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it is kind of scarey at first because you are entering the unknown, but most of the time people will make you welcome and take you under their wings...but beware of the intentions of some, new guys are prey and they use the insecurity against you for their gain (sex).

i used to facilitate a group for years and it was fufilling in most senses. there are many types of these groups, be sure to find one that fits your needs.

a support network of friends is always good whether you are just coming out or been around awhile, everyone needs a sound board for advise and ideas.

as for mom...you made a new friend and you're hanging out...their day off is thursday. that will usually due in the beginning.
 
I was very aprehensive when I first went to a LGBT meeting but I didn't need to be they were very friendly and supportive. The excuse could be a social group from work / college, the friend sugested or whatever. (*8*)
 
Speaking of college . .are you in school? If so, it could be study group each week.
 
What are your other interests so we would have a good idea of what you can tell your mother and she will believe?
 
Say you've joined a club (pick one) and that they meet on Thursdays.

Also, if you don't feel your mom will have a bad reaction, you could just tell her and get it out in the open. But you did say you were going to mix and mingle and to have people to talk to when you eventually did come out, so...

Anywho.

But yeah, just go to the meeting. I would think that people who go know not to be rude or mean to new people and are welcoming and respectful.
 
"I need to help a friend dump a body."



I wish I had maybe a little more coming out support, but my straight friends were SO supportive.
 
I have met 6 guys since last christmas and every time I met a guy, I would tell my mom that I'm goign to hang out with my friend. I never told said who they were. She never really asked who. I wouldn't tell her where I was going. All she ever really wanted me to do was just be careful and don't do anything bad.

I still lie to her, today...
 
My mom may already suspect of me, btu as long as she doesn't mention anyhign about it to me, I'm fine. If anyone in my family were to confront me about anything gay, I would flip...

What I mean was that your mom might start to suspect of you depending on what you tell her. If you really want to do this without having to lie and build tention, then you should just tell her that you are a grown man and she doesn't really need to know. Just tell her you wil be fine, stay safe, and be home soon.

Don't do what I do because I have built up too much tention already
 
Jareth_C64 said:
Hi all,

I've decided from next week I'm going to start going to a gay support group in a town not far from me which holds meetings/events every Thursday. I'm going there to make some gay friends so when I come out I'll have people to talk to about it etc... especially if I get a negative reaction. And I think it would be good for me to mix with gay people.

But the problem is I live with my mother and even though I'm old enough to do as I please I know she'll ask where I'm going (not just to be nosey, but just being friendly) each week and if I don't tell her she'd find it odd and get annoyed. Any idea of where I could pretend I'm going as it would be the same time each week?

Also, I'm quite nervous about going the first time. !oops! It's a big step for me and one I know I have to take, but I'm still a bit scared for some reason... being the new guy and all. Your experiences in gay groups (especially first times) would be nice.

Thanks!
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Go to the gym, then head to the meetings. Tell her you're going to be at the gym.
 
book club...bowling, angry management course....the sky is the limit if you use your imagination my friend! :)


course you could go the secret agent way.....I could tell you mom...but then I'd have to kill you! (Just joking!) I'm excited as hell for the new bond movie! anyways good luck!
 
I think the best way to approach this would be to tell your mom the truth, that way, you don't have to "remember" lies you've told her. But, you can be "creative" with the truth. Tell her that you're joining a group of friends for an evening out, and that it might be a regular occurance. But be calm and collected when you tell her, don't look nervous or anything, cause then she'll want to delve deeper!

But, most of all, enjoy!!! (!)
 
Yes, don't lie, just don't tell the whole truth. The amount of difficulties caused by getting caught out in a lie... not worth it. However, you can't get caught out in a half-truth, since there's no lies for anyone to disprove. To be honest, she could well be suspicious if you lie as well, since it's quite easy to get really specific when you lie, which comes across as unusual.
 
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