Where Are Your Balls?

[kevbo]

My balls are always bouncing to the left and to the right...

 

[GL]

1. no - i'm shy
2. no - i'm shy
3. no - i don't think i've ever caught anyones eyes on me
4. no - i'm shy
5. no - what? noo...
6. no - like the hunter?
7. no - i tend to think too much
8. yes - i'm shy
9. no - it's never really come up
10. yes - but only if i'm feeling uncomfortable
11. yes - but i'm working on that
12. yes - all the time, but i'm working on that
13. yes - because its always the ladies
14. no - if someone i know was fond of me i must have missed it
15. no - but only because i'm unaware

 

[JetSetJake]

I often give an extended gaze (or outright stare lol) to guys around me and will smile back if I see someone looking at me. However, I usually think they're looking at me because they think I'm strange rather than because they have some interest, so I also look away after returning the glance/smile.

I think all of the things on your questionnaire come down to confidence. Naturally, some people are more confident than others. I'm usually confident in my work, but in social situations, quite the opposite.

On the rare occasion when the opportunity of getting close to someone comes up, I try to take it. I'm naturally affectionate and tactile so I often touch people when I'm talking to them etc. However, due to the shyness/confidence issues, even getting to the talking point is a long journey But if I'm at the talking point, I try to let someone know that I like them by touching their arm or hand, or thigh if we're sitting.

I would say that I've worked hard on these issues, but there's still a heck of a lot of work to put in so that it becomes/feels more natural to flirt with/chat up guys.

As regards the question of anybody else longing for some affection - to that I can definitely answer "yes"

Take care and I wish you all the best. Keep working on these things and you'll get the rewards - of that I'm sure.

 

[davy]

some food for thought

confidence is a tough thing for all of us. it has to be built and most of us don't know how.

 

[Sunshine]

1.) If an opportunity to get close to someone comes up, do you take it? (this can be a number of things: kissing or holding hands or sex or even just putting your hand on someone's knee)
Nope.

2.) Do you hold a stare with the handsome man/woman looking at you from across the room?

No, they're scheming ways to humilliate me.

3.) Do you smile at the eyes on you?
Yes.

4.) Do you start the extended gaze?
Who?

5.) Are you the hunter?
Nope.

6.) Do you approach?
Nope

7.) Do you act before you have time to think and talk yourself out of it?
Sometimes.

8.) Do you wait to be approached?
No? Well...I dont really expect it to happen so no.

9.) Do you do all the work to get him/her where you want them but falter under nerves when they are right in the palm of your hands? (damn I hate that)
Um, no.

10.) Do you ignore?
Yes

11.) Do you feel unworthy?
Yes

12.) Do you get in the way of your own happiness?
No, other people do.

13.) Do you escape the fondness of the pleasant stranger?
No ?

14.) Do you escape the fondness of someone you know?
No? ...again

15.) Do you miss all the signs therefore missing all the opportunities?
Nope.



Well....it gave me something to do.

 

[Ben_G]

Do you have 'em when you need 'em?Yes

1.) If an opportunity to get close to someone comes up, do you take it? (this can be a number of things: kissing or holding hands or sex or even just putting your hand on someone's knee).Yes

2.) Do you hold a stare with the handsome man/woman looking at you from across the room?Sometimes

3.) Do you smile at the eyes on you?Always

4.) Do you start the extended gaze?Sometimes

5.) Are you the hunter?A few times i have been

6.) Do you approach?Yes

7.) Do you act before you have time to think and talk yourself out of it?No

8.) Do you wait to be approached?Not always

9.) Do you do all the work to get him/her where you want them but falter under nerves when they are right in the palm of your hands? (damn I hate that). No

10.) Do you ignore?No,thats rude...though i've had guys do that to me

11.) Do you feel unworthy?Never!

12.) Do you get in the way of your own happiness?No

13.) Do you escape the fondness of the pleasant stranger? That would depend on the stranger

14.) Do you escape the fondness of someone you know?No

15.) Do you miss all the signs therefore missing all the opportunities?Sometimes


*deep sigh* anyone else longing for some affection tonight?Sure

Oh yeah...

