember watching a porn video and the same guy was in tons of gangbang videos i hope he doesn't have a std.

 

[cabinfever]

I can't say I ever had any crush or feelings for any porn actor. Years ago there were two I liked alot - both dead from AIDS in the 80s/90s. I am not sure I would say they were any kind of romantic feelings though - I was just sexually attracted to them. Today - there are three guys I find sexually attractive in porn enough to check out whatever movie they are in - again no romantic feelings.

 

[ShadowCat]

I actually tend to get too emotionally attached to guys. Hence, I don't watch porn. I know this sounds silly. I don't sleep with any guy unless we are at least dating.

I can totally relate to the relationship thing one night stands blow n go's aren't for me!

 

[jaysizzles]

I pretty much only think of hot guys and porn stars as "fuck meat." I have a few favorite porn stars that I'll watch more than others, but still just think about sex with them, not a relationship...same for random hot guys I see in public or tv. However, awhile ago I would regularly watch Marc Dylan videos on youtube and thought he was not only fuckable but a cool and intelligent type of guy that I could see as relationship material.

 

[ChristianGianni]

I don't use any social media apart from JUB so I don't follow what's going on with them. Having said that If I see a video with one I really like the look of I'll look at other porn sites to see what other videos they've made. I've met one quite well known gay porn actor through a mutual friend and he's one of the nicest kindest guys I've met.

 

[Thad1527]

When I lived in central New Jersey, Steve Kelso was our local gay bar bartender. I could never think of him as just fuckmeat...he was friendly and welcoming.

But many other porn performers? I objectify them. Always. Especially if I hear they're pretty awful human beings (Billy Santoro and Colby Keller come to mind).

 

[jaysizzles]

I don't use any social media apart from JUB so I don't follow what's going on with them. Having said that If I see a video with one I really like the look of I'll look at other porn sites to see what other videos they've made. I've met one quite well known gay porn actor through a mutual friend and he's one of the nicest kindest guys I've met.

When I lived in central New Jersey, Steve Kelso was our local gay bar bartender. I could never think of him as just fuckmeat...he was friendly and welcoming.

But many other porn performers? I objectify them. Always. Especially if I hear they're pretty awful human beings (Billy Santoro and Colby Keller come to mind).

You lose the disconnect of just objectifying them once you meet them and get a sense of their true personality...see them acting naturally. That in itself can be a bigger turn-on than their looks. It can work both ways though...easy to get completely turned off by a hot guy that is a real asshole.

 

[NotHardUp1]

Do you get all "feelsy" about him

That sounds a lot like handsy.

 

[HoodedRat]

^
Yay! You're back!

Good to see you here again.

 

[Vannie]

That sounds a lot like handsy.

That sounds rather accusatory.

I'm reporting you.

 

[mcbrion]

I acknowledge any interest or curiosity about them I might have, but until I know who they are as a human being, neither desire not emotions towards them aren't really there. It has to go past the surface to engage my attention fully. Otherwise, life in SF in the 1970s taught me as much as the university I learned at, ever could - about Life itself. And people. (Although the "people" part I had already learned from my last four years of high school in an all-White environment in upper class Connecticut starting in 1965. Extraordinarily educational.)

I admire looks, but they do not, by themselves, create desire.