Where do you lie??

[operafan]

I'd say a five to meet me and a six as soon as I open my mouth and talk. I've got that gay-speak thing going.

 

[The_Reaper]

Probably a 5....

There are times, when I don't know why...Usually under the influence of alcohol, that I am prone to heavy speaking with my hands, bursting into showtunes, and talking slightly in a higher pitch than normal.

Of course, I am quite the hand talker when sober...And do raise in pitch if I talk rapidly...

 

[Swellegant]

I'm not flamboyant, per se... in fact, most of the time you would be unlikely to even notice me unless you were looking for someone to reach something down off a high shelf. Or if I was in your way. I like to camouflage myself for day-to-day life, it makes it easier to watch people without them realizing they're being watched.

But I am also not in any way macho... I loathe the outdoors and don't understand sports and can't imagine driving a truck. My only truly typical male qualities are that I refuse to ask directions and I have to hold the remote when I'm watching TV.

I'm not exactly middle-of-the-road, either, since once I get warmed up, my hands swoop around a bit; and if I'm going somewhere in the evening I might put on a ring and a necklace, maybe even a bracelet. I've even been known to put styling products in my hair! De-Gasp! And I read Vogue every month, and I love shopping.

So I guess I'm an effeminate man, but not particularly flamboyant about it. So I'll say seven. Nice middle-of-the-upper-half number.

 

[Leidian]

If I don't know you, probably a 4.

If I do know you and am comfortable being around you, I may slip to a 6.

I don't usually think of myself as macho or effeminate, just me!

 

[dkonfrost]

2 or 3, methinks

 

[Corkles]

If 10 is the highest,I'm prolly a 6 or 7...and I'm guessing that high cause I actually like breasts....

 

[Lube]

I just want to know whether you guys are flamboyant or not. I wasnt trying to start a discussion on straight acting. Are you girly or not. Its a simple question I would say i am a 3 I don't play sports cause i never was into them but at the same time i don't carry myself in the flamoyant manner. Liking men has nothing to do with this scale. Im not asking you if your gay or straight im askingy ou how you carry yourself. You can carry yourself in a macho manner but like dick and vise versa. I gues the term straight acting is a touchy subject so i guess ma cho is what ill use. I know macho doesnt make you a man. I understand lables are dumb.

But see that's the thing: What is flamboyant?

I dated a guy who considers himself probably a 1 or 2. He's very macho looking. But, man, as soon as he opens his mouth, it screams I'm gay! Everything from the way he stretches out his vowels to the subjects he talks about (if it's not Kenneth Cole or Calvin Klein, he's not interested). His urban, high-rise apartment could come out of any hip gay magazine. (He was very offended when I said his apartment looked gay.) If you talk to him for more than 5 seconds, you know that's he's homosexual.

OTOH, I'm currently dating a guy who's thin as a rail. You might not know he's gay right away, but you could figure it out after meeting him a few times. He can be over the top sometimes. His apartment, while nice, doesn't scream 'gay' to me.

So who's more flamboyant? Who's gayer? It's hard to say.

Then there's me. My skinny date thinks I'm the most macho guy around. My butch-looking date thinks I'm a nelly. I'm a little of both.

In a nutshell, guys who think they're 'butch' are generally looking at their physique, but are discounting their mannerisms. People (myself included) often don't notice how nelly some of their mannerisms are.

 

[landers]

5 I'd say. I like lots of things that would make me a metrosexual, so that's about as gay as I seem.

 

[tommyj]

2 or 3 for sure

 

[seven_sins]

Maybe a 4 for me.