 

[vulgar_newcomer]

1.) If an opportunity to get close to someone comes up, do you take it? (this can be a number of things: kissing or holding hands or sex or even just putting your hand on someone's knee)

At my age, such opportunities are long gone. Immaterial.


2.) Do you hold a stare with the handsome man/woman looking at you from across the room?

No need, no one stares at me from across the room.


3.) Do you smile at the eyes on you?

No eyes on me, no smiling needed.



4.) Do you start the extended gaze?

And be accused of being a filthy old troll? Fat chance.


5.) Are you the hunter?

And be accused of being a filthy old troll? Fat chance.


6.) Do you approach?

And be accused of being a filthy old troll? Fat chance.



7.) Do you act before you have time to think and talk yourself out of it?

Nope.


8.) Do you wait to be approached?

Not going to happen. Nothing to be concerned about therefore.


9.) Do you do all the work to get him/her where you want them but falter under
nerves when they are right in the palm of your hands? (damn I hate that)

The only thing my palms are full of is synth.


10.) Do you ignore?

Ignore what?


11.) Do you feel unworthy?

Of what?


12.) Do you get in the way of your own happiness?

Not that I'm aware of.


13.) Do you escape the fondness of the pleasant stranger?

I have no idea of what you speak.


14.) Do you escape the fondness of someone you know?

How are we defining fondness here? If you speak of someone wanting to give me a hug etc. no. There is nothing else.


15.) Do you miss all the signs therefore missing all the opportunities?

I have yet to see any signs.


*deep sigh* anyone else longing for some affection tonight?

I'm currently feeling peckish, and needing some tea.

My God man you say your 52 and consider yourself troll material, what will you be like at 67? How depressing your reponse was and it made me sad.
I would wager you likely would have typed a simlar reponse when you were 37. Very low self esteem.
Unless the object of your desire is 18 you should not feel so used up & play with guys more your age (those guys don't think they are trolls at 50!!)Hopefully you are just joking because if you really represent this attitude then anyone would pick up on it so quickly they would run for the door and the image you potray is in fact self full filling regardless of age.

You sound like a EMO kid or I guess a EMOtroll.

 

[Shepherd 2]

Do you have 'em when you need 'em?Yes

1.) If an opportunity to get close to someone comes up, do you take it? (this can be a number of things: kissing or holding hands or sex or even just putting your hand on someone's knee).Yes

2.) Do you hold a stare with the handsome man/woman looking at you from across the room?Sometimes

3.) Do you smile at the eyes on you?Always

4.) Do you start the extended gaze?Sometimes

5.) Are you the hunter?A few times i have been

6.) Do you approach?Yes

7.) Do you act before you have time to think and talk yourself out of it?No

8.) Do you wait to be approached?Not always

9.) Do you do all the work to get him/her where you want them but falter under nerves when they are right in the palm of your hands? (damn I hate that). No

10.) Do you ignore?No,thats rude...though i've had guys do that to me

11.) Do you feel unworthy?Never!

12.) Do you get in the way of your own happiness?No

13.) Do you escape the fondness of the pleasant stranger? That would depend on the stranger

14.) Do you escape the fondness of someone you know?No

15.) Do you miss all the signs therefore missing all the opportunities?Sometimes


*deep sigh* anyone else longing for some affection tonight?Sure

Oh yeah...

I saw no reason to repeat this sequence, since he pretty well said it for me too.


Shep+

 

[ronboy]

Do your balls hang low?
Do they wiggle to and fro?
Do you tie them in a knot?
Do you tie them in a bow?
Do you throw them over your shoulder like a good little soldier?
Do your balls hang low?

 

[jaydizzo]

1.) If an opportunity to get close to someone comes up, do you take it? (this can be a number of things: kissing or holding hands or sex or even just putting your hand on someone's knee)
yes

2.) Do you hold a stare with the handsome man/woman looking at you from across the room?
sometimes

3.) Do you smile at the eyes on you?
yes (guessing you mean the stare)

4.) Do you start the extended gaze?
sometimes

5.) Are you the hunter?
not all the time

6.) Do you approach?
yes

7.) Do you act before you have time to think and talk yourself out of it?
yes when im happily buzzed

8.) Do you wait to be approached?
every once in a while

9.) Do you do all the work to get him/her where you want them but falter under nerves when they are right in the palm of your hands? (damn I hate that)
nope

10.) Do you ignore?
at times

11.) Do you feel unworthy?
hell no

12.) Do you get in the way of your own happiness?
nope

13.) Do you escape the fondness of the pleasant stranger?
huh?

14.) Do you escape the fondness of someone you know?
huh??

15.) Do you miss all the signs therefore missing all the opportunities?
never miss signs whether i see them all depends


and as for my balls in my boxer briefs

 

[Pushover]

*imitates the red-headed girl on Peanuts*

Well, I have naturally droopy balls.


....other than that I don't have any. I'm very shy and withdrawn.

 

[ixthrock]

i don't think i'm unworthy, i just don't think SOME people will take the time to appreciate me fully. Lots of pyt's I imagine are going to be on the lookout for other pyt's, so I don't usually bother.

Like at dinner in Atlanta - very beautiful young man on one side of me, an older gentleman on the other. I chatted up the older fellow and practically ignored the hunk on the other side of me.

Now, mind you, in many situations I'm not out to "score" any goal except for hearing an interesting story - and because of some (by now, not-so-recent, but still very painful) experiences, I've been conditioned to try avoiding giving people the idea that I'm interested in them in "that way."

If I find someone attractive, however, I usually DO try to address that in the most banal, neutral, non-threatening way I can think of. But there are many times when my mouth just runs away from me, or I find my barely conscious attraction peeking out in hysterical ways (I posted in a thread earlier about peering between a guys legs at work and saying "That looks really good!" - he had what I thought was a can of beer nestled there, and it was an Arizona Tea...)

I have one guy in my life who's fondness I want to escape from - at least some aspects of it. He's a good friend, but not really what I'm looking for as far as other spousal (or even fuckbuddyal) qualities go. Plus he currently has a (elderly, i.e. dieing) partner. Today one of his neighbors knocked on his door to tell him that his partner was out wandering onto the street and hallucinating. He said, "I know."

I don't think I really have self-esteem issues, or that I'm lacking balls. A guy's hunkiness has never really stopped me from chatting him up, and in many ways I'm still very aggressive socially - it's just that I nevermore see a guy, decide to pursue him in "that way," and act on it. I do NOT hunt. I just state plainly that I think someone's attractive, and move on. If they follow, it will be another story. To my knowledge, as of yet, no-one's following.

 

[NW007]

Do you have 'em when you need 'em?

1.) If an opportunity to get close to someone comes up, do you take it? (this can be a number of things: kissing or holding hands or sex or even just putting your hand on someone's knee) Sometimes


2.) Do you hold a stare with the handsome man/woman looking at you from across the room?
Yes
3.) Do you smile at the eyes on you? Yes

4.) Do you start the extended gaze? Sometimes

5.) Are you the hunter? a few times

6.) Do you approach?
Sometimes
7.) Do you act before you have time to think and talk yourself out of it? Sometimes

8.) Do you wait to be approached? Not always

9.) Do you do all the work to get him/her where you want them but falter under nerves when they are right in the palm of your hands? (damn I hate that) No

10.) Do you ignore?No

11.) Do you feel unworthy?No

12.) Do you get in the way of your own happiness?No

13.) Do you escape the fondness of the pleasant stranger? No

14.) Do you escape the fondness of someone you know?No

15.) Do you miss all the signs therefore missing all the opportunities?No


*deep sigh* anyone else longing for some affection tonight?

--Brie

My answers are short but to the point